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Katy Elphinstone

@neurofabulous.bsky.social

Thinking about humanity from an autistic perspective | Mother to two wonderful humans and one small dog | #Autism, #Autistic, #Neurodivergent, #AutismAcceptance, #BPSdouble_empathy www.neurofabulous.org.uk

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Owl! at the library 
@SketchesbyBoze

"No one wants to hear about your special interests--"
I do. tell me all about how the Appalachians are older than Saturn's Rings or how the invention of the compass led to the atomic bomb. Life is so brief and the world is so big and we have to learn from each other.

Owl! at the library @SketchesbyBoze "No one wants to hear about your special interests--" I do. tell me all about how the Appalachians are older than Saturn's Rings or how the invention of the compass led to the atomic bomb. Life is so brief and the world is so big and we have to learn from each other.

#Neurodivergent
#AutisticJoy
#ActuallyAutistic

28.11.2025 22:00 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 18    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Anxious? Naturally. Things that were, things that are, things yet to comeโ€ฆ and the cursed paperwork that insists that destiny requires three signatures and a blood sample.
thomlinjupp.com
#fablefoolery #thomlinjupp #booksky #books #fantasy #comedy

23.11.2025 10:17 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 7    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Title: "what do you have to be anxious about"

Below this are four pictures of the scene from Lord of the rings, with Galadriel and the urn. She's saying, "things that were, things that are, and some things...that have yet to come to pass"

Title: "what do you have to be anxious about" Below this are four pictures of the scene from Lord of the rings, with Galadriel and the urn. She's saying, "things that were, things that are, and some things...that have yet to come to pass"

"What do you have to be anxious about?"

Image from Neurodivergent Memes on FB ๐Ÿ™

#Neurodivergent #Autism #ActuallyAutistic #SocialAnxiety #Anxiety

23.11.2025 07:57 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 9    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1
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Horror movies have an ableism problem. Isnโ€™t it time we found new โ€˜monstersโ€™? | Kathryn Bromwich Films such as Frankenstein still use disability as shorthand for moral depravity. But human behaviour is far scarier than human appearance, says journalist Kathryn Bromwich

Full piece here:

Horror movies have an ableism problem. Isnโ€™t it time we found new โ€˜monstersโ€™?

www.theguardian.com/commentisfre...

31.10.2025 14:35 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 7    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
In her excellent International Booker-longlisted novel Hunchback, Saou Ichikawa references The History of the Body, edited by Corbin, Courtine and Vigarello: โ€œThe โ€˜criminalisation of the gazeโ€™ that took hold around the dawn of the 20th century had led to the decline of the freak show, which was subsequently replaced in popularity by the Monsters of Hollywood. Now, with costumes serving as an ethical cushion, people can enjoy ogling deformity without guilt or reserve.โ€

What is perhaps more painful, and insidious, is the portrayal of disability in films not specifically in the horror genre but which trade in a sense of discomfort: arthouse films by respected auteurs, with less emphasis on gore or jump scares than on an undercurrent of psychological unease. In these films, a disabled actor (or an actor in prosthetics) will often appear at a crucial moment as a visual signifier heightening the level of eeriness in a scene. This has happened in some of the best films ever made: the mute, paraplegic girl in Andrei Tarkovskyโ€™s Stalker (referred to as a โ€œmutantโ€), the โ€œdwarf serial killerโ€ in Nicolas Roegโ€™s Donโ€™t Look Now, โ€œthe disabled oneโ€ in Asterโ€™s Midsommar, the gratuitous five-second shot of a facially scarred amputee gleefully clapping along at a Nazi event in Jonathan Glazerโ€™s The Zone of Interest (a modern masterpiece, and one of the most important films of this century). In Yorgos Lanthimosโ€™s remarkable Poor Things, Willem Dafoeโ€™s prosthetics-assisted โ€œdeformed โ€ฆ scary faceโ€ (as it is described in the screenplay) and Emma Stoneโ€™s characterโ€™s intellectual disability are not a sign of moral depravity but are nevertheless presented as โ€œcreepy and uncannyโ€. The saddest thing is that these are some of my favourite films. I have no wish to publicly criticise them, but feeling excluded from them is particularly hurtful.

