Mandy Moore

A collage-style cutout of the hashtag ‘#MeToo’ on a textured gray background, symbolizing the movement against sexual harassment and assault.

A man turned a potential job lead into harassment.
Then strangers blamed me for it.
So I wrote it all down.

This one’s for every woman who’s been told to stay quiet.
I won’t.

Read the full story here:
exhotmess.net?p=271

#MeToo #LinkedIn #Harassment #Boundaries

I wrote again: exhotmess.net?p=265

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Just once, I’d like to experience “generational wealth” instead of “generational guilt.”

Thank you!! 🖤

A close-up photo of printed astrology birth charts with planetary symbols and house divisions, partially overlapped, with a black pen resting on top.

Burned out? Stuck? Tired of pretending to care about sh*t that doesn’t light you up?

My chart says: Welcome to your Uranus opposition. Please lose your mind responsibly.

I wrote about it. It’s raw, witchy, and might just hit where it hurts: exhotmess.net?p=256

Two burnt-out matchstick figures sit facing away from each other on a black background, with smoke rising from their heads, symbolizing emotional exhaustion and estrangement.

I’m finally writing about my family’s estrangement.

The gaslighting. The rewriting of history. The silence that hit harder than the yelling ever did.

They called me “crazy” when I stopped performing. I call it waking up. exhotmess.net?p=252

Tabby cat rolling playfully on a dusty patch of ground, stretching with one paw raised and eyes half-closed in the sunlight.

We almost danced to Ed Sheeran.
But then remembered:
We’re the cat-in-the-sawdust type of couple.

New blog post: On love, weird songs, & wanting every freckle... exhotmess.net?p=244

📸 Featuring: a very relevant cat.

Close-up of a person using a smartphone in a dark room, highlighting the anxiety-driven habit of constantly refreshing and scrolling through feeds.

I wrote a new blog post about what happens when the crisis ends, but your nervous system never got the memo.

I keep scrolling, refreshing, trying to “stay ahead”
But it’s not ambition. It’s survival mode.

This is about anxiety after the anxiety: exhotmess.net?p=238

Not everyone’s gonna get it.
You’re not too much.
They’re just not your people.

Are we really going after the ellipses too now?

A humanoid robot with blue-lit eyes and mechanical hands sits at a desk in a modern office, drawing on paper with a pencil. It is surrounded by books, blueprints, and a desk lamp, with a city skyline visible through the large windows behind it.

When you try using AI to make something cute for your wedding and it turns into an existential crisis wrapped in a coloring book.

New post: exhotmess.net?p=204

View from behind the iconic Hollywood sign in Los Angeles, California, overlooking the city and surrounding hills during a golden sunset.

A lot of people talk about playing small.
But not enough people talk about why.

Enmeshed families teach you that your choices don’t belong to you.
That love = control.
That shrinking keeps you safe.

I wrote about the plane I never boarded—and the permission I thought I needed. exhotmess.net?p=193

Freelancing from a hospital room.

Smiling through Zoom calls with 37 tabs open and a partner fighting to get well.

I’m tired. I need steady work. I wrote about it.

exhotmess.net?p=167

To the ones grinding on a Sunday…🥂

When your trauma makes you a better marketer but nobody wants to talk about that part.

Some days, it feels like you’re throwing effort into a black hole.

No applause. No feedback. Just…crickets.

And yet, you keep showing up.

That’s the part no one claps for. That’s the part that builds everything.

If today’s one of those “black hole” days, I see you. You’re not alone.

My partner is home. Crutches. 60 pounds down. I’m running on fumes and folding laundry between job apps—but we made it through the worst.

If you’re someone who’s been rooting for us, thanks.
If you feel like sending dinner vibes, I’m @exhotmess on Venmo. No pressure. Just deep, messy gratitude.

Burnout doesn’t always look like crashing. Sometimes it looks like obsessively tweaking a Canva graphic for two hours because you can’t face the next task. Ask me how I know. 🫠 #CreativeLife

If your content sounds like ChatGPT wrote it…
Someone probably skimmed it, shrugged, and kept scrolling.
Want engagement? Write like you talk.
Want trust? Write like you mean it.

Hot take: We don’t need more tools. We need better instincts.

Marketers obsess over AI, funnels & frameworks—and forget the human on the other side.

Marketing = empathy, clarity, timing.

Some days I’m a brilliant strategist.
Some days I’m a sad sandwich in yoga pants.
Both versions still know how to grow a podcast and rank your content on page one.

Balance. 🧘‍♀️💻 #MarketingLife

Check out some personal essays I’ve been writing on the side at Exhotmess.net!

I just published my first real blog post in 15 years.

It’s about a wedding program, a Facebook troll, and what happens when you spend too long trying to be “professional enough” instead of honest. exhotmess.net/blog/what-th...

When you shrink yourself to be palatable for clients, platforms, or the algorithm…You don’t just lose your voice. You start forgetting what it ever sounded like.

I stopped writing for years because I was afraid of being “too much.” Now? I’m risking being exactly that.

Balancing personal crisis and professional ambition is wild. One minute I’m scheduling podcast interviews and optimizing SEO. The next, I’m crying in a hospital parking lot. Just a reminder: your resilience doesn’t have to look cute to be real.

Your booth is flashy.
Your devs are brilliant.
Your podcast? Sounds like it was recorded in a bathroom stall.

Fix it. 😘

Not at KubeCon. Yes, I’m salty.
Also, yes, I’m for hire.

If you’re thinking, “This booth/panel/party needs sharper content + chaotic good energy,”
Hi, I’m Mandy.

🌀 Podcasting
🌀 DevRel-ish stuff
🌀 Community + content

Boost if you miss me.

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