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Benjamin Britten's birthday.

Another year in which his lack of cancellation becomes more conspicuous.

Is it a matter of time, or does it make a difference that there's no evidence of an offence?

#BenjaminBritten

Therapy for us is like renting an igloo in the tundra by the hour.

we've now seen multiple generations raised in the post-AIDS landscape that are simultaneously terrified of and obsessed with sex. and this is causing some wild cultural distortions, especially in the generation raised on the internet that saw goatse when they were in kindergarten

Did you mean this to be a DM?

No. He showed up on the forum but was not there to hear the advice of the community, only to tell us of his exploits after they happened. He didn't indicate he had this particular action in mind and never mentioned a weapon.

The UK Online Safety Act is here to help you.

normal person: i just want a place to hang out with my friends
tech weirdo: and shitheads
np: no just my friends
tw: but what about hearing alternative views on race and gender?
np: we just want to hang out and goof around
tw: so where do the shitheads fit in then
np: no shitheads
tw: not following

The policy he was protesting is kind of nonsensical, to be fair.

Update: the plan is now to eschew the distractions.

What's the point of even being happy?

tfw your only plan for the future is to keep yourself distracted from the fact there is no plan for the future.

Yes. Exclusively so.

Yes, often and exclusively.

There's a great irony to the fact that expansive porn access may have done far more than any abstinence-only curriculum to promote teen chastity

The vast majority (and some selected minorities) get "undiscoverability" whether we participate or not.

Silver linings edging the biggest clouds I ever saw.

None?

I am posting to point out how silent I, and the people like me, have become.

Technically "without misinformation".

I think people always did this, and it was always normal, but efforts to try and put knowledgeable people at the centre of decisionmaking were more successful for a while.

Eight years since I signed up to VP and since my life changed forever.

I think it changes everyone who encounters it, in some way.

At times, I've been so proud of it I wanted to tell everyone about it.

Sometimes I've despaired that its simple, modest, true message is near-universally rejected.

Transgression can be one of the initial selling points, but once you're into it, it becomes normal to you.

You shouldn't be hurt for pursuing it as a route to happiness once it's inescapably wedged in your brain.

American politics makes a lot more sense when you realize that the GOP is afraid of pissing off the GOP base, and the Dems are afraid of pissing off the GOP base, but neither party is afraid of pissing off the Dem base.

"Die." is not as long a sentence as "Live."

nitro, aged 8-13

RIP nitro, died 21 April 2025

Let us know how that goes.

One of the paraphilias for which an "evolutionarily adaptive" argument has some chance...

"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you could possibly imagine."

Watch as Trump nominates Hesgeth to the vacancy.