Jaed, LSW -Therapist

Listening to yourself, especially your body, & extending yourself grace are daily non-negotiables in realistic CPTSD recovery.

You're not going to be the survivor who figures out how to recover from trauma while ignoring & invalidating yourself. (No, that's not a challenge.)

Your story is going to have lots of moments & choices you wish you could erase. So does mine. That doesn't mean you're not "worthy" of compassion & support-- that means you're a human being w/ a human story.

No shame. Just breathe; blink; focus; & do the next right thing.

Are you going to shrink back, let people’s opinions talk you out of what your dick put in your heart, let the doubt, the fear take root? Or are you going to dismiss it and move forward in faith into the awesome future your dick has in store?

What does a burn pizza, frozen beer, and a pregnant woman have in common?

Someone forgot to pull it out.

When you betas are in heat, it’s my responsibility to give your boy pussy what it not only needs, but craves so desperately. Lay back and let Daddy massage your insides the way you know only I can do. But don’t get too comfortable. Once your needs are met, it’s time to satisfy mine.

My peen is cold.

May I borrow your face blanket?

I dig, you dig, he digs, she digs, we dig, they dig.

It's not a long poem, but it's deep.

Daddy joke

I lost three fingers on my right hand, so l asked my doctor if I would still be able to write with it.

He said: "Maybe, but I wouldn't count on it"

Try harder ≠ self-regulate

Regulation is co-created thru environment, pacing, sensory fit, understanding one’s needs, relationships (co-regulation!)

Try different things, not harder and hustling your way to burnout.

Daddy joke

My dad once told me that if I put a potato in my swim trunks, I would attract more women...

He forgot to tell me to put the potato in the front.

Date idea besides getting drunk...

Gratitude practice? Instead of just journaling, how about a gratitude date? Dine, sip, and shout out all the fabulousness around you. Maybe pictures that you post somewhere or print off and hang them on the fridge.

You don't need validation from the people or institutions who caused your pain.

If their validation was meaningful, they would not have caused that pain in the first place-- let alone gaslit you about what happened.

Their validation is worthless currency. Monopoly money.

Therapy is like a cheat code for life! Why struggle alone when you can have a personal coach for your emotions? Some say it's for the weak, but I say it's for the fabulous! Flawless queens get comfy with their quirks. Don't sleep on self-care!

“BEEP BEEP, found one heh heh heh!”
- every single Daddy that has held a stud finder.

Remember: the way they behave toward you is a reflection of their personality, character, & resources, not yours.

Take their attitude & behavior toward you as the reflection on them that it is. You stay focused on choices that affirm your values, goals, & personality.

#scs
#softiesaturday
#softcocksaturday

You know how parents have to learn to decipher their child’s needs based on the cry ?

You basically need to do the same thing with yourself regarding your own feelings.

“Aight … when I get the knot in my stomach. Usually, it means …”

The goal in CPTSD recovery is not to handle each trigger or reaction as they occur. It's to get back on track realistically building a life we value-- & use our evolving skillset to manage whatever stands in the way of that.

Sustainable recovery is proactive, not reactive.

No one gets to tell you how to feel as you come to terms w/ the fact that the people who should have had your back weren't who you thought they were.

You have enough to figure out right now without their "shoulds" f*cking w/ your head. Breathe.

Fear does not mean we've met a trigger or obstacle we can't overcome.

Trauma Brain is going to try to tell you your fear means you need to stop, right here, right now, & not go any further-- but well over half our recovery gains occur with us a little or a lot afraid.

All of my childhood punishments have become my adult goals:

Eating vegetables, Staying home, Taking a nap, Going to bed early.

Survivors don't need "thicker skin," they need safer people.

Society can be quick to tell survivors to forgive, heal, and move on from their trauma but slow to offer the tools and support they need to actually heal.

One thing I’m kinda working through when getting to know new people …

Not every conversation is going to be all deep and meaningful and insightful … but there’s still value there.

Small talk leads to big talk.

Yummy

The older you get, the more funnier it is when people in their early 20's talk about something they did "a long time ago."

i think one of the Most important things ive learned is to stop reacting to triggers !! instead when i do feel triggered i take a moment to feel upset or however im feeling and then i reassess, ask myself what triggered me and why did it trigger me, and then find a way to heal from it

I need this hat