Monique Höber

The path teaches if you let it.

#SlowDown #NatureAsTeacher #FindYourRhythm

Where the world turns sharp, I want to remain soft. With quiet courage and a heart open, luminous and alive.

Stop rushing. If I try to resolve the pain forcefully, I predict a specific outcome. I create the only outcome, I can think of; deprive myself of million other outcomes that I can’t even imagine. I try not to get in the way and allow my body to do what it needs to do. Embrace the chaos. 🌿

Some people only see you in the role that is safe for them. Not as a human being.

Even if you can’t return to the place you once called happiness, you can still walk toward a new beginning - where your heart remembers how to beat again

#Photography #Art #NewBeginnings #FindingPeace #PathForward #NatureWalks #TrustTheJourney #SoulfulSteps #QuietRoads #LetGoAndGrow #KeepWalking

“The landscape affects the human psyche - the soul, the body and the innermost contemplations - like music. Every time you feel nature deeper you resonate better with her, finding new elements of balance and freedom.”

~ Nikos Kazantzakis (1883-1957)

#Photography by David Arnold.

„Without suffering, there’s no happinesses. So we shouldn’t discriminate against the mud. We have to learn how to embrace and cradle our own suffering and the suffering of the world, with a lot of tenderness“ Thích Nhât Hanh - No Mud, No Lotus 🪷

„Breathing in, I‘m aware of the painful feeling in me. Breathing out, I‘m aware of the painful feeling in me.“ This is an art. We have to learn it, because most of us don’t like to be with our pain. We’re afraid of being overwhelmed by the pain, so we always seek to run away from it (1/2)

Some people who survived hell carry buckets of water for those who are still consumed by the fire - not always enough to end the flames, but enough to soothe the pain, to remind you you’re not alone. They sit beside you, through the heat and the hurt, not to erase the fire, but to face it with you.

Not every ending needs thunder.
Not every change needs echo.
Some truths unfold in hush
like morning light returning to the trees.

You don’t need to break the silence or set fire to the past to be free. You can simply step back - from what no longer fits. Quiet, like the mist lifting. Soft, like moss beneath bare feet. True, like breath when you let yourself feel. Change can be silent. It can be dignified.

To carry softness in a sharp world is not a flaw. It‘s a quiet kind of rebellion. A sacred act of staying human. And some hearts are built of longing - not because they are empty, but because they still believe in something more. Even in silence, they keep singing.

Don’t compare the steps you take to somebody else‘s. A success is a success and rest is a step, too.

#health #mentalhealth #selfcompassion

📣 #Infighting is a major obstacle to progressive groups and movements. When members fight each other, they lose focus and waste time, money, and resources.

Ending infighting is critical to our ability to create a more just and compassionate world. ❤️

Visit infighting.org to learn more.

I hope you never dim your light to comfort those who make your healing about themselves #healing #mentalhealthmatters #unconditionallove

We don't traumatize others by our mistakes.

We traumatize them when we disappear after making them.

Stay Present.

#trauma #presence

thank you so much 🩶

she makes sure that I don’t! She’s an absolute menace to society. A shark in disguise. 🦈

(2/2) that's one hell of a to-do list. And still, somehow, you keep going. You keep showing up. You keep growing.
That’s not weakness. That’s resilience. That’s strength. That’s courage.
#growth #trauma #resilience #mentalhealth #therapy

Becoming a therapist
- while healing your own childhood wounds
- while holding space for others, while learning the techniques
- while facing your own insecurities
- while practicing what you preach
- while not letting your doubts cancel out great things you’ve already achieved (1/2)

Shifting our attention to who we are today instead of focusing on what we *should* be, what we *should* have been already - we might find a supportive and patient friend. Or at least we might listen a little less to those who make us feel like we’re not doing enough already #patience #development

A pearl from a client today.

"I only remember the feeling my parents gave me - not what they said."

So what if we stopped talking,
And started thinking about
the feeling we want our kids to carry for life?

(3/3) We think we need to struggle now so that we will be happy in the future. So we postpone happiness and try to run into the future and attain the conditions of happiness that we don’t have now.“
#thichnhathanh #NoMudNoLotus #consciousawareness #trueaspiration #buddhism

„Many of us slog through life without conscious awareness or intention. We set ourselves a course and we barrel ahead, without stopping to ask whether this path is fulfilling our most important goals. That’s partly because many of us believe that happiness is not possible in the here and now.(2/3)

People often get irritated when your biography deviates from the straight line, the norm, the „this is how it’s supposed to go“. When it happens, I like to take a deep breath, greet the insecurities this might evoke in me like an old friend and think about this (see comment)(1/3)

(2/2) The suffering of each of us affects others. The more we learn about the art of suffering well, the less suffering there will be in the world." (No Mud, No Lotus)
#thichnhathanh #buddhism #engagedbuddhism #zen

"There are many people who have enormous suffering, and don’t know how to handle it. For many people, it starts already at a very young age. So, why don’t schools teach our young people the way to manage suffering? If a student is very unhappy, they can‘t concentrate and they can’t learn. (1/2)

„When we are free [from thinking, anxiety, fear, and striving], we can answer the call of the Earth. „I‘m here. I‘m a child of yours.“ We recognize that we are part of the wonder. And we can say, "I‘m free: free from everything that is preventing me from being fully alive." - Thich Nhat Hanh

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Read it at bit.ly/PTHighlyRelationalPerson. 🔗

Do you think you’re an HRP? Let me know! ⬇️