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Divorce recovery leader for 20+ years in Christian churches. Yes, you can find joy again. For those who need a life-saving divorce to save their life & sanity. Author "The Life-Saving Divorce" http://amzn.to/3CCBsnr @GGBaskerville www.lifesavingdivorce.com
To see her own story and more insights on emotional abuse that she left out of her Focus on the Family interview, go here: youtu.be/b9VkxFe9XkQ?...
Why marriage counseling "never quite works" when there's a pattern of control. Karen DeArmond Gardner on emotional abuse. 1/2
Why marriage counseling "never quite works." Karen DeArmond Gardner on emotional abuse.
If you have kids and you’ve remarried, don’t pressure your new spouse to parent like you right away. I found this vital when I remarried, even though my kids were over 18. Trust comes before correction. lifesavingdivorce.com/new-steppare...
#Stepfamily
Looking for the best stepparent book? I recommend Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships by Patricia Papernow. Real life is not always Brady Bunch easy. More here: lifesavingdivorce.com/new-steppare...
The myth that divorce equals misery? Busted! 🚫🔍
75% of divorced individuals find happiness again. It’s time to rethink the narrative and celebrate resilience. 💪
Link to the data: buff.ly/JhN46iZ
#LifesavingDivorce #HopeAfterDivorce
When your Christian friend doubts your abuse, it can hurt almost as deeply as the abuse itself. 💔
If a Christian friend has ever minimized, spiritualized, or dismissed what you've been through — you are not alone, and you are not required to prove your pain.
Latest blog post:
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Exposing the myth: 'The devil will exaggerate your mate's failures' is NOT a Bible verse. Let's dive into how it wrongly shifts blame onto the wounded spouse instead of addressing real betrayal.
#NotInTheBible #LifeSavingDivorce #BiblicalTruth
God can change anyone. But “God can” isn’t “God must.” God doesn't override another person's free will. Freedom didn’t mean less faith—it meant clearer faith. Read her story: lifesavingdivorce.com/one-womans-s...
She prayed. Submitted. Forgave repeated adultery. He left—and came back just enough to keep her hoping. That’s not weak faith. That’s trauma bonding + spiritual pressure. “God can heal” slowly became “God will, if I pray right.”
If you’re asking, “How can I save my marriage?” or “How can I get my husband back?” you are not foolish. You are loyal. You love God and want restoration. But what if you’re carrying a burden that was never yours to carry? 🧵
You're welcome. This is such an important topic for people who've risked so much to stay with someone who says they have change.
When an abusive spouse says “I’ve changed,” look for 3 things: full responsibility, real empathy, and consistency over time—not gifts or pressure.
Plus: how to respond to critics who push reconciliation.
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#lifesavingdivorce #divorcecoach #christiancounseling
Thank you so much. And I appreciate your standing for the dignity of singles in the faith.
Child Custody Basics Ep 9: Why Parenting Style Conflicts Can Cost Parents Custody
A clip from my interview with Sarah McDugal of @freedomnavigators
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#CustodyChallenges
EXPLAINER about Dr. James Dobson's article. Why was *this* article useful to Jeffrey Epstein? I don't think Dobson intended it to be used this way, but I think we can see why it was.
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Divorce isn’t a sign you’re weak. It may be a sign you’re strong.
Strong enough to tell the truth.
Strong enough to choose safety.
Strong enough to trust God with what comes next.
Divorce isn’t always a failure of faith. Sometimes it’s faith getting real.
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Custody Evaluation Rules No One Explains (Part 3 of 3)
Child Custody Basics, EPISODE 7
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#Epstein #EpsteinFiles
Feeling alone this Valentine's Day? Know that it's just a chapter, not your whole story. Finding your voice and courage can lead to incredible growth! You're not alone in this journey. 🌟 #ValentinesDay2026 #Courage #NewBeginnings
The #GreaterThan campaign sounds pro-child—but many people feel an unease they can’t name. This piece explains why: it ignores real harm, loss, and safety, and elevates ideology over children’s actual safety.
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Many people wonder why Epstein would recommend James Dobson to a victim. Epstein isn’t just suggesting inspirational reading. He’s actively redirecting a victim’s moral compass away from self-protection.
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This is uncomfortable. But it’s necessary.
What Family Court Actually Means By 'Good Parenting'
Child Custody Basics: Episode 4
Stay tuned, as I’ll be posting a new episode each day.
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#CustodyChallenges #LifeSavingDivorce
Child Custody Basics: Why the Court Evaluates the Safe Parent Too, Episode 2
Stay tuned, as I’ll be posting a new episode each day.
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#CustodyChallenges #LifeSavingDivorce #CustodyEvaluation
Child Custody Basics: Why the Court Evaluates the Safe Parent Too, Episode 1
Stay tuned, as I’ll be posting a new episode each day.
🎤 Watch the full video to learn more about navigating child custody: buff.ly/t1wJUQg
#CustodyChallenges #LifeSavingDivorce #CustodyEvaluation
The #GreaterThan campaign says “divorce hurts kids.” True—but incomplete. Children are often harmed most inside coercive, high-conflict, abusive homes long before divorce happens. Research matters.
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Christians should never minimize divorce. But we must not minimize abuse either. The question isn’t marriage vs. divorce—it’s safety vs. harm. Here’s what decades of research actually shows.
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Many survivors did see red flags—but who could have imagined how they’d escalate? Add church pressure, advice to “pray more,” fear of being seen as judgmental, and the myth that marriage fixes problems. It’s not your fault. 🎧 Audio summary included. lifesavingdivorce.com/abusive-marr...
DOJ Epstein files show Jeffrey Epstein directing a victim to read a James Dobson article. This post explains why that advice appealed to a predator—and why it still endangers victims today.
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What happens when a predator finds his playbook in evangelical counseling? DOJ files show Epstein recommending a James Dobson article to a victim. You need to read this.
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#ChurchToo #EpsteinFiles #LifeSavingDivorce