Tulsa Family Law Center

My ex is trying to access the money in my retirement account because I forgot to remove him as beneficiary after our divorce. Can he do that? Your divorce is finalized, but now your ex is trying to claim the funds on your retirement account. If you never had your ex removed as beneficiary, you'll have to act quickly. We look at the steps yo...

Oklahoma law automatically removes ex-spouses from beneficiary status once a divorce has gone through BUT federal law controls employer plans like 401k accounts. Failing to change your beneficiary for plans governed by fedeal law can lead to unintended consequences.
www.moneymade.com/finance-tips...

What Divorced Men Wish They Had Done Differently In Their Marriages Looking back, these men reveal some of the missteps they made and the regrets they have.

What divorced men wish they had done differently in their marriages...
Spoiler alert - "Communicate"
www.huffpost.com/entry/what-d...

ChatGPT Is Blowing Up Marriages as Spouses Use AI to Attack Their Partners Across the world, marriages are being destroyed as spouses use AI like OpenAI's ChatGPT to attack their partners.

"one person in a couple becomes fixated on ChatGPT or another bot — for some combination of therapy, relationship advice, or spiritual wisdom — and ends up tearing the partnership down as the AI makes more and more radical interpersonal suggestions."
futurism.com/chatgpt-marr...

Scientists found the missing nutrients bees need — Colonies grew 15-fold Scientists have developed a breakthrough food supplement that could help save honeybees from devastating declines. By engineering yeast to produce six essential sterols found in pollen, researchers pr...

Bee fertility alert. Yea for science.
www.sciencedaily.com/releases/202...

I was paid $10,000 to move from New York to Oklahoma. I wasn't sure what to expect, but I've fallen in love with my new home. I received a $10,000 stipend to move to Tulsa, Oklahoma, as part of the Tulsa Remote program. I love the life I've built for myself in my new city.

MAGAt supermajority in state government aside, Tulsa has its plusses. We're working on the rest.
www.businessinsider.com/paid-to-move...

My husband recently passed away with very little in his estate. Now his ex is suing me for child support for the kids they had together. What now? If a spouse passes away and their ex is seeking child support from the estate, it's critical to understand your legal position so you can protect your interests.

"If a person with child support obligations passes away, any unpaid support becomes a claim against their estate."
www.moneymade.com/finance-tips...

Chickens coming home to roost at OSDE.

🎶 We love dirty laundry. 🎶

“She’s In A Sad State”: HR Exec Pictured After Office Romance Gets Busted At Coldplay Concert Kristin Cabot’s wealthy husband Andrew Cabot was away on a work trip in Japan when she was caught getting handsy with her colleague at the Coldplay concert.

The other shoe drops for Astronomer kiss-cam HR exec.
www.boredpanda.com/kristin-cabo...

Angela Paxton could have filed for divorce pn grounds of incompatibility, but chose adultery. This is about more than ending a marriage. A politician herself, Angela seeks to do maximum political damage to hubby. Ken Paxton, the AG who sought medical records of trans childen, asks for privacy. Pish.

"Fanaticism and ignorance is forever busy, and needs feeding. And soon...with banners flying and with drums beating we'll be marching backward...through the glorious ages...when bigots burned the man who dared bring enlightenment and intelligence to the human mind!"
from #InheritTheWind

Kansas Gov. Laura Kelly confirms divorce from spouse of more than 40 years • Kansas Reflector Gov. Laura Kelly and her spouse of more than four decades, former Topeka physician Ted Daughety, made the decision to end their marriage.

One of the travails of public life is interest in your private life.
kansasreflector.com/2025/07/03/k...

I bit my lip at lunch today- 3 times! You cant bite your lip just once. The swelling on the inside if my lip has distracted me all afternoon.

Oklahoma counties with more marijuana grows saw property values surge, study finds Okemah residents told researchers about marijuana growers showing up with wads of cash to buy property at inflated prices. Real estate values increased more in areas with high numbers of marijuana far...

The @dailymail.co.uk building and borrowing heavily from a report first published by @readfrontier.bsky.social www.readfrontier.org/stories/okla...

Property values reach new highs in tiny city due to marijuana boom Property values in a small Oklahoma town have soared as experts believe the legalization of marijuana is behind the boom in prices.

