Sofia Elizabella Wyciślik-Wilson🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

'passing' is not usually a problem, but then there is the issue of traveling as a queer couple (with my wife and child).

There are sacrifices I'd have to make in order to make this trip possible... Is it worth the hassle and stress?

Seeking advice re traveling to Mexico as a trans woman

Having been invited to a wedding in Mexico, the issue of traveling as a trans woman to a new part of the world looms large. The main issue, I think, is my passport. While the photo reflects me, the name and gender do not. Is Mexico safe for me?

Scrolling through Facebook, some 'suggested friends' are recommended to me. Included among them is a man who groomed me, gave me drugs, and tried to rape me over 20 years ago. Not a memory I needed.

Getting more and more set in the belief that as long as heteronormative patriarchy and capitalism exists trans people will never get our liberation. Our very existence is antithetical to the hegemony and it Has To eradicate us to maintain power

SwearSky Bluesky profanity, as it happens

Anyway…

Here’s a visualization of all the curse words being used on Bluesky in real time.

Each word is a cute fluffy little profane cloud.

It’s oddly soothing.

H/t @bagpuss.org
#SwearSky
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Aw. Thank you... You're so kind 🌷

Pride is a stranger to me, and a extraordinary thing to experience -- but I think that this feeling I'm struggling to understand is pride. There is a warm wash of relief tinged with... delight?... at being seen and having something that came from within me recognised. But, jeez, it's a lot of feels.

I find it so hard to process praise, compliments and general positivity directed towards me (could be ADHD related, but also a childhood devoid of praise), so the result caused me to explode into tears of excitement, disbelief and utter overwhelm.

Slightly reeling from having learned that the essay I wrote as part of my LGBTQ+ affirmative psychotherapy diploma passed! I always expect the worst when it comes to being analyzed / tested / scrutinized, so the fact that the pass was accompanied with some really positive feedback is astonishing

Currently feel as though I've dipped my face lava after a massively brutal laser treatment. Must have been a higher setting today because... ooowwww!

Do people who get upset at the idea of an echo chamber go out of their way to hang out with people they find stupid and annoying in real life

I wish I got the savant type of autism instead of the can’t touch microfibre type of autism.

The vicious, violent and vitriolic bile spewed about and towards trans folk is one example. I simply don't need to subject myself to it; there are no longer any benefits to sticking around. Mastodon proved to be a queer haven for some time, and I somehow forgot that this is true of Bluesky too

The switch feels like moving to a chosen family, and there is beauty in that. The process of building my own community here starts anew, and it is so gratifying to see the upsurge in users. I'm here for queer, trans, weird, lefty, human, beautiful people and content. 🏳️‍🌈🌷🏳️‍⚧️❤️🤘🏻

There are plenty of people who decry running away from a social platform that is home to views that oppose my own, and more still who berate Bluesky for being an echo charmer of liberals. That misses the point entirely. For so many groups, the other place is actively hostile -- me included

I was a very early adopter of Bluesky (user number 52k or so) but haven't really used the account a huge amount. Having hung doggedly on at the other place for far too long (out of nostalgia, FOMO, etc) I've finally cut the cancerous Musk-owned filth from my life completely.

Fuck all this echo chamber horseshit. I don’t come here to have my worldview challenged, I come here to have some fucking fun

jeez... you have my sympathies on many levels. I'm astonished that you were prescribed anything for autism, but I know from personal expression with zoloft (for depression) that it is a fucking bleak drug. Also big feels for not being 'able' to be a trans child, but here's to a happy adulthood! 🌷

No Nut November is easy post-orchi 🙂🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🌷

Want to get a sense of how gender dysphoria feels? Imagine hating parts of your body so much that you wished cancer on them so there was a societally acceptable, unavoidable reason to remove them; I found myself here some years ago but was thankfully supported through proper gender-affirming surgery

As a pansexual, transgender woman who is also asexual, I feel like a walking paradox. A paradox that is complicated by the competing symptoms of autism and ADHD.

A virtual certificate with text "Celebrating 10M users on Bluesky, #52,327, Sofia Elizabella Wyciślik-Wilson🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 ‪@sofiaww.bsky.social‬, joined on May 1, 2023"

Bluesky now has over 10 million users, and I was #52,327!

As stress, expectation and self-doubt build, I find myself falling into old coping mechanisms of self-abuse in various forms. The fact I notice this is a good thing, and that neither alcohol nor drugs are involved is also good. But my sadomasochistic self-relationship remains.

After an introductory Zoom meeting, I'm certain I'm starting my journey to being a therapist in September; one with a firm LGBTQIA+ focus. Time to do something meaningful & helpful for the queer community. Foundation, diploma, placements, maybe a masters. Next few years sorted!

If I talk about being sexually abused, being sexually assaulted, being sexually harassed, being sexually molested, about someone drugging and attempting to rape me, it's not because I want sympathy/ pity; I want you to understand the prism through which I experience the world now

I was officially diagnosed with autism yesterday... so that's a thing. Probable ADHD too, although that has not (yet) been specifically screened for. So that's another thing. Unsure what to make of it all so far, even though it is hardly a surprise.

It has become something of a familiar routine... It's the day after a facial hair removal session, so I can now look forward to several days looking like I have been huffing glue out of a crisp packet in the park

Such a sense of displacement, awkwardness and not fitting in at the moment. I'm not sure if I'm not right for this world, or if this world is not right for me. (Nothing sinister is implied by that)

Euphoria experienced yesterday at the realisation I needed to buy bigger bras.... followed by further euphoria at buying said bras! Go, HRT, go!

Thank you for your words. My assessor is a delight; an amazing and lovely psychiatrist and psychologist... and the fact she is used to working in the LGBTQIA+ space is a big plus for me. But the process is not fun as it involves revisiting so many difficult times.