Meg Pillow

As someone who grew up surrounded by this, 100 percent. These ppl are the most colossal unfunny bullies you’ll ever meet. Their only concept of humor is something that makes someone else the butt of a joke or that makes someone else feel bad about themselves

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I have two meal slots open in the Trans Emergency Meal Fund. Know a hungry trans person?

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Before the Gaza war, our lives were simple but stable
Today everything has changed. We are starving, with no monthly income to survive 😢💔
The war took everything from us and left only pain and hunger.
Please share your kindness could help a family fighting to stay alive 💔

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Could we do a thread of our favorite holiday cookie recipes? I never have enough ppl nearby IRL to do a cookie exchange, so this is the best I can do. I offer my favorite: coconut cranberry chews from Sunset Magazine, a hit every time. And they make 6 DOZEN:

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I am embarrassed to have an opinion about what a director I’ve only seen I think 3 movies by said on a podcast but every time I’ve ever seen Matthew Lillard in a movie I’ve enjoyed it; giving props to work you like rules over being catty and rude, & people who think catty and rude is good are bores

Free advice: if you find Quentin Tarantino bashing you in the press… repeat after me.

“I was unaware that Harvey Weinstein’s best friend was so critical of me and my work.”

Please check in on the people you care about. Cannot stress this enough, as our nation continues to descend into fascism, and particularly as mental health and other health and social services continue to be eliminated under Project 2025.

Please prioritize this.

If anyone could please help me and my family get through the holidays, I will be thankful for the rest of my life. My mother is on the penultimate stages of liver and kidney disease and I am the only one in my family who can work. Please! ♡ thank you!

It’s Friday night so you can find me at the CLUB... the Couch Lingering Upon Books.

It’s Friday night so you can find me at the CLUB... the Couch Lingering Upon Books.

YES

It absolutely is not. As as an AuDHD mom, it’s my job to deal
with my feelings and help my kids deal with theirs! Hard as hell, but yeah, I’m not taking it out on them

Just a reminder that it’s meltdowns season, and kids aren’t trying to spoil your holiday shopping. Everything is loud and bright and they have just had it. So have many of us moms, btw. The holidays are when I go for a drive sometimes just so I can scream as loud as I can without scaring anyone

Also people who think kids are bad if they cannot behave in public have never had a disabled child with sensory and emotional regulation challenges and it shows. They aren’t badly behaved. They’re overwhelmed and overstimulated. Sometimes that happens to all of us

I am NOT saying every well-behaved child is abused. I’m saying the standards for public behavior are sometimes unachievable for adults, much less kids. We need to have more compassion for ppl who are having a moment and having a difficult time, no matter who they are

Unpopular perhaps but if you are expecting children to “behave”‘in public you’re expecting kids to be cowed into submission and making no room for kids to be human beings who are still learning.

I was always the best behaved child in public. That was because I was being abused in private

All we have is each other ❤️

As a leftist Kentuckian who has heard the same thing during times of hardship, I am sending you so much solidarity and support. And if you need anything leading up to the holidays or need mutual aid for your community boosted, just let me know 🫶🏻

Friendship is a privilege. Making it more transactional so you can win the next election is actually a very bad idea. Keep trusted ppl close and ppl who don’t share your values at arm’s length, but fight for everyone. Respect your own safety while working for the safety of all ppl

The empathy problem is not solved by trying to befriend your cranky neighbor or your MAGA aunt. You don’t have to lure them into believing in your humanity. You just have to be willing to fight for justice and to demonstrate kindness while respecting your own boundaries.

You do not need to be friends with ppl to advocate for their safety and their needs to be met. And it’s actually a problem that we think we have to like ppl or be liked by them in order to fight for their rights!

You can actively dislike someone and still want them to be safe and cared for!

There’s a reel going around about how we need to be friends with more ppl in order to change the world, and I strongly disagree. Friendship requires trust, shared values, and vulnerability.

What we actually need is the ability to be in community with ppl we don’t like

I’m so sorry you experienced that. And I agree with you completely!

Also: sleep deprivation contributed to me making some very bad decisions during that time. I have a lot of shame surrounding that time, but it’s important to be honest about how much it fucks you up. I’m very lucky I got free of some of those bad decisions so they didn’t ruin my life.

All this tells me about Washington is that our public officials are either high on ketamine/coke/their own supply, dangerously sleep deprived, or just plain evil, and that does not instill confidence!

Sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture. Ppl who aren’t sleeping enough are not okay, and I say this as someone who knows twofold, having also survived the 4th trimester with two infants, once during my quals year (also slept about 3 hrs/night then). This is not something to brag about

When I was finishing my PhD with two young kids and going through a divorce, I was sleeping on average 3 hours a night. I thought I was fine. I was actually teetering on the edge of severe burnout, which hit hard after I defended. If I had kept it up, I think it would have triggered psychosis

What a dream!

And finally:

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Nobody else may notice this, but I did, and I’m not just going to delete it and pretend it didn’t happen. I too am not prone to ableist language sometimes. The point is to take accountability for it

FYI I just caught my own mistake. “Chromosomal abnormality” is medicalized jargon, and yes, we all internalize it. I should have said chromosomal difference. Normality is a myth, a social construction intended to force conformity. None of us, me included, should reinforce that myth