Author J.A. Nolan

#HealthcareHack
I share this every once in a while, because a lot of people don't know how to get their insurance to actually cover things your doctor prescribes.

LOL Yeah, I know what the science and history books say. We've also, only had written language for about 5,400 years, as far as science and history knows, so far. The "experts" really don't know as much as they pretend to, and the wisest ones admit it.

Modern, sure, but what about before? Just because that is what scientists can currently agree on, doesn't mean it's the whole truth. People have existed a lot longer than that. Nobody knew dinosaurs existed until the late 1600's, and we didn't know what DNA double helix was until the 1950's.

Personally, I think it's weird that anyone cares how strangers live their lives. Mind your own business. Live a good life, and be kind. Love people so well, others will write stories about you, and your name will be remembered long after you're gone. If anything matters, it's that. Loving people.

The audacity, arrogance, stupidity and lack of compassion I've seen in humanity lately, is disgusting and heartbreaking. Life is too damn short to be throwing fits over someone's skin color, who they love, or where they choose to live. Nobody has the right to tell anyone how to live.

Humans have been migratory, wandering the planet, moving all over the place, for millions of years. That is just what we do, because our psychology, our brain chemistry, our innate desire to explore and travel, and find beautiful places that speak to our soul, is part of what makes us human.

You know, I don't think anyone could pay me enough to give a flying fuck about anyone's immigration status. Country borders are imaginary, made-up lines, subject to change every time stupid, egotistical men start another war. We are all humans, sharing the same planet, and nobody owns the earth.

Deal with your bullshit in therapy, so you don't have to pick stupid fights with your girlfriend or wife just to feel better about yourself.

Men: I don't do drama.

Also men: Job hopping, no stable housing, 3 baby mamas, a wife, and a side chick, lying, excuses, projection, gaslighting, hemotional mantrums, avoidant attachment, and addictions. With all the audacity and arrogance to tell women to "pick better"

Sir, you ARE the drama.

What did people do before SNAP?”

They died.

Healthcare, vaccines, disability support, education & food assistance are vital to our survival.

They’re why the average lifespan isn’t 35 anymore

The mark of a good & decent society is whether it sees the value in helping others.

Honestly, I don't care what people seeking assistance at food banks do for a living, whether they work or not, what they drive, etc.

People are hungry. Give them food to eat. Plain and simple.

Wake Up

An authentic apology is not a request for anything. It is a statement of contrition, acknowledging what you did wrong and how it hurt a person, taking accountability, and given freely, with no expectation of forgiveness. An apology doesn't fix broken trust, or magically change patterns of behavior.

A lot of people are conditioned to say "Sorry" and that means someone is also socially obligated to say "OK" and forgive them, and allow them to stick around. Saying words doesn't fix anything. No...an apology without changed behavior to back it up, is just another form of manipulation.

The abuse cycle goes something like this:
1. Future Fake/Love Bomb
2. Get You Emotionally Invested
3. Create Tension/Incident/Argument
4. Systematically Isolate/Destroy Confidence & Self-Esteem
5. Project/Gaslight
6. Blameshift When You React
7. Calm/Reconciliation
8. Set Up For Future Fight

The lies are the closure.
The mocking is the closure.
The betrayal is the closure.
The ignoring is the closure.
The selfishness is the closure.
The disrespect is the closure.
Knowing they didn't really love you is the closure.

There's always closure, just not any apology or accountability.

We can afford to send $40 Billion dollars to Argentina, fund the Israeli genocide of Palestine and build a fucking golden ballroom nobody voted for. This country can afford to keep #SNAP benefits going. Nobody living in the richest country in the world (by far) should have to worry about starvation.

These days, I wish I were a lesbian. It would be easier to be in relationships with people who could actually communicate properly. The last few guys I tried to date either couldn't hold up their end of the conversation or just wanted to debate and argue with everything I said.

Just saw a man on a podcast say "I have a girlfriend I don't really like, but I can't break up with her because she might find someone who actually LIKES her and I couldn't handle that."

*Sigh*

Dude, I hope she hears that, breaks up with you, and fucks everyone in your group chat as revenge.

There's a *reason* more and more women are becoming infertile, and choosing not to procreate at all. If men want to take all the credit for "building society* then they have to also take credit and accountability for why they built one that women and children are not safe in.

We apparently can't afford to feed the kids that already exist, can't keep them safe at school, and don't have much of a future for them to look forward to in this economy...

You know what happens to animals in the wild, when they feel unsafe? They stop fucking and breeding.

Calling women *host bodies* and *incubators* and supporting legislation that destroys women's lives, then expecting women to give a fuck about men's selfish desires for children they *still* refuse to care for, is an absolutely insane delusion.

If a man's patience and presence don't add to the peace or purpose in my life, I don't give a single fuck how big his paycheck or his penis is. I've never been impressed by either of those things in the first place. How a man speaks, and shows respect to me, is what matters most.

Create an environment where she can be soft, not out of fear, but freedom. If your words and actions don't encourage her to express herself, make her feel safe, or help her surrender her masculine energy, you’re not leading. Whatever you're doing is not dominance, it's cowardice wrapped in control.

Staying quiet doesn't mean I have no confidence or nothing to say, it means I know you aren't ready to hear my real thoughts.

Life is hard. The world is a dumpster full of bullshit on fire.

The shit you’re dealing with? You’re not crazy, you’re not too much, you’re surviving the best you can.
Scream. Let it out. Because you have a voice.

You have survived 100% of your bad days, and that makes you a badass warrior.

You have to remind yourself that you are special. Your heart, your mind, your kindness, your energy, your love and care, it can't be replicated or replaced by anyone. If someone doesn't respect you or see your value, and can so easily walk away from you, that says more about them than you.

You can't play a woman who writes #romance novels for a living. Crafting a romance is a lot more than just characters fucking. We notice everything a man says and does, and we know what it means. It's our job to know.
Don't try to play a woman who studies #relationships for a living. You will lose.

There’s a certain level of intimacy when you take off your clothes. There’s another level of intimacy when you take off your, “I’m fine.”