Mistress Jadis Ives

Good Morning! Friendly reminder that I'll be in Sydney this week with availability Thursday thru Sunday. ✨

I had this talk the other day also with a cute newbie who was worried he was going to be boring to me.

This! I was actually having a conversation last night about how my favourite actual moment has nothing to do with how hard I can hit/tie etc but the moment the sub choses to surrender and trust me to push them out of their comfort zone 🥵

Sometimes when I post a photo or clip of my play there's a guy who says, "Why isn't his arms tied like a pretzel/but his head can move/his marks aren't severe enough/etc??"

Bc the scene is being created for *that* sub & that sub's interests & limitations, not as a a fulfillment for *your* fantasies

That fit!

Hard relate.

Saturday Selfie Selection

Normally I like to have 4 mirror selfies to share, but when you are The sadist and sovereign, Empress Elemental, @msjadis.bsky.social , you only need 1.
Long overdue, Divine FemDom Royalty.

The events unfolding are dire, and the dread is worsened by the many reasons to lack confidence in the goals, competence, and integrity of our leadership.

It's a little hard to "business as usual" given the magnitude of geopolitical events. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling a mixture of helplessness, rage and utter dread.

As a Domme, you're only going to benefit if you can create an emotionally safe space for your subs to communicate their desires, needs and fantasies with you. Of course, as a professional, boundaries do need to be placed on how and when this takes place.

100% agree!

There’s a difference between intensity & toxicity, people!

Heavy doesn’t automatically equal skilled OR valuable.

What about... healthy play?

Ya know, respecting limits, consent, & nuance, not just ego?

Exactly. I'm playing with the capacity both the sub and I have on the day. That's the metric. Not anything outside our scene.

Something to view with caution: toxic microcultures within BDSM that value heaviness over everything else. I'm far from a soft player - but I'm also not interested in those kinds of dick-measuring contests.

Mistress Adara Smith, Sydney Dominatrix.

Taking a lil break from touring. I’ve pushed my Adelaide trip to the end of the month, bought a new couch, and just got a massive food delivery… first time I’ve stocked my fridge in ages, so I’m weirdly excited 😅

If you’re around Sydney and our dates haven’t lined up in a while… now’s your chance!

Exactly this! The process goes faster or slower dependent on the pairing but this is how things should develop.

I’ve found this to be 💯 accurate.

The first sessions are a feeling out period. Then trust begins to develop. After months you’re willing to explore into new “scarier” areas for you. After years She’s locking you inside of a coffin sized crate for hours as you cry and beg to be let out✨

This fosters trust and communication, but also allows play partners to develop an intimate knowledge of each other's physical and emotional limitations. When you've been playing with someone for a long time and paying attention, it's a lot easier to know exactly how they are doing.

Many kinksters are interested in expanding their limits. If this resonates with you, one of the safest ways is by developing a relationship with your play partner over time.

I would say maybe 85% of my sessions don't involve a role play. Wanting to play and explore interests is just as valid as wanting to explore a specific fantasy.

Sydney 11th thru 13th March.

One of the best things about being a ProDomme is the opportunity to play a role in many varied fantasies, for different people. This is a huge opportunity for self-knowledge. We get to expand our erotic repertoires, refine our skills and learn how different components of kink work together.

Incredible condiment. I'm obsessed and have to actively ration my intake.

Make sure you're following me on all platforms incase I disappear from one... It would be a shame to miss out on my perfect peach 😉

Links in the comments 💋

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I’m yours and you’re mine

🔥Hotttttt!

Classic black tolerates repair way better than transparent colours. I find catsuits to be uniquely accident prone.

Adventures in the flesh..

I do love to plough 😉

Bend over now...

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Buh bye Aussie summer, hello the countdown to (outdoor) boot weather.