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I once took Benadryl, had a REALLY rough reaction, it was a med-med interaction issue. So, really rough evening, but also very avoidable afterwards!!!!

this feels like the corollary to we need Mamdani in NYC and an oyster fisherman in Maine and a midwestern dad in Minnesota.

we're supposed to be the party that embraces the fact that we're a diverse and chaotic nation, stop test-polling yourself to generic national oatmeal!!!

why are you telling scary stories when we’re not around a campfire roasting marshmallows???

You could at least have the decency to endorse Mamdani before you swipe his schtick.

This is genuinely some bullshit on bsky's part. A reaction meme of charlie kirk gets a Black person a permanent suspension, but people who actively doxx and spread hate against marginalized people not only get to stay, but het followed by mods?

We see you, bsky, and it's pretty fucking disgusting.

Kinda odd that the reason they denied his appeal seems to be different than the explanation for why they suspended him in the first place.

People putting their head in the sand saying "I don't understand why people are mad." Cmon. Side with management if you want but don't be wilfully ignorant.

odd how the people claiming to build the 'decentralized network of the future' still somehow have veto power over everyone else?

makes u think

FREE LINK NOW

This is a Black person who has been on Bluesky forever and apparently just got banned for calling Jay transphobic.

We are at the "hurting the mods' feelings is a bannable offense" stage of Jay's meltdown, now

autistics can stop assuming everyone they dislike MUST be allistic any day now

some of us are just assholes!

I understand Jay's thinly veiled crash out on a human level — getting dogpiled sucks, and a lot of people act annoying as hell when they don't like something.

But also, all of this happened because BlueSky doesn't respond to good-faith criticism. We tried it and nobody felt heard or respected.

I have also been informed I “[told] autistics to get the entire fuck away from [me]”. I will need help getting away from myself without, like, psychedelics.

It’s also very funny when people insist I dislike autistics and want people to “be normal” 🤣🤣🤣

Aren’t you dressing me down even though you didn’t do me the courtesy of reading what I said???

A lot of people would like a way to shorthand their (or a loved one's) experience of autism for good reasons, and sometimes use bad schemas to try to communicate well. We've tried a lot of options. Every option, including "support needs" can and will be misused by people who insist on bad faith.

One of the difficult things is that while different people truly do have different experiences of autism, it is extremely hard to actually separate people into groups, and it's hard to create any way of separating people out that doesn't manage to fuck EVERYONE over in the end.

and at some point, claiming they're *totally* different things would be weirder than saying that they are a very similar clump of things.

at some point, we do get back to "do you perceive blue the same way I perceive blue", we can't ever know certain things.

But certain strategies/interventions genuinely do help both people who struggle to communicate at all and people who have full time jobs,

and OBVIOUSLY that one incident could just be a good guess, but if it happens over and over and over between two people, both of whom have one particular symptom of autism but one person can communicate more easily than the other.......

"aspergers" used to exist as a separate thing, in which people could typically sort of mostly function, and they eventually decided that it was harder than it should have been to draw the line between the two if they really were separate diagnoses

because they refused to wear socks with toe seams, and they noticed the meltdowns were shortly after putting on shoes, and when the socks were turned inside out, those meltdowns stopped.

We can't ever totally see anyone else's viewpoint, but some things do point to similarities.

Part of the commonality is that we often see that lower-support-needs autistics seem to better understand/predict what's going wrong for higher-support-needs autistics. So, a friend was nanny to a kid who was having more meltdowns and figure out it was seams in the toes of socks,

So it used to be the case that you couldn't have both an ADHD and Autism diagnosis, not formally. So, in high school, when my biggest struggles all fell under ADHD, that was the diagnosis I got, it was pretty obviously correct, which then officially ruled out Autism.

Most people who are self-diagnosed don't actually have asymptomatic autism. It's a lot of people who are in diagnostically disadvantaged communities, and/or people who didn't meet old criteria but do meet current criteria, and/or people who were misdiagnosed/underdiagnosed.

I don't assume I need an extra 8 posts to convince you that disabled people's needs are real, I assume that the right term to search that's relevant to a murky gray area will start to answer a question and you WILL search if it's something you want to know more about 🤷‍♀️

Don't break bread. Don't accept gifts. Make sure you spell their name right. If you're INSIDE the salt circle you're ON the record.

I assume that when I say things like "mild enough" and "truly disabled", that SI will take me at face value; that symptoms can be mild or severe, that nondisabled people (unusual as they are) actually exist.

And when I'm having a conversation NOT with a total stranger, but someone I'm familiar enough with to assume enough knowledge in the domain, I don't assume that SI is going to assume that everyone has perfect self-knowledge and never figure something out about themselves late in life

Just because there's a whole lot of systemic underdiagnosis, just because there's a lot of confusion and stigma doesn't mean that there aren't actual human beings that *genuinely* do not meet the diagnostic criteria, that genuinely aren't disabled.

And on the other:

Just because calling autism in a person as a whole "mild" or "severe" is a thorny topic that ends up doing a whole lot of damage to the community as a whole does not mean we cannot describe a particular symptom for a particular person as mild or severe.

SI asked about two specific edge cases, and I, again, comfortable in the good faith, answered those. Because someone who has trouble with, say, sensory issues but absolutely no other autistic-like traits, struggles, or strengths- truly, not an issue of underdiagnosis- does not have autism.