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@scretladyspider.bsky.social

queer. disabled. nonbinary. demi/gray ace. ADHD. used to write about demisexuality. scretladyspider on X and๐Ÿงตs and all the other things. she/they. support: cA/v: secretladyspider

2,492 Followers  |  722 Following  |  3,460 Posts  |  Joined: 03.07.2023  |  2.2082

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Hey y'all. Long story short, my girlfriend got drugged by her abuser and I spent all of my savings for our upcoming move on getting her to safety and feeding us both while I was taking care of her and not working. If anybody can help me it would be greatly appreciated

$twitchyvengeance

#mutualaid

04.06.2025 22:51 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 7    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 6

(Using this post for paylinks.) Cassie's 14 y.o. son just died. Already disabled/chronically ill. Already in financial issues from helping others & no PTO for herself. Now this. Any combo ppl x $$ = $5000 for final expenses etc til she can work again.

Pls RS/QS & do what you can. #HelpFolksLive2025

21.11.2025 14:25 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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two men are standing in front of a lighthouse ALT: two men are standing in front of a lighthouse

The Lighthouse

21.11.2025 14:29 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

every time I see โ€œwomen and nonbinaryโ€ I sink a little deeper into the void of cringe that exists at the center of every humanโ€™s soul๏ฟผ

21.11.2025 14:28 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 3    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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a man in a colorful shirt says ohhhh okayyy ALT: a man in a colorful shirt says ohhhh okayyy

Trump:

21.11.2025 14:28 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’ธ

21.11.2025 02:07 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

and it isnโ€™t going well

21.11.2025 14:27 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

You too. ๐Ÿฉท

21.11.2025 14:26 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

It sucks so much!! Iโ€™ve been struggling with that too, weird.

21.11.2025 01:47 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

20.11.2025 23:34 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 13321    ๐Ÿ” 2133    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1536    ๐Ÿ“Œ 688

Hello friends, still working on getting paid for my hours lost to injury

20.11.2025 21:18 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 10    ๐Ÿ” 37    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1

"I did not know, before that woman told me, that all feelings were for feeling. I did not know that I was supposed to feel everything. I thought I was supposed to feel happy. I thought that happy was for feeling and that pain was for fixing and numbing and deflecting and hiding and ignoring."

21.11.2025 01:08 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 20    ๐Ÿ” 11    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 2

If you use GMail, AI (Gemini) was turned on yesterday by default and now scans all of your content for machine learning. To turn off, go to Settings>General and scroll down. Uncheck the box for "Smart features."

There's other "Smart" add-ons as well, but that's the one that reads your content.

20.11.2025 17:32 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 9867    ๐Ÿ” 7606    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 311    ๐Ÿ“Œ 756

I havenโ€™t looked at what insurance will be next year yet because I cant deal with that level of stress shutting my body down against my will. and that can happen my body literally does that and I donโ€™t have a solution that works beyond โ€œwait it out and try to feel somethingโ€.

21.11.2025 01:43 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

it can be overwhelming HOW beautiful existence is but dang does it feel nice to resonate in that space when youre lucky enough to catch hold of it. when you randomly touch the current behind everything. you KNOW its back there but all you get is glimpses when you notice the way light shines on water

21.11.2025 01:08 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 398    ๐Ÿ” 52    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

feels like the sort of thing you shouldnโ€™t have to clarify

21.11.2025 01:40 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Over a blue background, white capitalized text reads โ€œWe must fight for Trans survival, Trans joy, and Trans community.โ€ Above the text is a white geometric shape made up of circles, semicircles, and quarter circles, and pink geometric line shapes. Below the text is the white Disability Culture Lab logo, and below the logo are the pink and white shapes but with the pink shapes first on the left, and then the white shape. In the bottom right corner is the page number โ€œ1.โ€

Over a blue background, white capitalized text reads โ€œWe must fight for Trans survival, Trans joy, and Trans community.โ€ Above the text is a white geometric shape made up of circles, semicircles, and quarter circles, and pink geometric line shapes. Below the text is the white Disability Culture Lab logo, and below the logo are the pink and white shapes but with the pink shapes first on the left, and then the white shape. In the bottom right corner is the page number โ€œ1.โ€

Over a blue background, there is a top and bottom border made up of white and pink geometric shapes. Underneath the top border, the header reads โ€œGive Them Their Flowersโ€ with a chevron shape pointing to the header text. Below is the Advocates for Trans Equality logo, and the subheader reads โ€œAdvocates for Trans Equality: Trans Remembrance Projectโ€ in yellow. Underneath is the link to the project at TransRemembrance.org. The description text reads โ€œVisit TransRemembrance.org to submit stories about Trans people who have passed, and to honor Trans lives lost.โ€ Below the text is the white Disability Culture Lab logo, and then the bottom border. In the bottom right corner, the center of the white geometric shape that is part of the border has the page number โ€œ2.โ€