In her excellent International Booker-longlisted novel Hunchback, Saou Ichikawa references The History of the Body, edited by Corbin, Courtine and Vigarello: โ€œThe โ€˜criminalisation of the gazeโ€™ that took hold around the dawn of the 20th century had led to the decline of the freak show, which was subsequently replaced in popularity by the Monsters of Hollywood. Now, with costumes serving as an ethical cushion, people can enjoy ogling deformity without guilt or reserve.โ€ What is perhaps more painful, and insidious, is the portrayal of disability in films not specifically in the horror genre but which trade in a sense of discomfort: arthouse films by respected auteurs, with less emphasis on gore or jump scares than on an undercurrent of psychological unease. In these films, a disabled actor (or an actor in prosthetics) will often appear at a crucial moment as a visual signifier heightening the level of eeriness in a scene. This has happened in some of the best films ever made: the mute, paraplegic girl in Andrei Tarkovskyโ€™s Stalker (referred to as a โ€œmutantโ€), the โ€œdwarf serial killerโ€ in Nicolas Roegโ€™s Donโ€™t Look Now, โ€œthe disabled oneโ€ in Asterโ€™s Midsommar, the gratuitous five-second shot of a facially scarred amputee gleefully clapping along at a Nazi event in Jonathan Glazerโ€™s The Zone of Interest (a modern masterpiece, and one of the most important films of this century). In Yorgos Lanthimosโ€™s remarkable Poor Things, Willem Dafoeโ€™s prosthetics-assisted โ€œdeformed โ€ฆ scary faceโ€ (as it is described in the screenplay) and Emma Stoneโ€™s characterโ€™s intellectual disability are not a sign of moral depravity but are nevertheless presented as โ€œcreepy and uncannyโ€. The saddest thing is that these are some of my favourite films. I have no wish to publicly criticise them, but feeling excluded from them is particularly hurtful.

I love most of the films I mentioned in the piece. This isnโ€™t an attack on these directors, and Iโ€™m not telling anyone they canโ€™t enjoy these films. I would just like this kind of thing to stop, so that people with disabilities can enjoy films along with the rest of you without feeling excluded

31.10.2025 14:34 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
There is something sadomasochistic about being a horror fan with a disability. For as long as I can remember, I have been drawn to the intoxicating cycle of dread-terror-release that a genuinely frightening horror film can bring โ€“ the simultaneous feeling of โ€œI hate this and want it to endโ€ and โ€œThis adrenaline rush is making me feel fully alive.โ€ But I have also come to expect certain tropes that I know will make me feel a different kind of dread, which other people in the cinema may not necessarily be attuned to.

Guillermo del Toroโ€™s handsome adaptation of Frankenstein, which received a 15-minute standing ovation in Venice this August, powerfully makes the case that we ought not to be afraid of difference. However, given that the story is widely regarded as an allegory for disability, it is disappointing that the film stars only able-bodied performers and that a creature repeatedly referred to as โ€œdeformedโ€ is portrayed by Jacob Elordi. While the creature is shown to be gentle despite his โ€œobsceneโ€ appearance, the audience is heavy-handedly invited to conclude that โ€œthe real monsterโ€ is his creator, Victor Frankenstein (in case you hadnโ€™t understood the book). Unfortunately the film then drives home the point about Victorโ€™s moral degradation by making him increasingly disabled โ€“ in a departure from the original novel, he is given a prosthetic leg, facial scarring and amputated fingers. Del Toro may have adapted the book with a great deal of panache and visual flair, but he has not understood its most basic message.

There is something sadomasochistic about being a horror fan with a disability. For as long as I can remember, I have been drawn to the intoxicating cycle of dread-terror-release that a genuinely frightening horror film can bring โ€“ the simultaneous feeling of โ€œI hate this and want it to endโ€ and โ€œThis adrenaline rush is making me feel fully alive.โ€ But I have also come to expect certain tropes that I know will make me feel a different kind of dread, which other people in the cinema may not necessarily be attuned to. Guillermo del Toroโ€™s handsome adaptation of Frankenstein, which received a 15-minute standing ovation in Venice this August, powerfully makes the case that we ought not to be afraid of difference. However, given that the story is widely regarded as an allegory for disability, it is disappointing that the film stars only able-bodied performers and that a creature repeatedly referred to as โ€œdeformedโ€ is portrayed by Jacob Elordi. While the creature is shown to be gentle despite his โ€œobsceneโ€ appearance, the audience is heavy-handedly invited to conclude that โ€œthe real monsterโ€ is his creator, Victor Frankenstein (in case you hadnโ€™t understood the book). Unfortunately the film then drives home the point about Victorโ€™s moral degradation by making him increasingly disabled โ€“ in a departure from the original novel, he is given a prosthetic leg, facial scarring and amputated fingers. Del Toro may have adapted the book with a great deal of panache and visual flair, but he has not understood its most basic message.

