Mistress Jadis Ives

The Medium is the Message

Kink has become homogenised AF

I came into this career & it was stigmatised AF. Certainly not 'edgy' & 'cool'. So many beige practitioners these days, like private school kids are attracted to this while I was marginalised my whole life for being in it 🖤

Read it & weep

I’ve been part of the BDSM community for 30 years now, and this post is on point. I’m fortunate in my circle of submissive, and in my friends and lovers, and I’ve had amazing, life-changing experiences in kink.
But I fear many of the things that I value about the BDSM community are - going away

Thank you 🙏

Thank you! 🙏

A fantastic piece about kink culture as a media influence, how it has worked itself into various subcultures, how it's presented in online spaces and how it can often be misrepresented & censored

As someone who loves the academic side of BDSM this is a fantastic read, highly recommend ⛓️

I love this post so much I read it twice. I recommend you do the same. I’ve been a prodom for just over 30 years and the changes in this industry and the acceptance of kink I’ve witnessed are massive.

I have so much to say on this subject that I don’t know where to begin.

#ChefsKiss

I know the feeling, this took me so long to put together precisely because I had so much to incorporate.

You won't have to look forward long. ✨

Oh don't you worry - IT is getting mentioned.

Kink, Subculture, Aesthetic, Authenticity and the Algorithm. - Mistress Jadis Kink is more than an aesthetic, the more it's packaged for mass appeal, the more it risks losing the transgressive energy that gives it life

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"We've arrived at a level of commodification that may have negated the concept of counterculture," William Gibson. Gibson could have been talking about kink; the more it's packaged for mass appeal, the more it risks losing the transgressive energy that gives it life. 🌶️Blog post incoming.

While it might seem that a lot of the most skilled Dommes are mind readers, most of us are simply paying attention.✨

If you tell me you'll bleed for me, don't be surprised if I pull out a knife.🗡️

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Punishments should suit both the “crime” and the slave involved. There’s no one-size-fits-all all with punishments and being creative in this regard can be VERY entertaining.

A Scene: A singular, contained kinky encounter. Often also referred to as "a session".
The Scene: a particular area of activity (in our case kink) and all the people or things connected with it.

Eora - you were a filthy rotten good time. Evil times with @msjadis.bsky.social has filled my heart with joy. Celebratory drinks were indeed had.

Heading into a busy week back in Melbourne so make your desires heard, little creatures.

It's been a blast but I'm sitting here with my fingers crossed that this fog doesn't cause my flight to be cancelled because I'm very much due some time on the farm!

TRYING to head home this morning after an extended visit to Sydney. Dungeon special ops, lots of catch-ups with peers and of course, a lot of fun play, including some very heavy scenes.

Essential slave skill: Learning to accept a “no” with grace and without resentment.

You're going to change and grow as you explore kink. Don't fence yourself in too tightly, in terms of your title or identity. Trying to fit a mold doesn't facilitate authentic expression.

It's Strap-on Sunday sluts! 🍆💦

Not every kinky idea that you enjoy is going to turn into an equally enjoyable reality. Some things may not work for you irl (or work at all irl) and some things may need to be tweaked to translate. Don't be afraid to experiment.

This is why I feel truly grateful to those in the past who gave me a space in scenes to unmask. To be vulnerable enough to exist without the layers of defence I've had to erect to feel safe

It doesn't matter what role you take, if you feel utterly safe & trust in the other person it's life changing

i've experienced that miracle a couple of times, Mme. i cherish the memories and the Dominas with whom i shared those cathartic experiences.

Sessions can be a place where you can unmask and live as a more authentic version of yourself.
Sessions can be a place where you play a fantasy role.
Sometimes, miraculously, they can be both of those things at the same time.

I think my ex took this with my phone😆

Throwback Thursday.

Your subs actually NEED your enjoyment of and passion for dominating them. A lack in that department makes for an unsatisfying experience for everyone involved.