Mistress DragonFly

Is it only me, or do other women think it's super sexy to see their husbands or boyfriends do their household chores while you are relaxing on the couch with a nice Saturday lunch?

If you agree it's probably time to get that #FLR (Female Led Relationship) going.

Thank you so much for your reply @mistresskay17.bsky.social. It is so nice to meet a real life dominant woman. Please stay in touch and never hesitate to reach out if there is anything you'd like to discuss. I live in a small country and the "scene" here is tiny and difficult to become a part of.

I'm wondering if there are any other dominant wives/girlfriends around that use #corporalpunishment CP and #spanking in order to make sure their husbands/boyfriends behave properly. If so, what are your favorite implements? How often do you deliver your CP? I'd like to get in touch and learn.

I have received several questions regarding which #chastitydevice my husband now is locked in. The answer is actually the good old faithful Lori's 2C. Some three months ago, the hinge in front broke. Luckily I found a super friendly jeweler and metalworker in Sweden who was able to repair the cage.

At the moment I'm frustrating the hell out of my husband testing out an "on the fly" censoring tool on his computer. I've set it up so It blocks images of female genitalia but allows male. Both video and still images. From the web or from his hard drive. It isn't perfect but it works quite well.

Hello, friends!
I/we are back on Bsky (if anyone is still following our Bsky blogs) and I have several really good news.

First of all my husband, rohosub, is back in full time chastity and back on a 100 day countdown to his next regular orgasm.
Our FLR is thriving again!

More updates to come.

Some objects are fine for anal play; if they're clean, safe or made for it.
A deodorant stick? A jar? Absolutely not.
Don’t obey risky tasks from a Domme with no real life BDSM experience.
Submission without sense is just self-harm.
RT if you agree!

When you keep your husband pussy free and in long term #chastity, your scent is the best tool to control his behavior.
#flr #scenttraining #pantysniffing #crotchsniffing

I find quite a few professional dominatrices, which I have a lot of respect for, but actually VERY few women practicing true FLRs or living the lifestyle 24/7/365.

After a few months here on Bsky I find that connecting with other strong women is really difficult. There a lots of so called #Dommes out there, but it turns out most of them are just trying trick lonely and vulnerable men into sending them money or buying them stuff. It's SO sad really.

And... Needless to say really. Absolutely no touching or masturbation!

Consequences WILL be severe!

Rules until July 24th:
* My husband will only have have spare-time access to his computer when we're together = less porn and temptation.
* He will still be locked in his regular plastic cage on business trips = still safe when we're apart.
* No daily hygiene (shower & shave) without me present.

I have decided to grant my husband's wish to continue this #chastity period as trust-based without a #chastitycage (until July 24 or until a new secure #chastitydevice can be delivered). We'll take it day by day. As a consequence it will be under much stricter control and supervision by me.

To be honest. A #chastitydevice isn't really secure unless it's either a full belt (which is almost impossible to conceal underneath plain clothes), or secured with a PA-piercing. All manufacturers should take this into consideration.

The base ring of the #Bon4M is a bit too tight, and the opening in the front keeps pinching his foreskin. My husband is quite unhappy with the chastity situation at the moment and has suggested trust-based chastity until a new cage can be manufactured. I'm actually considering unlocking him.

Keeping my husband locked in #chastity is a real hassle for both of us at the moment. Since the good old faithful Lori's tube broke almost 3 weeks ago, we've had to use various old devices. None of them are secure enough, and none of them supports his PA-piercing. He's in the #Bon4M at the moment.

Thank you so much for your reply @lockeduplesbian.bsky.social. This sounds very promising. I'll look into supporting your project. Tech like this will in time make it much easier to keep partners in long-term secure and tamper proof chastity devices.

There is one more criteria for the new cage that I forgot to mention earlier. The new cage will have to be a snug enough fit and small enough to be worn under business attire (suit and tie) on a daily basis.

We've tried the PA "padlocks" before in combination with other chastitycages, for instance the Bon4M and the Mature Metal Jailbird. We found them unusable for long-term wear. Much because of the reason you describe. It will have to be a PA bar like the one on our Lori or Evotion's Orion.

Thank you so much @encajm.bsky.social and @carasutra.bsky.social. I wasn't aware of Oxy shop. I'll have to look into their cage, the Guardian, to see if it customizable enough to meet our needs.

Thank you so much @kinkythingsilike.bsky.social and @denyingthumper.com. Evotion is the second manufacturer I'm already looking into based on an earlier recommendation by Thumper. Steelworxx I'll have investigate further. I believe they had a cage called the Looker 02 in 2010 when we got the Lori.

Thank you so much @mrsmariadom.bsky.social.
Steelwerks Extreme (@steelwerks.bsky.social) is one of the manufacturers I'm already looking into. They make really impressive products.

Amidst the #chastitycage breakdown my husband is also up for his first #prostatemilking in this chastity period. Because I know his libido and his semen buildup extremely well, the draining must take place this coming Friday. I'm not sure I want to peg him. I might use my mechanical #bull.

I really do need to find a new high security #chastitycage for my husband. I'm looking into several alternatives, but I'm also open for suggestions. Criteria: Long-term wear, PA-piercing, security lock/screws, built to specifications, keys/unlocking tool that can be made into a pendant. #Femdom #FLR

Your pheromones are really powerful tools if you use them wisely. When my husband's libido is in overdrive, during his long-term #chastity periods, my scents drives him wild.
When you understand this you'll have a really powerful tool to control and manipulate you husband with.

One of the really big advantages of keeping your husband constantly horny and in long-term #chastity is that you get an awesome sex toy that never runs out of battery.

Hi. Sry about that. I didn't know it had to be configured.
DMs are open now.

#sph #smallpenishumiliation

Ok. Thank you. very much. I've been skeptical myself too, but my husband is curious. Maybe because it looks easier to cope with on a daily basis.

Thank you very much for your reply, @denyingthumper.com. I'll contact Evotion and do some further research. Btw do you have any experience with #chastity tubes? The ones that covers part of the shaft and the glans? Are they worth checking out, or too heavy and thus "riding" too much on the piercing?