Sóley >> on Ruby/c.022f

Where were you guys at / that cesspool? We are definitely reflections of the environment

(Btw I use bluesky very little on weekends so I'll catch replies when I can. Maybe not till Monday! Cheers!)

I never saw the poor single room church preaching abundance, I saw them teaching learning to accept what you can't change

It was the showy preachers asking for big jets and fancy cars who said "have a good attitude and we'll all make it big"

Today I have interacted with at least four people who have given me positive interactions outside the three I mentioned.

But my wife works all day long and feeds me love and beauty and wonder so I can turn it into something transformative.

This person (human) is an art project maintained by many.

Today I have interacted with at least four people who have given me positive interactions outside the three I mentioned.

But my wife works all day long and feeds me love and beauty and wonder so I can turn it into something transformative.

This person (human) is an art project maintained by many.

On one hand right now, no less than seven people directly contribute in large and small ways to bring you this version of Ruby. 🌻💛

Two live with me, and literally keep me together and help me meet my physical, financial, and metaphysical needs.

One other is contributing in a very personal way. 🦭

I thought about this for a bit and I realized, it's not that I'm nice. Don't confuse this for nice. 🩷

Right now, all of my needs are met. I have multiple privileges here, one of them being that I need less than some (read: trauma), but another because many people are helping me meet them. 1/3

Probably too nice ;_;

you can rest now
#art #painting

The more honest I am, the less people tend to like me. Not because I'm a bad person, but because I stop telling people all the things they want to hear.

Right, because you're a good person too, and misgendering one of us hurts all of us!

Just because somebody isn't well liked or likable doesn't mean they are bad or wrong. Most people are just misunderstood. Especially if they are honest about who they are.

Nobody is at fault. Our community is a microcosm of the painful world that we live in. Hurt people hurt people.

-hugs-

Both of you (if she sees this). There is so much pain in the world. 💛🩷

Oh, it's not about nerdskull, it's about the platform!

All blocks are valid.

Blocks don't make anybody a bad person. A block is me going, interacting with you might hurt one or both of us and we don't want to do that to each other.

🌻 In my opinion.

I will not push this screenshot into somebody's face, especially if they are not open to communication, but I hope they get to see it somehow through the grapevine of this network.

This platform is dividing people from each other by shrinking your communication bandwidth.

In this screenshot, Jane defends nerdskull by pointing out femboy Jakarta method is willing to just misgender her over communication style and HRT status // somebody wants to hurt other people for some reason and there's a lot of text in this screenshot I'm really sorry for the screen readers.

It took me just a minute to think about this on a macro level, but the woman that Jane is defending cannot even see that Jane is defending her.

Wow, what an isolating and terrible platform to try to have friends on or have any kind of reasonable discussion.

i always hope one day she'll be open to unblocking

i hope to Kybele.

You and yours are beautiful too, and all the wonder you have built. 💛 Your aching and clawing hands are enough for those you love.

I love this post so much .

You remind me of the long suffering partners that prop me up and maintain my ability to even fucking survive at all. With my disabilities.

I am the dust she gathered and I am beautiful.

Yes, gather the dust you've ground yourself into with your crumbling hands. It is of no matter that you have already been fighting your entire life and gotten precious little peace for your pain.

Love and self actualization is not a currency to be bought and sold and not something you can take away from someone else. How dare you for trying.

Please add me to your fucking block list if you disagree.

Everyone should be able to access any kind of hormones if they want it, any kind of "trans" surgery if they want it. There is enough estrogen and testosterone for everyone who wants it. There's enough self actualization to go around.

Love is neither fungible nor nonfungible. It's generative.

Another partner I have is trans. She can't take HRT sometimes because of medical conditions you don't have the right to know about. She's a woman but it causes her harm. She wants to have the same outcome as you and me but she can't have it.

Is she a woman or a sex object? Are you? Am I?

Lacking words for this she's settled on "queer".

She also has an intersex condition! But, not "bad".

She wishes she could have HRT, be supported, find community, explore her identity, find herself, make friends, self actualize too right along with us here.

She gets told; no You can't That's ours.

Am I less of a woman because I have a penis and like it, because she doesn't and wants one? You want to know how often this has come up in the decade since I've taken HRT?

online only in debates with truscum and sleaze and people who hate themselves only!

Am I a woman or a sex object?

One partner I have is "cis" and IDs as a woman and gets ungendered now.

She's gender non-conforming. Over long conversations she identifies exactly as me. She strongly desires all of the secondary sex characteristics of a woman, but wants my genital config.

I don't have genital dysphoria.

One thing about support is support is bidirectional and reciprocal... Or it's not real support. Support goes two ways or it's not fucking real and sometimes people can't take HRT/are unable to.

Criticism about someone's communication style aside. We aren't talking about it? This about misgendering.

This is ridiculous behavior. I've been watching this for a while and not said anything because I wanted context. But it's been like a month of this.

Nobody should be calling someone a gender they don't identify as because of a medical condition or inability or nondesire to take HRT?

God what a fuckass. I love nerdskull (we moots) and this whole thing makes me think of all the ways people who don't quite conform in our communities are marginalized further and sidelined.

Mind if I quote this and use my wife's experiences to support you both? :( this whole thing is fucked up.

The whole piece does but that bit keeps ringing.

The rhythm and the flow here is exceptional

Untold Sums If you can't sell it, it may be illegal.

Tired of information asymmetry. Here's my take on it.

#poetry
#data
#capitalism