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And this is how I know that all these tech dudebros who want to live forever have never done any elder care

And the fact that all of those people are sleeping is of absolutely no even momentary concern. That does not cross the mind. Hunger is occurring, it cannot be solved without a demand for immediate attention.

To be clear there IS food available to her but she could no more make herself a bowl of cereal than an infant could solve the problem of their hunger. The only thing to do is to effectively get the attention of someone who CAN solve the problem.

I know I say this all the time but it's so striking how much people with dementia progress backward in age, basically. Today my grandmother woke my parents up at 645am complaining she was hungry and demanding food -- exactly the way an infant would wake you up crying over hunger.

It's not a spoiler because it's the whole plot of the story but this guy's wife has left him and the premise is he can get away with his family and friends and coworkers NOT KNOWING because if they don't go to his house how would they know? She's not on Insta posting about her new guy.

I am rereading Bright Lights Big City, which I was assigned in college and actually really loved. I am enjoying it the second time around but I am really struck in a way I wasn't 25 years ago by how disconnected everyone is. It's so easy for people not to be reached by others.

Exactly! Same!!

It's crazy how much AI is like the your worst coworker.

Doesn't do their job right, steals your shit, isn't funny, and in the end you still have to redo all their work and for some god knows what reason your boss loves them and never fires them.

One of the best things you can learn as an adult is finding out which cold medications make you feel better and which make you feel worse.

It is impossible to get a feel for a conversation when everything is collapsed together!!

Omgggggg yes the filters are always terrible and bad. Also I immediately set up a foldering system.

I am constantly missing messages because they're stuck in the thread and it's not obvious to me that it even came in. And then if I want to respond to an earlier message I'm so paranoid that won't work right!

It's so very true

The fact that every new email program seems to default to that conversation view that smushes all the emails into a single thread is proof to me that all human beings think very differently, because I can never make that view make any sense to my brain.

I agree, but it IS a sad example of tech getting worse. The decline of the algorithm is astonishingly painful and also stupid. It was so, so, so good in the beginning, and then it was deliberately degraded. I no longer use the algorithm, but I'm still sad about it.

A thing to look forward to about the end of summer in New England is that it's also the end of road construction season.

I am very glad this book is a favorite of Regency!Pete, I can totally see why he loves it, it's perfect for him.

I have finished this book! The love interest was the blandest of the bland but the rest of the book was highly entertaining. I loved it. Couldn't believe how well it all came together at the end and I actually didn't guess the final reveals at all.

I feel ridiculous saying this because I thought this old book would be pretty meek and mild but I find this haunted chateau legitimately creepy. When I read the book at night I freak myself out lol. I mean I'm easily scared but still it's unexpectedly impressive to me as I didn't expect much.

It definitely took a while to get going but I've ended up really loving it. None of the characters ended up being as ridiculous as I thought they were going to be at the beginning.

Whenever I read an old book and the descriptions of the setting go on for pages and pages, I am reminded that in a time before movies or even photographs, they really needed that much description. It's striking how much attention was paid to explaining how the sea looked, or the mountains.

I really didn't expect to enjoy it as much as I am but I kind of love it???

Okay. This Mysteries of Udolpho book. After many many long chapters where not much happened, suddenly EVERYTHING happened at once and I was like !!!! Just like the heroine was, and it was so well done I was like, yeah, that's why these books become enduring classics, just brilliant

I am two-thirds of the way through The Mysteries of Udolpho and this book is definitely a horror story, but the most terrifying part is how utterly powerless any of the female characters are in this society. The tradwife set should read this.

I actually started this book liking the heroine very much but now halfway through I wish she would do SOMETHING other than sit in her room and weep. But I bet she was considered remarkably spunky in 1794 or whenever.

The maids boyfriend has died and she is crying over him. The heroine, who has spent literally the past 500 pages weeping every few paragraphs for her lover she had to leave behind, is like, "chill, lady, people die, don't cry so much about it."

So far the smartest character in this book is the lady's maid but because she's a maid even the saintly heroine treats her condescendingly and I know the audience of the time would have approved but this modern reader is like SHE IS THE ONLY ONE SPEAKING SENSE.

The captions on this episode of Beachfront Bargain Hunt set in Rhode Island just cannot keep up. They already spelled Red Sox as red socks and now they just rendered quahogs as car hogs.

There are some bits of this book I am hmmm about but the portrayal of the heroine -- so automatically experiencing guilt and apologizing and having to convince herself later that she did nothing wrong -- resonates so strongly with me. I didn't think I'd find her so relatable.

(I thought I should read this book because Pete in the regency AU has a weakness for Gothic novels and I always have him reference it and I should probably know more about it lol)