Over a blue background, there is a top and bottom border made up of white and pink geometric shapes. Underneath the top border, the header reads โ€œGive Them Their Flowersโ€ with a chevron shape pointing to the header text. Below is the Advocates for Trans Equality logo, and the subheader reads โ€œAdvocates for Trans Equality: Trans Remembrance Projectโ€ in yellow. Underneath is the link to the project at TransRemembrance.org. The description text reads โ€œVisit TransRemembrance.org to submit stories about Trans people who have passed, and to honor Trans lives lost.โ€ Below the text is the white Disability Culture Lab logo, and then the bottom border. In the bottom right corner, the center of the white geometric shape that is part of the border has the page number โ€œ2.โ€

Over a blue background, there is a top and bottom border made up of white and pink geometric shapes. Underneath the top border, the header reads โ€œHelp Trans People Thriveโ€ with a chevron shape pointing to the header text. Below is the โ€œFOR THE GWORLSโ€ logo for โ€œFundraisers for Black Trans people,โ€ and the website โ€œForTheGworls.comโ€ Next is the โ€œThe Okra Projectโ€ logo for โ€œMutual aid for Black Trans people,โ€ and the username โ€œ@TheOkraProject.bsky.social.โ€ Lastly is the โ€œTrans Lifelineโ€ logo for โ€œPeer support & [a] crisis hotline,โ€ and the username โ€œ@TransLifeline.org.โ€ Below the text is the white Disability Culture Lab logo, and then the bottom border. In the bottom right corner, the center of the white geometric shape that is part of the border has the page number โ€œ3.โ€

Over a blue background, there is a top and bottom border made up of white and pink geometric shapes. Underneath the top border, the header reads โ€œHelp Trans People Thriveโ€ with a chevron shape pointing to the header text. Below is the โ€œFOR THE GWORLSโ€ logo for โ€œFundraisers for Black Trans people,โ€ and the website โ€œForTheGworls.comโ€ Next is the โ€œThe Okra Projectโ€ logo for โ€œMutual aid for Black Trans people,โ€ and the username โ€œ@TheOkraProject.bsky.social.โ€ Lastly is the โ€œTrans Lifelineโ€ logo for โ€œPeer support & [a] crisis hotline,โ€ and the username โ€œ@TransLifeline.org.โ€ Below the text is the white Disability Culture Lab logo, and then the bottom border. In the bottom right corner, the center of the white geometric shape that is part of the border has the page number โ€œ3.โ€

Today, we call attention to the deep harm done to the Disabled Trans community every day, as well as the strength of Trans resilience. We must fight for Trans survival, Trans joy, and Trans community. Fight for the Trans people in your community, and donate to Trans people and organizations!

20.11.2025 21:12 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 6    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1
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Timeline Cleanse.
Dogs reacting to magic tricks. ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฃ

20.11.2025 23:33 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 387    ๐Ÿ” 103    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 12    ๐Ÿ“Œ 6

happy trans day of remembrance. you are beautifully and wonderfully made and I will never stop fighting for you. the world is better because you are in it

20.11.2025 23:54 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1572    ๐Ÿ” 383    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 12    ๐Ÿ“Œ 6

hi there! Could I ask you for a 10 second favor? Could you please interact with my pinned? Surely would mean a lot of you did. my body literally canโ€™t take homelessness again as it is I am STRUGGLING soโ€ฆ yea, it would mean a lot. ok goodbye thank you so much have a great day๐Ÿฉท๐Ÿฉท

21.11.2025 01:32 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 4    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Not much to say about Trans Day of Remembrance anymore besides โ€œtry loving and celebrating us while we are aliveโ€

20.11.2025 14:10 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4730    ๐Ÿ” 2032    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 10    ๐Ÿ“Œ 18
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20.11.2025 22:21 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 74    ๐Ÿ” 24    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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scretladyspiderโ€™s support links a list of direct support links for those looking to support Elle Rose, AKA scretladyspider.

๐ŸŒˆlinks:

๐Ÿฉตcarrd: supportscretladyspider.carrd.co
๐Ÿ’švenmo: venmo.com/u/secretlady...
๐Ÿ’›cashapp: cash.app/$secretladys...
๐Ÿงกeverything: linktr.ee/secretladysp...
๐Ÿฉทko-fi: ko-fi.com/scretladyspi...

again, anything helps. literally anything.
thank you for caring about folks like me.

