Dr Bob Beare

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 4/22
"Today, I am standing up for myself. I'm no longer allowing myself to be treated badly. I am prioritizing my personal needs over the need to please others."

Most people try to "figure out" relationship problems.

But the work is not in our heads.

And it's not about changing our behavior.

The work is to release the lodged trauma in the body.

Then, our mind will calm, and our behavior will be congruent and authentic.

If you're committed to inner work, you'll begin to let go of things that no longer serve you.

-You'll naturally move toward things that are authentic
-You'll take effective action
-True prosperity will emerge

It's inevitable. You won't even have to force yourself to do it.

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 4/20
"Today, I am letting go of perfection. I am noticing the beautiful mess of nature, and the beautiful mess of me."

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 4/19
"Today, I am noticing the beauty in my world. I've spent enough time complaining and focusing on the problems. Seeing the colors, the connections, playfulness, and the magic of it all. That's the plan for today."

We pass along the way we were treated. Forcing, shaming, and punishing are common parenting tools. A favorite of fascists as well.

Do you wonder if you have value?

Parents MUST put loving attention on their children.

Or, they'll wander through life wondering if they have value.

Many of us had distracted caregivers - and it's time to re-parent ourselves.

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 4/17
"Today, I am choosing a full life. It's ok to ask for what I want, to travel widely, to have quality possessions, and to live well. No more playing small. My life is full and satisfying."

Most everything the kid is doing that triggers the parent is a direct result of unresolved trauma in the parent themselves. It's so obvious.

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GROWTH AFFIRMATION 4/16
"Today, I am learning how to allow things to unfold. I've already tried forcing, pushing, and fighting - with limited results. I'm letting go of always trying to make it happen. I'm trusting the natural rhythm and flow of life."

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We will fight for our denial to the end. Blaming our kids, blaming our partners, blaming the world.

Usually, some kind of a painful loss gives us an opportunity to break through to reality.

Some take the opportunity. Some do not.

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 4/15
"Today, I am finding that still place within me. I am allowing the traffic to rush by, the planes to fly overhead, the many noisy distractions to circle around me. I am going within to that quiet, still place."

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GROWTH AFFIRMATION 4/14
"Today, I am letting go of control. This is my new religion. I'm watching the rhythms of nature and worshiping that divine rhythm. I am nature. And that's my prayer. Can I get an Amen?"

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GROWTH AFFIRMATION 4/13
Today, I'm having fun. I am allowing myself to do superficial playful adventuring. Trauma recovery does not have to be a constant drudgery. Today I'm having fun"

It takes practice to decline invitations to arguments, gossip, and debates.

When children are dysregulated (acting out), it's usually because they have the unresolved trauma of the parents within them. Blaming them for acting it out is the ultimate hypocrisy.

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 3/29
"Today, I'm choosing to be grateful. I'm using my resentments as reminders to take a breath and find something to appreciate in my life."

Recovery brings a lot of change.
But it won't all happen today.
Change happens naturally.
The right people come.
The right people go.
Dysfunction fades.
Peace emerges.

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 3/27
"Today, I am standing up for myself. The old days of being treated badly are over. I am kind, compassionate, and loving - but no longer taking sht from anybody."

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 3/22
"Today, I am getting support. I am no longer trying to tough it out on my own. I'm open to feedback, and listening to the wisdom in other people's stories. I am allowing myself to be vulnerable and to get support."

Trauma is complex.
The solution is simple.
The solution is not easy.
The solution requires grief.

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 3/21
"Today, I am taking care of my body. No sugar, No flour, Long walk. Rest."

Adults who had their creativity crushed, will crush the creativity of their children and others. It's a big problem. Healing work is required.

GROWTH AFFIRMATION 3/19
"Today, I am receiving and giving tough love. I allow myself to grow with feedback from healthy people. I have the courage to tell the truth, and the maturity to do it with kindness."

Don't engage with chaos,
Don't argue with bullshit.
Don't respond to gossip.
It just makes it flower.