Rebecca Foley Askew

It’s uncomfortable to sit with those feelings, but that’s okay. Growth is messy. You are worthy of the work you want to do to uncover who you truly are—not who the world expects you to be.

You don’t have to be everything to everyone. You just have to be you.

When that happens, I try to pause and observe. Most of the time, those feelings of worthlessness show up when I’m tired, hungry, frustrated, or in pain. If I can address the need, I do. And if I can’t, just acknowledging it helps.

This is hard work. I’m not going to sugarcoat it. It’s a lesson I’ve been trying to learn for years. And even now, I still catch myself slipping back into old patterns.

But here’s what staying on that path cost me:
• I was constantly depleted and exhausted.
• I ignored my own needs.
• I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted anymore.

And yet, stepping back from trying to be everything to everyone still feels impossible some days. It’s hard because this behavior isn’t just a habit—it’s woven into how I see myself. The idea of letting go of it feels like I’m unraveling my identity.

One of the most humbling reminders of this has been my daughters. They love me simply because I’m their mom—not because I’m perfect or always give them what they want. Even when I’m short with them or tired, their love doesn’t waiver.

For years, I believed that if I just kept doing more, being more, giving more, then I’d be enough. But I’ve been learning (and re-learning) a different truth: I am valuable just for existing.

Why is it so hard to stop trying to be everything to everyone?

Because for so many of us, we’ve attached our value—our worthiness of love—to how well we protect and serve others.

What if stepping back isn’t failure? What if pausing to breathe, to think, to feel, is actually the bravest thing we can do?

So now I’m curious: when’s the last time you gave yourself permission to hit pause? And did it feel like a gift—or did it feel like guilt? Let’s talk.

But let’s be real. I still beat myself up for not posting.

Not working harder. Not being better. Not feeling like enough.

For so long, I’ve measured my worth by how much I could do for everyone else—and if I wasn’t succeeding instantly at everything, it had to mean I was failing, right?

Wrong.

So, I gave myself permission to step back. And here’s the plot twist: it wasn’t failure—it was a gift.

A break that let me spend more time with my family, reevaluate my priorities, and reconnect with my values for this season of life.

I disappeared for a bit. At first, I told myself it was because I was busy—work, kids, the never-ending mental load.

But to be honest? I was overwhelmed.

The world felt too loud, my career was too unclear, and honestly, the idea of showing up when I didn’t have it all figured out?

Terrifying.

And now, she’s passing that kindness on.

It’s easy to doubt yourself, to feel like you’re not enough. But sometimes, the proof is right there in front of you.

Trusting the process—and myself—feels really, really good.

The other day, my 3-year-old saw her baby sister struggling. She leaned down and said, “How many fingers am I holding up?”

Now, the 1-year-old can’t count yet. But still. My heart? MELTED.

We’ve been using counting to help our oldest calm down when she’s overwhelmed.

Ever doubt your parenting? Same. 🙋‍♀️

But then, there are moments that hit you right in the feels and remind you—you are doing something right.

Here, I’ll share insights, personal stories, and tools to help you nurture self-trust, emotional healing, and body connection. 💛 Excited to connect and grow with this amazing community!

#SelfTrust #EmotionalHealing #MotherhoodJourney #CareerTransitions

I support women in finding balance between their careers and motherhood without burnout or guilt.

I struggled with shifts in my priorities after becoming a mother almost 4 years ago—I know how hard it is to navigate these transitions!

Hi Bluesky! ☁️ I’m Rebecca, a coach passionate about helping women reconnect with their true selves—beyond roles and expectations.

I believe in the power of movement, meditation, and reflection to heal and rediscover who we are.