"Oklahoma, dubbed the 'Wild West of Weed', ranked first in the nation in 2024 for the number of marijuana dispensaries per-capita."
www.dailymail.co.uk/real-estate/...

"The key isn’t taking emotions out of the equation. Rather, you want to balance emotions and rational thinking, so you can look back and be proud of what you’ve said or done."

Signs You're a Parentified Daughter—And How It Impacts Your Relationships Parentification occurs when the roles of parent and child are reversed, and a child must take on age-inappropriate caregiving responsibilities to keep a home functioning. Experts share signs you might...

"While all genders experience parentification, it’s a phenomenon that happens mostly to young women...A parentified child often appears mature and emotionally steady, but those traits are often rooted in chronic over-adaptation rather than stability."
www.verywellmind.com/parentified-...

Navigating the Introduction of a New Partner to Children Introducing a new partner to your child after divorce is delicate—here’s how to time it, talk about it, and avoid conflict while putting your child first.

Rushing the introduction of a new significant other can be traumatic for children after their parents separate or divorce, but it can't be postponed forever. Here are some great tips to navigate this tricky time.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/enli...

Wishing everyone a peaceful weekend of protest. #NoKings

Defending education budget cuts in Michigan with misdirection and bad grammar.

The Silent Divorce: When Couples Break Up Without Leaving Each Other — Daniel Dashnaw Some divorces don’t happen with lawyers, custody battles, and separate apartments. Some divorces happen quietly, invisibly—while the couple is still legally married and living under the same roof. ...

"A silent divorce isn’t necessarily the end—it’s a warning sign. And, as relationship research shows, it’s possible to reverse course—if both partners recognize the problem and take action."
danieldashnawcouplestherapy.com/blog/the-sil...

Lakeside Reflections, Wasdale in the Cumbrian Lake District. #water #lake #WastWater #Wasdale #Cumbria #LakeDistrict #landscape #reflections #photography

Divorces tend to spike in early spring and late summer. Here's why Divorce lawyers know certain times of the year are much busier than others. They and researchers have found seasonal patterns around divorce filings.

"A 2016 study from the University of Washington that analyzed divorce filing data across the state from 2001 to 2015, found that they 'consistently peaked in March and August.'"
www.npr.org/2025/06/05/n...

Don't Make Your Child Your Confidant After a Breakup After a breakup, children sometimes become stressed, caught in the middle between their parents. When this happens, parents need to examine their own behavior.

A mission statement for effective co-parenting - what a great idea. It can be an anchor and reference point to keep parents focused on the safety and welfare of their children. I wish I’d thought of it myself decades ago!
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/bonu...

Jimmy Buffett’s Widow and Business Manager Sue Each Other Over Control of $275M Estate Jimmy Buffett’s widow Jane and the late singer-songwriter's business manager have sued each other over the late singer-songwriter’s $275M estate.

Dueling lawsuits in Florida and California seek control of Jimmy Buffett's estate - widow and business manager at odds.
www.billboard.com/pro/jimmy-bu...

Woman files for divorce after ChatGPT reveals husband’s alleged affair through coffee cup reading, ending 12-year marriage A Greek woman used ChatGPT to interpret coffee grounds. The AI suggested her husband was having an affair. This led to a serious marital dispute. The husband denied the allegations on television. The ...

🎶I read it on the coffee grinds, AI says you're no longer mine.🎶
m.economictimes.com/news/new-upd...

6 Types Of Divorce A Couple Can Go Through — By A Psychologist Divorce is a complex, often heartbreaking process. Here are six phases divorcing couples tend to go through.

Like the 5 stages of grief, an author suggests there are 6 "stations" of divorce.
www.forbes.com/sites/traver...

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Let your 2SLGBTQIA+ friends and family know you love them during #HappyPride2025.

A needed timeline cleanse.

Resources - Timothy Snyder Resources from On Tyranny by Timothy Snyder

"On Tyranny" will be #2 on the NYT paperback and #13 in the combined e-book and paperback this week. I am glad it’s useful. New hardback is just out. And free posters to use and share are here.
timothysnyder.org/resources/