20.11.2025 22:22 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
In the background, a photo of a woman, somewhat blurred. Text reads: "Hello. I'm Elle. I'm queer, nonbinary, ace who is currently unable to work due to disability, denied assistance (SNAPISSDI). I need to ask your help. It's Thursday, November 20th. I need $2,335 by November 30th to stay housed and cover necessities. please, even $1 helps. Shares help too. I've been homeless once before. My body can't take that trauma again. Anything helps. Thank you." Below is payment information for people who want to help: venmo is secret lady spider; cash app is secret lady spider; Pay pal is secret lady spider at g mail dot com; ko fi is ko dash fi dot com forward slash s cretlady s pid er dot com. Each "secret lady spider" is always all one word, no capital letters, no spaces.

In the background, a photo of a woman, somewhat blurred. Text reads: "Hello. I'm Elle. I'm queer, nonbinary, ace who is currently unable to work due to disability, denied assistance (SNAPISSDI). I need to ask your help. It's Thursday, November 20th. I need $2,335 by November 30th to stay housed and cover necessities. please, even $1 helps. Shares help too. I've been homeless once before. My body can't take that trauma again. Anything helps. Thank you." Below is payment information for people who want to help: venmo is secret lady spider; cash app is secret lady spider; Pay pal is secret lady spider at g mail dot com; ko fi is ko dash fi dot com forward slash s cretlady s pid er dot com. Each "secret lady spider" is always all one word, no capital letters, no spaces.

donโ€™t scroll!๐Ÿงกqueer, nonbinary, ace; I need to raise $2,335 by 11/30 to stay housed & cover necessities.

Please share; anything helps. last post got 1.6k views, 1 donation. Iโ€™m just trying to make it one day to the next.๐Ÿ’› #MARequest

v/c: secretladyspider
pp: secretladyspider@gmail.com

20.11.2025 22:22 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 3    ๐Ÿ” 9    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1
queerautism - I think we don't speak enough about how, when you're chronically ill, a bad doctors appointment can genuinely make you so hopeless and suicidal. I have come out of some of them sobbing, with the terrible weight of the indifference of the medical system on my shoulders, knowing in my bones that no one wants to help. It takes unimaginable strength to pick yourself back up from that, and try again And again And again For years.

queerautism - I think we don't speak enough about how, when you're chronically ill, a bad doctors appointment can genuinely make you so hopeless and suicidal. I have come out of some of them sobbing, with the terrible weight of the indifference of the medical system on my shoulders, knowing in my bones that no one wants to help. It takes unimaginable strength to pick yourself back up from that, and try again And again And again For years.

20.11.2025 16:25 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 269    ๐Ÿ” 64    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 14    ๐Ÿ“Œ 6
MOURN THE DEAD, FIGHT LIKE HELL FOR THE LIVING
TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE
THIS IS WHY WE'RE SO FUCKING ANGRY

MOURN THE DEAD, FIGHT LIKE HELL FOR THE LIVING TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE THIS IS WHY WE'RE SO FUCKING ANGRY

Today is Trans Day Of Remembrance

#TransLivesMatter #TDoR #TDoR2025 #TransDayOfRemembrance #TransAwarenessWeek #SayTheirNames

*** Trigger warning for the following thread: Violence against trans people (especially TWOC) * * *

20.11.2025 06:58 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2787    ๐Ÿ” 1267    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 23    ๐Ÿ“Œ 46
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Donate to Disabled Vet & Family Need Help After Job Loss, organized by Prakash Upadhyayula My name is Prakash (aka KP), and I am a disabled veteran doing my bโ€ฆ Prakash Upadhyayula needs your support for Disabled Vet & Family Need Help After Job Loss

So....after much deliberation and encouragement from loved ones, I've put together a GoFundMe after facing several financial burdens and medical debts...

Any help or sharing would really go a long way...

Thank you so much.

gofund.me/5bfe73dd9

19.11.2025 01:54 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 173    ๐Ÿ” 191    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 4    ๐Ÿ“Œ 17
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Support AnthonyJKenn โค๏ธ Support AnthonyJKenn on Ko-fi While He Resolves His Disability Leave Situation

Still $0/$1,600.

$400 needed RIGHT NOW for rent due Friday morning; $1,300 more ASAP for end-of-Nov/Thanksgiving critical bills + food. Please help! ๐Ÿ’ธ๐Ÿ’•

ko-fi.com/anthonyjkenn...
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19.11.2025 02:34 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 7    ๐Ÿ” 14    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1
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Buy Qat a Coffee Become a supporter of Qat today!

Qat's November crowdfund

#BlackDisabilitySky #donate #helpBlackMaGes #helpsky #supportBlackwomen ๐Ÿงฟ๐Ÿชฌ
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03.11.2025 19:54 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 124    ๐Ÿ” 158    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 3    ๐Ÿ“Œ 117

Putting out the hat again to get through this week as I try to navigate workman's comp over my lost wages from my back injury. Yay. If you help me out, I'll share more of my art. And buy cat litter.

18.11.2025 13:02 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 6    ๐Ÿ” 21    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1

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