She’s probably the character I played that I had the most in common with
Contempt for others leads to immolation of the self
Kids point out stuff like that all the time. I believe it
I understand this sounds like a lie but my 9yo pointed out that since all species share a single common ancestor the egg definitionally came before the chicken and it blew my fucking mind
Bring it back
and take Elon Musk with you
Recognizing that not all criticisms are equally valid or need to be addressed has been a huge growth point for me
I have been reading stories about supposed trump voters and podcasters expressing regret since before Charlottesville, stop giving them oxygen you absolutely rubes
Hot take: if you can't cook well with tofu, you can't cook well.
Because tofu is a blank canvas. It does what you tell it to.
If you have the basics down—deep frying, searing, sauces, seasonings, etc.—you can make good tofu. If your tofu dishes suck... well.
If you've ever wondered how Hitler could have invaded Russia, now you know.
Yes! Yes! Yes!
That IS what I was thinking
"I'm just saying what everyone else is thinking!"
my follow-up after saying we should ditch work to watch Dazed and Confused
But also ... it's bizarre to assume that everyone shares your same inner monologue?
fundamentally a big part of growing up is realizing there’s nothing special about being an asshole
it doesn’t make you superior, it just makes people not want to spend time around you because you suck
Literally among the worst of all war crimes, and he's just saying it high on something
oh hey it's me. i have hyperempathy
but i'd like to note that you don't have to have "empathy" as commonly understood* to not want to be mean and hurt people. empathy is not the source of ethics.
*most people think empathy means "caring about others," that's not what it means at all
Absolutely. I see this happen all the time.
Yeah, and that’s what’s important.
if folks want to see the research studies I've commented on about things like this, if you search
from:audhd-psychnp.com #AutRes
can pull up most of the research I've commented on over the years
I'm sure I failed to tag some stuff
but yeah, this subject matter is why I'm on bluesky basically
I definitely played up being funny, too. I don’t think I’m on the spectrum, but I definitely had other stuff going on, and joking was how I got through it.
I personally love when I meet people like that, because I’ve never really seen a need to respect authority just because they’re authority.
Like, I do think we should show respect to somebody when they know things that we do not know, or when they are trying to help us, but otherwise? Why bother?
This is really interesting! I’ve definitely met some people on the spectrum who do have hyperempathy.
But I’ve also met some who don’t. It really depends, and as somebody else said, people on the spectrum are not a monolith. They are as varied as any Neurotypical people.
Yeah, absolutely. Like they say, “If you’ve met one person on the spectrum, you’ve met one person on the spectrum.” Everybody is completely different.
This has been my experience with some autistic people, but it is definitely not true of all I know.
It's also revealing that person's mindset. You're not saying "what everyone's thinking." It's what *you* think everyone else thinks.
It's why hateful people are so shocked when others don't back up their awfulness.
Worst of all are the people who try and make a *virtue* of not trying
I don’t think I’m a naturally nice person. I think I can be kind and compassionate, and I’m pretty extroverted, but being polite and nice to everybody can be really hard for me.
But I fucking try at it. And I have no patience for people who don’t try.
