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First Came Tea. Then Came the Male Rage. The app was meant to make dating safer for women. Data breaches exposing its users show why it was so popular in the first place.

“When women realized they couldn’t rely on the men in their life, they tried instead to rely on other women,” @faith-hill.bsky.social @theatlantic.com writes. “In the end, misogyny got in the way of that too.” www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...

Homes Still Aren’t Designed for a Body Like Mine Why is it so hard for disabled people to find safe, accessible places to live?

“I’ve experienced too many moments,” @jessicaslice.bsky.social writes @theatlantic.com, “trapped upstairs while my family laughs, argues, sings, or cries, just out of reach.” A beautiful, harrowing essay shepherded by @katecray.bsky.social. www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...

The Work of Caring for My Daughter Will Never Be ‘Efficient’ A constellation of people are essential to my disabled child’s life. Trump’s cuts to education and Medicaid threaten to steal them away.

A moving essay by Julie Kim, whose daughter is one of millions of students “at risk of losing access to the crucial support systems that enable them to participate in American classrooms and ordinary life." www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...

This Pride Month, the Backlash Has Officially Arrived Young LGBTQ people are facing the prospect of losing rights they thought they’d never have to worry about.

“More than one in five Gen Z adults identify as LGBTQ,” @emmasarappo.bsky.social writes. This generation is often described as "entitled." But "personal liberty *is* an American entitlement, and these young people will not readily give it up." www.theatlantic.com/culture/arch...

Opinion | ‘Motherhood Should Come With a Warning Label’

+1 to this entire @nytopinion.nytimes.com project. "The financial strain of raising children is a contributing factor to lower birthrates around the world." / "Children are human beings; they shouldn’t be a luxury good." www.nytimes.com/2025/06/25/o...

The Real Reason Men Should Read Fiction Literature is often pushed on allegedly reluctant men as a machine for empathy. I read it for a different reason.

"Pick up a novel," @jeremygordon.bsky.social @theatlantic.com writes, for the value in seeking "new mental frontiers beyond the accumulation of information...It may shock you, the worlds you end up exploring—and the feelings you will stir up from nothing at all." www.theatlantic.com/books/archiv...

Elon Musk Is Playing God The tech billionaire wants to shape humanity’s future. Not everyone has a place there.

"One man has consistently cheered and helped execute the funding cuts that have exacerbated suffering and death." And yet...

Powerful reporting by @cwarzel.bsky.social and @hana-kiros.bsky.social @theatlantic.com www.theatlantic.com/technology/a...

So, What Did I Miss? “How much can possibly happen when I’m on parental leave?” I said five months ago.

"If I want to work at a place that is excited to publish a wide range of opinions about things that aren’t free speech and free markets, that won’t involve getting a different job at a different publication...” Welcome to @theatlantic.com @petridishes.bsky.social! www.theatlantic.com/newsletters/...

What Trump Missed at the Kennedy Center The president may love Les Mis—but he completely misunderstands it.

Victor Hugo "was suspicious of kings, and for good reason," Megan Garber writes @theatlantic.com. "That sound you keep hearing might be Hugo not just rolling in his tomb but protesting from it."
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The Growing Belief in ‘Love at First Sight’ Dating vibes may be dark, but a surprisingly optimistic notion about romance seems to be making a comeback.

With dating apps, “the slow burn has become less common,” @faith-hill.bsky.social @theatlantic.com reports. Instead, we get more snap judgments about romantic prospects—and, apparently, an increase in a “dreamily romantic notion” about how people fall in love.
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In Defense of the ‘Wife Guy’ The phrase has become a pejorative. Why?

“We are all performing some identity, in some way, and I can live with being a ‘guy who loves his wife a lot,’ no matter what nicknames it brings.” It’s official: @jeremygordon.bsky.social @theatlantic.com is the sweetest. www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...

It Should Not Be Controversial to Plead for Gaza’s Children Israel’s limits on aid have put the region at “critical risk of famine.” Help is within reach. But it’s not enough—and it’s arriving too slowly.

Some moral clarity from @julieebeck.bsky.social @theatlantic.com www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...

A Totally Unnecessary Way to Stress Parents Out The tyranny of school spirit days

Coming to you on Day 4 out of 5 of my kids’ most recent school spirit week, all I have to say is: I feel so seen. Thank you, @julieebeck.bsky.social — and @lianafinck.bsky.social for the wonderful art!:
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What Parents of Boys Should Know Daughters tend to receive higher levels of affection and patience at home than sons. But the sons might need it more.

After the psychiatrist Sebastian Kraemer published an article on boys’ vulnerabilities, “the press said I was suggesting that boys should be treated more like girls,” he later wrote. Not so. “I said that boys should be treated more like human beings”: www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...