(Re Frankenstein: visually stunning, great performances, hated the saccharine ending, but why tf, in an allegory about the dangers of ableism and fear of the Other, would you make the villain disabled โ€“ when he isnโ€™t in the book โ€“ to make the point he is โ€œthe real monsterโ€...?)

31.10.2025 14:32 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
the five neurodeivergent love languages: infodumping, parallel play, support swapping, Please Crush My Soul Back Into My Body, and "I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and I thought you would like it"

from Amythest on Twitter, 2021

the five neurodeivergent love languages: infodumping, parallel play, support swapping, Please Crush My Soul Back Into My Body, and "I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and I thought you would like it" from Amythest on Twitter, 2021

The five neurodivergent love languages ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’–

#ActuallyAutistic #AutisticJoy #Neurodivergent

14.10.2025 19:33 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 11    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

The number of times Iโ€™ve told my parents about one of my kidsโ€™ diagnoses, to have them say But isnโ€™t that everybody?

14.10.2025 06:38 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

๐Ÿ™„

14.10.2025 07:18 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Alright, I'll do one of those introduction posts!

Hi, I'm Seira! 32 years old & genderfluid autist.
I like
#Books ๐Ÿ“–
#Games ๐ŸŽฎ
#Animals ๐Ÿˆ
#Anime & #Manga ๐Ÿค“
#Art ๐ŸŽจ
#Languages ๐Ÿ’ฌ

I'm also a hobby-writer, a cat-parent & a nerd. I speak english & german fluently and japanese at beginner level.

09.09.2025 08:27 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 9    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Ditto!! โ˜บ๏ธ

14.10.2025 07:17 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

This, and also the fact that parents will not see anything "wrong" with their children. Even among neurotypicals children are not all the same and parents perceive their kids as "normal". My mom kept saying "you were a normal child" but my teachers in school said something different.

14.10.2025 06:51 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Given that autism is highly heritable, it's a huge flaw in the diagnostic process that parents are supposed to know and confirm if there's anything "different" about their child. If there is, they probably won't have noticed, as it's likely their entire family is autistic.

Given that autism is highly heritable, it's a huge flaw in the diagnostic process that parents are supposed to know and confirm if there's anything "different" about their child. If there is, they probably won't have noticed, as it's likely their entire family is autistic.

Ah yes. This. My son didn't seem in the least "different," to me ๐Ÿ˜‚

#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #Diagnosis

14.10.2025 05:52 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 15    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1
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While the perpetrators of Gazaโ€™s genocide pose as its saviours, survivors return home โ€“ to a wasteland | Nesrine Malik Western leaders attending the Sharm el-Sheikh summit have enabled and sponsored this slaughter. They are in no position to build a Palestinian future, says Guardian columnist Nesrine Malik

"In the images of the area, even the sunlight looks different and otherworldly. I couldnโ€™t figure out why, until I realised it was because there were no structures to filter it. No shade, no shadows. A home returned to is just a plot on which to pitch another tent and wait for aid."

13.10.2025 17:17 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 100    ๐Ÿ” 59    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Yes, like they no longer release statistics on maternal deaths in states that have banned abortion.

21.09.2025 14:58 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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After cuts to food stamps, Trump administration ends government's annual report on hunger in America The Trump administration is ending the federal governmentโ€™s annual report on hunger in America, saying it had become โ€œoverly politicizedโ€ณ and โ€rife with inaccuracies.โ€ณ The decision comes two and a hal...

โ€œThis follows the playbook of many non-democracies that cancel or manipulate reports that would otherwise show less-than-perfect news.โ€

apnews.com/article/trum...

21.09.2025 14:57 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
@she-waves-at-cats

I think it needs to become common knowledge that 'inability to read social cues' can show up as overcompensating.

You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed so you become the perfect child who never tests rules.

