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LinkedIn post from Deepak Chopra, reading: "I am deeply saddened by the suffering of the victims in this case, and I unequivocally condemn abuse and exploitation in all forms. I want to be clear: I was never involved in, nor did I participate in, any criminal or exploitative conduct. Any contact I had was limited and unrelated to abusive activity. Some past email exchanges have surfaced that reflect poor judgment in tone. I regret that and understand how they read today, given what was publicly known at the time. My focus remains on supporting accountability, prevention, and efforts that protect and support survivors."

List of the six and a half steps to a good apology: 1. Say you're sorry. 2. For what you did. 3. Show you understand why it was bad. 4. Don't make excuses. 5. Say why this won't happen again. 6. Make amends. 6.5. LISTEN to those you harmed.

This statement from Deepak Chopra (whose MANY emails to Epstein, post-2008 conviction, included "bring your girls") is crap. "Saddened" and "regret" are about CHOPRA, not about how others have been harmed. All he's guilty of is poor judgment! He's a hero! 0/6 in our framework for a good apology.

Volleyball Player Does Sliding Dogeza Apology During an exhibition, Japanese volleyball player Yuji Nishida hit a courtside judge in the back with an errant serve. He immediately sprinted across the court

What a balm it is to watch this superlative, extremely physical apology! kottke.org/26/02/volley...

Fair.

Re: Kanye West's apology: Brain injuries and bipolar disorder do not cause antisemitism. Blaming those things for separating you from your “true self” means not taking responsibility for what you've done ... which is one of the key elements of a good apology.

SorryWatch - Analyzing apologies in the news Our Book! Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies (the hardcover), aka Getting to Sorry (the paperback) is a synthesis of everything we’ve learned from working on this site for the last decad...

We started SorryWatch.com back in 2012. It didn't take long for us to decide not to parse the apologies of mentally ill people. (We've specifically told interviewers we're not interested in talking about Kanye or Roseanne Barr.)

This is not an apology at all.

“Say You’re Sorry” | SorryWatch He took her hand, and seriously said, “I am sorry. I am very very sorry.”

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There's a moment of grace in there.

This is a good apology. Takes ownership, names the offense, acknowledges the harm done, uses the word “apologies” (not “regret,” which is about self rather than other). Also, we generally prefer media not to delete a record of what was published; Kruse preserved AND shared what he did wrong. Bravo.

We would NEVUH

Aw, thank you, Ken!

Did you “forget” you stuck me with the bill for your twelve espressos? | SorryWatch If you messed up somehow, and it still weighs on you, or bugs you when you wake up at four a.m., it might be because that mess is unfinished.

Get to know the work of pioneering psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik! Her research on memory is relevant to your decision whether or not to apologize. sorrywatch.com/did-you-forg...

We do think our book does that. Getting to Sorry, by Marjorie Ingall and Sidan McCarthy, 2024. We look at good and bad apologies in history as well as research on the impact of good and bad apologies.

You’re right, we need to post more. We’re sorry we’ve been MIA! (We are DEFINITELY off Twitter.) :)

#166 - Friendship Repair: How to Say I'm Sorry, Accept Apologies, and Ask for One Marjorie Ingall joins Dear Nina this week to discuss how to apologize to a friend and how to accept an apology.

I got to interview the wise and wonderful @marjorieingall.bsky.social who knows everything there is to know about saying “I’m sorry,” accepting apologies, and soliciting one when necessary. This was such a good (and useful!) conversation.

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Loved talking to you, Nina! Thank you so much.

Photo of an orange street sign that reads "Titi's Empanadas, Coffee & More!", with a cute cartoon of a woman with her hair tied back with a kerchief, holding a plate of stylized orange and yellow empanadas. A small blue Post-It can be seen on the sign.

Photo of a close-up of the Post-It on the Titi's Empanadas sign. It reads, in childlike handwriting, "So sorry It was a dick move ..."

Via @evgrieve.bsky.social; a group of fratty fellows were caught on video stealing an East Village empanada shop's sign. The shop shamed them on Insta & asked for help ID'ing them. The next night, a person in a hoodie, sunglasses & ski mask returned the sign...with an apology Post-It.

The Flannery O'Connor Apology Response

this is...not how you apologize for lying

I do not know who else needs to hear this @sorrywatch.bsky.social @aoc.bsky.social @chrisccuomo.bsky.social , but “Thank you for correcting me” is not an Apology.

Very sincere, very heartfelt

Pat McAfee issues on-air apology to Mary Kate Cornett Months after publicly joking about Ole Miss student Mary Kate Cornett and a since-disproven alleged affair, Pat McAfee apologized on-air.

Time to add "as a girl dad" to a Bad Apology Bingo card! (We already had "behind the scenes," "this has caused," "going forward," "learn from," "source of negativity" and "what was said on the Internet" as bingo squares.) awfulannouncing.com/espn/pat-mca...

Photo of Byron and employee canoodling at Coldplay concert juxtaposed with Byron’s apology: “What was supposed to be a night of music and joy turned into a deeply personal mistake playing out on a very public stage. I want to sincerely apologize to my wife, my family, and the team at Astronomer. You deserve better from me as a partner, as a father, and as a leader. “This is not who I want to be or how I want to represent the company I helped build. I'm taking time to reflect, to take accountability, and to figure out the next steps, personally and professionally. I ask for privacy as I navigate that process. “I also want to express how troubling it is that what should have been a private moment became public without my consent. I respect artists and entertainers, but I hope we can all think more deeply about the impact of turning someone else's life into a spectacle.fi “As a friend once sang: 'Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones, and I will try to fix you.’"

Blaming Coldplay in your apology is certainly a choice.

Unjustly jailed grad student Mahmoud Khalil is suing the Trump administration for $20M, but "would accept, in lieu of payment, an official apology and abandonment of the administration’s unconstitutional policy." abcnews.go.com/US/mahmoud-k...

We do not like them at all, Deborah. They are very sour. sorrywatch.com/i-value-my-i...

I value my idiot constituents | SorryWatch A bad apology can make things worse. This was one of those cases.

"We are all going to die" unpacked. What a foul 'apology'!

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Democrats Don't Need To Apologize. They Need To Attack. As I'm writing this, CNN commentator Van Jones and CNN host Jake Tapper are nodding sagely to each other, calling on Democrats to apologize for a "crime against the Republic." As charter members of th...

Thoughts on NOT apologizing.

A person of interest, who can find? Actually, we’re not interested. Nothing to see here. Sorry! | SorryWatch What happened? Why did the NYPD leave the picture up for so long? Why did it take them 5 months to admit Lee wasn’t really a suspect?

Police apologies are rare, so we had hopes for this one. But, um, questions remain...
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Sorry we're just seeing this now! I wonder if Becky could set aside the whole left-handed compliment thing (she's not wrong), and ask her boss to praise her discovery in another meeting.

Pro tip: When you've been accused of racism after posting racist things about George Floyd and Muslims, maybe don't say "I don't even kill spiders" as evidence of your lack of racism