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life is harder than anyone sees, so why would you make it harder for someone else?

when are people going to understand that people who come across as nice, helpful and obedient have years of unspent resentment which will come out one way or another?

but this is the ultimate paradox. in order for this relationship to truly work, as recipient you have to love yourself more than the action of mistreatment, even if you understand why person does what they do - that responsibility is literally never on you

so when you deal with this form of esteem, you can’t love someone more to “fix them”. They have to learn to build growth from within. And guess what? That has to be their choice and action too

if self love isn’t practiced, then when external love comes in beyond what one feels for themselves - it will feel unsafe. so one will test it, test it, test it - by pushing, pulling, twisting and tearing another - and that is one of life’s greatest cruelties, if not the ultimate

being a purveyor of fortitude and acceptance is a really tiring position

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a man who hates himself will punish you for loving him

There can be no healing without repair; either a stitch across the gape between bodies, or the removal of the entity causing harm entirely

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we can look at the application of narrative therapy in hc as found in k-pop as demonstrated in demon hunters

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almost all low ballers past their mid 30s will have self limiting intrinsic beliefs

to my knowledge, there is no subculture in music that is as ethically performative as hardcore

a man who is subservient to other men is mentally a child

equally, if your ability to understand the severity of a situation relies on someone being unbound, in a state of fight or flight, upset or in a state - one needs to check yourself

there are people who will not understand the severity of the point you’re making just because of the degree of your composure

people often act kind but being kind is not the same thing as acting safe

in short - it’s maladaptive- itll be a quick fix of fleeting seeming value, but it isn’t bringing any net worth, only decline for all parties

deeply insecure people will often outsource their worth by surrounding themselves with people who have even less sense of esteem in order to give themselves a sense of worth, purpose and esteem- without realising that their own worth plummets with no perpetual end

the more fragile the ego, the more unlikely taking of ownership, the greater improbability of the apology

Love is… loving someone so much you want to become a better person because of it

we can look at functional hc as a “economy of ego” ie those seemingly in the higher tier of ego do so at the extortion, control and harnessing of lower tiers of control and power

In the general population, almost everyone masquerades as a “good person” but truly - it is more discerning who works to live by their word

consuming input without processing is a bit of a recipe for disaster

being reductive about informational input into the world is also reductive for your brain and expansive for anxiety and mental inflexibility

oftentimes people ignore their necessary psychological development to fit in with their peers

the amount of love & happiness you can experience w someone is down to how much physiological and physical safety they can offer you, but it is based off on how much safety you can offer yourself

If someones reactive onus is to protect their ego before the emotional and physical safety of you, they shouldn’t really have a place in your life

bad behaviour often comes from someone who was supposed to be trusted behaving bad