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@coercivecontrol.bsky.social

Founder of CCChat Magazine-the free online magazine on and around coercive control. New website coming soon.

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One week to go before the All-Party Parliamentary Group on Perpetrators of Domestic Abuse meeting.

πŸ“†Wednesday 22nd January 2025
⏲️10am-11am.
πŸ“Hybrid - Only online places remain πŸ’»

If you are interested in joining us, please email info@respect.org.uk for more information.

15.01.2025 12:53 β€” πŸ‘ 8    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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Marilyn Manson drops defamation lawsuit against Evan Rachel Wood Shock rocker, who denied Wood’s accusations of β€˜horrific’ abuse and filed lawsuit, to pay her $327,000 in attorneys fees

I'm very relieved for Evan that this part of her nightmare is over.

I recommend watching Evan's documentary #PhoenixRising

Manson's actions have come at a huge cost to Evan. She had to give up her son (see 2/2). When will he face consequences?

www.theguardian.com/music/2024/n...

1/2

27.11.2024 12:54 β€” πŸ‘ 160    πŸ” 28    πŸ’¬ 6    πŸ“Œ 0
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Yes, I went in.
Yes, it was bloody freezing.

24.11.2024 20:38 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

β€œViolence is not always motivated by a desire to gain or resist control. Sometimes it is primarily an expression of anger or frustration. Sometimes it is a matter of self-image. Sometimes it is simply a bid for attention.”

β€” A Typology of Domestic Violence
Michael P. Johnson

23.11.2024 22:04 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Rendered invisible

21.11.2024 20:21 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Proselytising forgiveness so that the victim is pressurised to get past being violated, to make it more comfortable for everyone else.

21.11.2024 20:06 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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They longed to be rid of them.

20.11.2024 19:49 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

I often hear victim/survivors say they need an apology, in order for them to move on.

Sadly, someone’s healing can’t be contingent on the abuser acknowledging/atoning for their actions as, in the vast majority of cases, an abuser will deny or minimise, leaving disappointment and no resolution.

19.11.2024 06:22 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 1

Love this πŸ’œ

18.11.2024 21:59 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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You’ll never know what you’re capable of until you start. I feel like Blue Sky is starting a FIRE.... It's calling my name!

Hit like, REPOST and FRIEND each other and comment with:
#TakeToTheBlueSky

15.11.2024 19:43 β€” πŸ‘ 603    πŸ” 130    πŸ’¬ 58    πŸ“Œ 26

I have lost count of all the times I’ve heard a professional say: β€œShe keeps choosing abusive boyfriends.”

She doesn’t choose abusive boyfriends. No one does. No abuser presents badly, at first.

They disarm you by lovebombing you, and convincing you you’re β€˜soul mates’.

18.11.2024 21:58 β€” πŸ‘ 8    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

It really is like untangling knots. I’m so glad you’re out now πŸ’œ

18.11.2024 07:05 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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So many survivors never get the apology they so badly need.

18.11.2024 07:03 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

One thing I’ve learned from reporting on abuse and its patterns is that abusers and their enablers respond viciously to people talking about abuse. They don’t want people to learn about and recognize abuse, theirs or otherwise. They don’t want the status quo that benefits abusers to change.

18.11.2024 02:40 β€” πŸ‘ 775    πŸ” 164    πŸ’¬ 17    πŸ“Œ 4
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I did wonder…

18.11.2024 05:34 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Time and time I get approached by victim/survivors and asked it what they have been enduring is #coercivecontrol.

The conversation almost always ends with them saying that they didn’t think it was because they were never punched/stabbed/strangled etc and that he ONLY ever threatened it.

17.11.2024 11:02 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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I’ve spent nearly 10 years on cultivating a better understanding of #coercivecontrol and recovering- first as a campaigner/advocate and now, on the frontline.

There is a new website coming soon, with a new direction.

In the meantime, here are some food pics…

17.11.2024 09:05 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Am I the only one who thinks this intense bromance between Musk and Trump is going to end badly?

Lovebombing usually does.

15.11.2024 20:32 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

Is there a hierarchy of harm? There is certainly more gaslighting around on how emotional abuse is just *mean words.*

15.11.2024 12:24 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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This ⬇️

15.11.2024 06:42 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 1
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Timely

14.11.2024 22:50 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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About us β€” International Network Against Witchcraft Accusations and Ritual Attacks

The International Network Against Witchcraft Accusations and Ritual Attacks was formed in 2022 to connect the different groups and initiatives working on this issue across the globe.

www.theinternationalnetwork.org/about-us

14.11.2024 19:04 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Lovely to see you here. It’s a much calmer space and that’s really nice πŸ’œ

14.11.2024 18:40 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Most men will read *advice* like this and see it for what it is , but there will always be those who will take this literally and that’s scary.

14.11.2024 18:37 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

** Toxic post
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The only crime a man can commit, in the eyes of a woman, is to be nice.

14.11.2024 18:37 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

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A woman who farts in your presence.

That’s a red flag. If she’s comfortable doing it around you, she’s crossed a line.

Women should be mysterious, gracefulβ€”not acting like they’re one of the guys at a BBQ. Remember: only you get farting privileges here, not her.

14.11.2024 18:37 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

** Toxic post warning!!!**

Women You Should Never Marry

(Better to die ALONE or stay single than marry these kinds of women)

A Woman who's TOO educated.

Knowledge is power, and women stink at handling power.

14.11.2024 18:37 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Here is an example of some of the β€˜red flag’ posts aimed at helping men find …. errrrr…..love?

14.11.2024 18:37 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Following on from the above, I toyed with the idea of sharing screenshots but couldn’t quite bring myself…. Instead…..

14.11.2024 18:37 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Informative read ⬇️

14.11.2024 07:58 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

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