This story breaks my heart and enrages me. 🥚💔

“They are too young to articulate what is going on inside them, but adult adoptees looking back in sorrow as much as in anger, understand what they did to survive.” That hits like a Mac truck going 70 down the freeway. 😭

it undoubtedly soothes the baby-buying class’s conscience to believe that the adoptable children are the ones whose “birth mothers” decided they actually preferred to lose all legally protected contact with their—“birth children”?—forever

it would be cool if hopeful adopters paused to ask themselves if they would ever choose for their own child what they are hoping that a “birth mother” will choose, and to ask how they feel about participating in & benefiting from a system that corners vulnerable people into making that “choice”

The point is that you can’t transact with the baby-buying and family-destroying business without a fair degree of Othering of those on the other side of the transaction.

Types of triangles: Green Scalene has no equal sides. Dark Pink Acute has all angles less than 90 degrees and equal. Turquise Isosceles has two sides equal. Orange Obtuse has one obtuse angle more than 90 degrees. Yellow Equilateral has all sides equal. Blue-Purple Right has one right angel at 90 degrees. The meme is courtesy of Math Monks logo in the top right corner.

While I've had the Gordon Neufeld experience on more than one occasion, that the book addresses all three points of the traditional adoption triad makes it suspect to me.

The adoption triad is an obtuse, scalene triangle and ignores the larger constellation.🥚

Thank you, @adopteesunited.bsky.social! 🧡🧡🧡

Not for nothing but everyone realizes that these teenagers and 20 somethings who have complete access to the Treasury payment source code are now #1 espionage recruitment targets for Russia and China, right?

This is so good.

“Wake up”

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This is because of the Musk takeover of the U.S. Treasury payment division, correct? Because he and his young cohorts have access to our Social Security numbers?

Thank you!! A good tip!

I kill them terribly. 😭😭😭
Congratulations on this wonderful success!!

We will never stop fighting!

We so sorely need Bernie to be 35 years old again so he can still have 50 more years left!!! I love Bernie!!! A man with true integrity and convictions that don’t change with the political winds!

Tick Tock. The old fashioned kind. ⏳

Exactly

They’re eating the Dogs

An adoptive parent is someone who desperately wants to be a parent but can't be one in the normal biological sense. At any rate usually-there are families with a mix of biological and adopted children. But here I'll focus on the commoner and simpler case.) So society has found a way for her to live the role of a parent, and to be recognised socially and legally as a parent, which kind of gets round the biological obstacle. "Kind of": plenty of adoptive parents report an abiding regret that they aren't biological parents, and there can be problems on either side of the adoptive relationship. It is clear that the existence of adoptive relationships creates psychological difficulties, both for the parents and for the children, that would not otherwise exist. But these problems are not big enough to make adoption a net bad thing.

people just take it as a bland vanilla fact that the #adoption industry exists to give people a way to become parents, but they never stop to consider all the ways that vulnerable ppl and their offspring are disempowered, exploited, and stripped of their basic rights to make this industry possible.

instead of “how much she must have loved you to give you up” why not try “how sick must a society be to leave her with no choice but to relinquish her own child to strangers” 🧾

Tony, I agree with this passage! Could you tell me from whence it came? (Book/article/etc. with title and author?)

#adoption is built upon permanent severance: the total and irreversible legal estrangement of a person from their entire natal family. Critics of the family policing system call this “the family death penalty.”

We say adoption benefits children, but how does the permanence of severance do that?

If adoption centers the interests of the adoptee, then why can’t the adoptee, at least at the age of majority, choose to end the fictive familial relationship?

Why can’t we annul our adoptions?

Yummy!!! I’ve made apple pancakes but never with cinnamon. Have to try that!

I would like to, please, Tony! Thank you!

This is such a mystery to me! Adoption is supposed to create a “forever family”, or what in government-speak is “permanence”. Then why does government permit the mere giving-away of the adopted child? 33 U.S. states permit the transfer of adopted children (w/o home study or background check!)!

When bio moms relinquish their parental rights they can not have the child back.

When adoptees are adopted, they can not annul, change, or edit their adoption contracts.

But why can adopters change their minds, rehome, and get a refund?

#adopteevoices #adopteerights