Decolonizing Love

Shibari comes from hojojutsu, a martial rope techniques used to restrain and shame prisoners in imperial Japan. These roots include fascist policing. Post-WWII, artists eroticized them as kinbaku. Its origins, like Western BDSM, lie in carceral and colonial control.

And more importantly, to reflect on what it means to speak with authority on histories they may not have studied. Some humility goes a long way in conversations this nuanced.

If you’re citing 101-level texts to refute 500-level conversations, you might be missing the forest for the trees. I encourage people to meet these topics with the complexity they deserve.

Sex in History is not a foundational text for decolonial relational work. It barely scratches the surface and reflects a white anthropological lens. Citing it today only shows how under-researched many online critiques are.

That’s a book I read as a teenager—over 20 years ago. Since then, I’ve engaged deeply with hundreds of books and taken university-level coursework in gender studies, history, anthropology, and critical theory.

Nick, with three biomedical degrees, brings a scientific precision to our collaborations. Recently, a small influencer attempted to “debunk” my statement about BDSM and colonialism by referencing Sex in History by Reay Tannahill.

People often underestimate the depth of research that goes into our work. I have hyperlexia, which allows me to absorb and synthesize vast amounts of information quickly. Before I speak on any topic, I read everything I can find.

Surving fascism as a polyamorist

Shooting outside of historic Stonewall Inn after NYC's Pride March: Mayor The shooting occurred Sunday night in the Greenwich Village neighborhood.

They shot two people after Pride outside the Stonewall Inn. News is still coming in, but this reminds me of when Dylann Roof attacked the AME Church in Charleston, precisely because of its significance in civil‑rights movements. These people know what they’re doing

ca.news.yahoo.com/shooting-out...

We could have just been like the bonobos but instead we decided to have a cognitive revolution

Eight killed, hundreds injured in nationwide antigovernment Kenyan protests Demonstrators rally against police brutality and government corruption.to commemorate last year’s youth-led protests.

Protests today all over Kenya against Police Brutality

www.aljazeera.com/news/2025/6/...

She backed the Palestinian genocide and before that extended prison slavery.

No matter who’s in charge, colonialism means endless hegemony and expansion.

Until we dismantle the disease, colonizers will keep colonizing.

How long do you give this truce? It wasn’t actually ever about nukes. Israel is a death cult that wants regime change in Iran and a greater Israel. A continued war with Iran is inevitable because colonizers are always going to seek expansion + don’t tolerate ideological opposition to their hegemony

The West are colonizers and always have been and always will be until the colonialist mindset is uprooted.

Gaining independence isn’t enough, because colonialism is a disease that stays long after.

I keep thinking about that moment when Gaddafi warned a room full of Middle Eastern leaders that what happened in Iraq would happen to all of them—and they laughed.

Colonialism always moves in fractals. What starts with one becomes a pattern.

When attacks on nuclear sites are announced by the president on social media … dear god

Tech Founder Pledges to Leave $17 Billion Fortune to All 106 of His Children Telegram founder Pavel Durov recently detailed the future of his tech company, including how he’s leaving his $17 billion fortune to all 106 of his children.

The telegram founder Pavel Durov has 106 children!! What is it with tech bros and their breeding fetishes?

www.eonline.com/news/1418952...

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We should be able to buy adderall, testosterone & estrogen OTC at Walmart while buying a gun should require 6-12 months of intensive therapy beforehand and monthly reapproval from your psychiatrist

Missing Chomsky’s analysis right now because I trust no voice in all this

Israel never called for entire cities to evacuate before just neighborhood…this is ominous

Crazy that Luigi is charged with terrorism but the guy who had a hit list of democrats and shot 4 and killed two isn't

Ideally the Iranian regime and Israel regime destroy each other without mass civilian casualty

Be careful, this is when propaganda is going to be at an all time high.

For example both Iran and Israel are downplaying how effective each others attacks have been.

And media is parroting the side they’re on

Today an air India plane crashed, Israel attacked Iran and there is an internet black out in Gaza.

Well that’s all very troubling signs

Not the polyamory representation we want or need