andre/jesse // none/he

"Onyi ljeh's videos are one of my favorite things on tiktok & currently people are in a tizzy because of a video she made where everyone is getting caught up on the semantics of the word she uses to describe a phenomenon (instead of discussing the phenomenon itself)...... as a tactic to (often angrily) derail the conversation and oh my god it's like most of the discourses people have done with me at the center of it. watching her videos are such a breath of fresh air. I know this exact situation because I've had it happen to me a million times over, and she handles it all in a way that I sincerely wish I had responded back in the day when all that stuff was going on. because, at the time, I really truly blamed myself. I assumed I was the one at fault. I only realized the depth and gravity of manipulation I had fallen victim to long after the actual mental-breakdown-inducing events were over. she has a level of mindfulness that I truly aspire to, & I'm aware the internet is not real life & she is a human being with emotions but I do find the way she responded to all of it to be genuinely very inspiring in an odd sort of way. or... at least it made me feel seen. she mentions here that even she had begun to doubt her memory and the things she knew, despite having a full degree in the exact thing she was talking about. and just. fucking hell, it's so similar to how I felt back in 2023/2024 when the main brunt of the harassment was going on (I had looked back through screenshots a couple months ago and there was a point in time around early 2024/late 2023 where benjanun and talia and faerynn were all creating as many as 3 new discourses in 1 day, all about screenshots of my posts, and each one would continue for weeks to months at a time)."

🧵 1/5

"#transmasc history and women's history and transfem history are all intertwined whether you like it or not#women's history is transmasc history#women's history is transfem history#to assert otherwise is to contribute to the violent historic erasure of trans people's contributions to humanity#not that you need to contribute in order to deserve respect and human decency#but people will really see women historically excluded from the sciences and society more broadly#and then see the same shit happen to transmascs and go#“this must mean transmascs are useless societal leeches”#just say you're an ignorant fool and go#women's suffrage was also trans women's suffrage was also trans men's suffrage was also nonbinary people's suffrage etc. etc. etc.#stay mad about it#as the kids say#'cope and seethe'#also the NWHA have put out several pro-transfem articles so they're not TERFy don't worry I double checked bc you can't trust ppl nowadays#yes i'm aware this is US-centric and the rest of the world exists but I am addressing one (1) big ole argument being made by a large number#of people that also happens to center US discourse#other people obviously exist#do not strawman me and derail the whole post#please and thank"

"I'm allowed to be bitter about something bad that was kinda traumatic for me"

and

"the person involved had no way of knowing exactly just how traumatic their actions were towards me in that moment"

are truths that can coexist. btw.

i get that people have religious trauma & there are situations where it IS inappropriate, but if you shit on people asking to say a prayer during a tragedy or in remembrance or in a tough situation, I think you're a miserable person tbh

"For women who just want their voice lowered but don't want hair growing on their face or chest, it has to be done very, very carefully. Tiny amounts of hormones are to be given at a time, constantly testing; perhaps just oral medications. Once the voice drops, you can't get that back after a certain length."

from Echo of Sappho (Iss. 5, 1973), a lesbian magazine in Brooklyn, NY at the time, while interviewing a doctor at one of the few trans clinics that allowed "ftms"

nonbinary transmascs have been getting fucky with it since the fucking 70s (and for sure earlier)

people have been talking a lot about transandrophobia on reddit and so I've been seeing some of the most rancid posts on various social media sites, and it makes my blood boil. cannot believe in the year of our lord 2025 there are trans women hating on trans men

There is a huge issue on Tumblr where some of the main trans masc posters are tmoc and transandrophobes will just straight up act like they're all white people or talking about transandrophobia is only a white people thing.

trans mascs have finally started talking about the unique oppression we face with malgendering, misogyny, and transandrophobia and immediately get people proving our point.

"I get the feeling that these people who insist "transandrophobia isn't real" have treated all the transmascs and trans men in their lives like crap, but they don't wanna be held accountable. "Transandrophobia isn't real" because if it becomes real, then it won't be okay for you to harass, dismiss, insult and talk down to trans men without people calling you a bigot. No surprise the people who say that are the same who later are calling trans men "bitches", "theyfabs" or making jokes about how all transmascs should be killed or detransition."

ding ding ding. yes, this is exactly it. I've mentioned it a handful of times but a lot of the reason why ppl get so entrenched in this shit is precisely bc they've done so much harm to others that, if they were to admit it was shitty now, they'd have to confront having committed

list by emoalien.bsky.social: people taking misandry/transandrophobia seriously "account here have explicitly talked out transandrophobia or misandry, have blocklists dedicated to the concepts, or are otherwise Very Obvious about it. grow up and PLEASE talk to a woman" To be clear, this is fucking stupid.

"talk to a woman" okay [pulls out mirror]
"do you think it's okay that trans men are mistreated by the community?"
"no that's fucking whack, trans men don't automatically become an average cis man when they transition, and going on T doesn't make you evil"
"right on let's go eat some mac n cheese"

heads up to anyone who holds trans kids near: amy harmon from the nyt is searching for and having a hard time finding people to interview to find out exactly what trans kids are doing when their care is limited or cut off, and for purposes of community safety, please shut the fuck up around her.

harassment animal

LEAVE ME ALONE

1. im not scary lol

Parents Feuding With At Least One Aunt At All Times

Parents Feuding With At Least One Aunt At All Times https://theonion.com/parents-feuding-with-at-least-one-aunt-at-all-times/

pug swimming while being pursued by a pool net

apparently my sister's elderly mostly blind and deaf pug decided she was going to take a swim in the pool yesterday, because my sister sent the group chat a security cam video of herself using the pool net to scoop her out

Two yellow butterfly eggs in a stack on a leaf

who laid an egg on top of this other egg, that's very rude

On the Run but make it FAST!

fun hangout idea you tell me how you feel about me and how you describe me to others in explicit detail

(menacingly) Alright, pal. I've heard enough out of you. Time to give you what you deserve! *gives you a lil kiss on the forehead*

FAITH ✝️

XBOX 🫵

FRIDAY 🙏

Start the challenge anytime. You don’t have to draw every day for a month. It’s fine to draw just a few of them. (Needless to say, don’t use Gen AI)
Here are examples: 4. Shang-fu (a three-headed, three-winged, six-legged chicken) and 28. Chu-niao (a six-headed blue bird) #30WeirdAncientBirds

waiter (cocking gun): we do things a little differently here