You don't know how much is expected of you at work, so you'll kill yourself in a minimum wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this. 

"hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't stop talking".

Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.

@she-waves-at-cats I think it needs to become common knowledge that 'inability to read social cues' can show up as overcompensating. You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed so you become the perfect child who never tests rules. You don't know how much is expected of you at work, so you'll kill yourself in a minimum wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this. "hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't stop talking". Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.

I relate to this.

Anyone else out there 'hardworking and quiet'?

And.. yes:

"Why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great."

#Autism #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic

21.09.2025 05:54 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 12    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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How federal SNAP cuts may hit Alabama The cost of groceries is up this summer. The news comes as Gulf Coast food banks say theyโ€™re feeding a record number of hungry families. Many of those individuals also get by with the help of the Supp...

www.apr.org/news/2025-08...

07.08.2025 22:23 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
You either face your demons or they raise your children.

Unknown/tiny Buddha.com

You either face your demons or they raise your children. Unknown/tiny Buddha.com

#parenting

Too true, yikes ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

04.08.2025 04:49 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 4    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
I found another "Whites Only" community.
YouTube video by Monte Mader I found another "Whites Only" community.

youtu.be/6Q6bwSNEtH0?...

30.07.2025 07:11 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

๐Ÿฅฐ

30.07.2025 07:12 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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This is for you, the misfits, & the not-so-normal poets, artists, musicians, healers, actors, storytellers, teachers, lgbtqia, restorers, lovers, and peacemakers everywhere.
#WarIsNotHealthyForChildrenAndOtherLivingThings #MakeLoveNotWar
#PeaceMakers #Artists #Storytellers #Poets #Healers #LGBTQ

10.06.2025 14:29 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 147    ๐Ÿ” 31    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 3    ๐Ÿ“Œ 2
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ACLU Condemns Trump Executive Order Targeting Disabled and Unhoused People | American Civil Liberties Union WASHINGTON โ€“ President Trump signed an executive order today directing states to criminalize unhoused people and institutionalize people with mental...

www.aclu.org/press-releas...

25.07.2025 22:29 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Scotland always come up with creative signs but please, someone do โ€˜grab him by the Epstein Filesโ€™! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

25.07.2025 09:36 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 23    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1

Although I am totally with you on Scotland being its own country! I pray that the option for independence will re-emerge.

25.07.2025 13:13 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

True... Although thinking of my friends in Northern England I would like to shift the border further down ๐Ÿ’Ÿ

25.07.2025 13:12 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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All we know about protests against Donald Trump in Scotland As Donald Trump packs his bag and police prepare for one of the biggest operation's ever seen in Scotland,ย protesters are organising to welcome theโ€ฆ

As ordinary Scots face a continued cost-of-living crisis, it is unacceptable that they are being forced to pay for Trumpโ€™s security during what is a private visit.

Scotland is not his playground.

๐Ÿด๓ ง๓ ข๓ ณ๓ ฃ๓ ด๓ ฟ

#Trump #Fascism #RightWing #Populist #Poverty #Scotland

www.thenational.scot/news/2533877...

25.07.2025 10:13 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 19    ๐Ÿ” 8    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 5    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Vuyiswa
@becca_mts

The women before us fought for the right to work not because labour is fun but because relying on men financially resulted in financial abuse & restricted women's freedom. No one hates labour more than me but putting my life in a man's hands sounds more daunting than a 9-5.

Vuyiswa @becca_mts The women before us fought for the right to work not because labour is fun but because relying on men financially resulted in financial abuse & restricted women's freedom. No one hates labour more than me but putting my life in a man's hands sounds more daunting than a 9-5.

What she said ๐Ÿ‘‡

#equality #genderequality #womensrights #feminism #patriarchy #financialabuse

19.07.2025 21:46 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 9    ๐Ÿ” 3    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Spain and Brazil push global action to tax the super-rich and curb inequality Spain and Brazil have launched a joint initiative to promote higher tax contributions from the super-rich worldwide, aimed at tackling soaring inequality by ensuring those with the most pay their fair...

Spain and Brazil push global action to tax the super-rich and curb inequality.

news.un.org/en/story/202...

#TaxTheRich #inequality #FutureForHumanity #Billionaires #Poverty #UnitedNations

14.07.2025 21:25 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 5    ๐Ÿ” 1    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

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