What Parents of Boys Should Know Daughters tend to receive higher levels of affection and patience at home than sons. But the sons might need it more.

Into the early 1800s, American boys got “reinforcement for being loving and kind,” Stephanie Coontz told Joshua Coleman. But with the late-19th-century embrace of competitive capitalism, images of masculinity began to shift—as did parenting:
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What Parents of Boys Should Know Daughters tend to receive higher levels of affection and patience at home than sons. But the sons might need it more.

Studies suggest that boys may be “especially sensitive to the quality of early caregiving,” Joshua Coleman writes, an argument to “increase social support for families and resist dubious assumptions that boys do not require substantial affectionate nurturing”:
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What Parents of Boys Should Know Daughters tend to receive higher levels of affection and patience at home than sons. But the sons might need it more.

🧵The logic when he was a kid, Joshua Coleman writes, was that raising boys to be “tough” would help them “meet the toughness of the world.” That notion is resurgent today in American politics and culture—and deeply flawed, Coleman argues:
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The Short-Circuiting of the American Mind A century-old book foresaw Trump’s most basic strategy.

"Democracy, under the sway of lies, becomes a form of anarchy": Megan Garber @theatlantic.com on how Walter Lippmann's "Public Opinion," published a century ago, foresaw our current politics.
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There Are Two Types of Dishwasher People And only of them really knows how to load it.

So: What kind of dishwasher person are *you*? Ellen Cushing @theatlantic.com shows once again that she can write about pretty much anything and hit on what's interesting, funny, and deeply true.
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Grandparents Are Reaching Their Limit Older Americans might be doing more child care than ever.

“The new American grandparent is a family anchor,” @faith-hill.bsky.social writes. But “painting older women as natural, endlessly enthusiastic caregivers provides an excuse to deny more support to struggling parents.”
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Grandparents Are Reaching Their Limit Older Americans might be doing more child care than ever.

The very online “keep skewering a generation of supposedly self-involved,” checked-out Boomer grandparents, @faith-hill.bsky.social writes. But the real shift “isn’t that older adults are absent; it’s that their kids need them more than ever.”
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Grandparents Are Reaching Their Limit Older Americans might be doing more child care than ever.

“Economic, cultural, and workplace shifts have left parents floundering,” @faith-hill.bsky.social writes, so that now, “a parent’s struggle has become a grandparent’s struggle.”
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Grandparents Are Reaching Their Limit Older Americans might be doing more child care than ever.

🧵Such a good piece by @faith-hill.bsky.social on the expectations and burdens placed on modern grandparents—especially grandmothers.
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‘A Path of Perfect Lawlessness’ The Trump administration’s arguments in a high-profile immigration case have much broader implications.

This, from @adamserwer.bsky.social, is what I keep coming back to: "whatever their constitutional status, all of these things should be morally intolerable to any decent human being."
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Miscarriage and Motherhood What having a baby taught me about the illusion of control

Upon learning she was losing her pregnancy, @ashleyrparker.bsky.social walked to the office and filed 35 inches of copy on Biden’s State of the Union address, on deadline, amid intense grief. Yes, what women bear, every day, is incredible—as is this essay:
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Dear James: Make the Whistling Stop My husband’s ceaseless noises are driving me mad.

"He has three types," the wife writes: "the standard whistle, with lips pursed; the tongue-between-the-teeth whistle, which is more high-pitched; and a 'lazy' whistle, where he’s sort of blowing air with no real tune..." James Parker to the rescue: www.theatlantic.com/culture/arch...

The New Marriage of Unequals Women are now more likely to marry a less-educated man than men are to marry a less-educated woman.

"Gaps in educational experience among heterosexual couples are growing again," Stephanie Murray writes. "And this time? It’s women who are 'marrying down.'" www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...

SNL Has Entered the Chat In last night’s cold open, the show brought a new twist to an old satirical tradition.

“This is exactly why you’re the Queen Bee,” a line uttered by Sarah Sherman, most likely alludes to the the book that “Mean Girls” was based on, Megan Garber writes—and nods to “the willingness that grown men have shown to serve the queen bee in the White House.” www.theatlantic.com/culture/arch...

What Comedians Know About Staying Married Many comics have decades-long marriages. What’s their secret?

“The ones who stayed married were ones that weren’t looking just to get laid. They were looking for someone to understand them.” —Bert Kreischer // What happens when the (very funny) @olgakhazan.bsky.social decides to ask (also funny) comics for marriage tips: www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...

Dear James: I Miss Being on Dating Apps I’ve hit the relationship jackpot. But now I have romance FOMO.

SO many people complain they're sick of the dating apps. And then there's this guy...
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