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My approach has been to give total decision-making sovereignty to women. I’ll talk to them, & if they want to show an interest and maybe ask me out they can; if they don’t, they won’t. It’s entirely up to them. :)

100% agree. The decision of all of them might be to reject you. Which you will of course have to completely accept. :)

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Incredibly, my dad is 85.

In short, it’s neither any good to say that male loneliness is entirely self-created / manifested in a social vacuum *nor* that men don’t have to take responsibility. Like tragic Greek protagonists, we still have to take responsibility for problems that are environmentally imposed upon us.

On the one side, we have “You are lonely purely because you ontologically suck as a human being”, on the other incel nihilism & fatalism is being fed into the red pill grievance machine where it festers like an open sore. Both are bad responses. 8/

Hetero culture is undergoing a traumatic historical change that many of us are struggling to process. The old certainties are gone. Everything’s up in the air. No one knows what’s what anymore. It’ll work itself out eventually, but you might be dead by then. Soz but facts…7/

And needless to say, none of this excuses or rationalises any of the really nasty misogynist shit that, along with the repugnant racism, led to me deleting my Twitter account. Still there may be a social problem (I mean, what isn’t a problem with a societal dimension?)..6/

All that said, none of that shit’s gonna go away anytime soon, and we aren’t anywhere near a world in which gender roles loosen up to the extent that women routinely approach men. So you are going to have to, er, man up & deal with it. 5/

..And because of the migration of dating to an online supermarket & contraction of everyday social ‘third’ spaces that’s way more challenging than it was. On top of which, men’s economic prospects are diminishing, potentially making them less appealing, or even necessary, to a potential partner..4/

So why would men be more romantically lonely? Well, if you think about it for 5 minutes it’s not that hard to venture at some reasons.

There is still a deeply entrenched expectation that men initiate and prove their worth to a woman. 3/x

Second, there are more gender-specific societal problems. Anorexia can definitely be suffered by men but there’s no doubt that women suffer to a greater extent, leading us not unreasonably to devote more attention to the social pressures that drive women to develop pathological eating disorders..2/x

Last thing I’m going to say on the ‘male loneliness epidemic’. First, it can be a societal problem that’s not to the exclusion of personal responsibility. Drug abuse can be downstream of demographic deprivation yet I’d definitely tell an addict to sort themselves out..1/x

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Same. 😀

I’m a rather lonely straight male specimen and *I tried* to be gay. I had to *come out* as straight. My far end of the Kinsey scale straightness is one of the greatest disappointments of my life. All my insecurities are rooted in my accursed heterosexuality.

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Day 28 (11pts)
🗣️ The Blue Nile
💿 Hats
🎶 Let's Go Out Tonight
🗓️ October 1989

My second favourite album of all time, I could have picked any track that wasn't a single (and none of those peaked above 50)!

Words can't do it justice. If you know, you know.

Yep it’s incredible that people are still down with this Gibbon crap. The Roman Empire fell because of trade deficits, inflationary crises and the impossible administrative challenge of over-expansion, leading to repeated coups and civil wars.

And the Romans had no concept of race.

Sam Kriss

the cure for right wing male loneliness is nazi husband/gop official wife

Says it all.

Guys looking to BlueSky to teach them how to do masculinity right are gonna end up pretty darn confused.

Yeah it’s about 19C here so I can just about still wear a jacket. 😎

I feel naked without a jacket. I need my pockets. 😅

It doesn’t come across in the pic but it’s a really light jacket, very light material.

this atrocity feels like the culmination of something that's been building for 20 years---this need to add extensions to the past, to lard in backstories & prequels ("Andor" as the weird exception that turned out to be art), this need to go back into the past and build a wasp's nest in it

The antagonist here is a giant Elk like creature that is ‘a bastard offspring of Loki’.:) Funnily enough, in the book on which it’s based apparently there is a heavy metal band!

Sorry, you need to be a woman in an English cottage with an Aga.

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There is I think a genuine question as to where people are supposed to meet these days. Often it’s disallowed at work, I’ve tried meet-up groups were it doesn’t seem to be the done thing either, so that leaves online which most people hate because it’s a dehumanising meat market. Idk! 🤷‍♂️