Darragh Hayes

- I'm leaning toward playing with the poly mod on because if I get one shot at this storyline with GF, we're gonna f around because I want to maximize the experience 🤣
- Is it worth it to try an origin playthrough? I keep thinking I'll miss the voice acting of anybody too much...

- GF will be staying with me and is looking forward to watching the story unfold. It's her first time. I haven't done the Durge storyline all the way through yet (either one) - dobI want to traumatize her with squirrel-kicking and murder?

Seeing as I have 72 days until top surgery, I am getting important plans in place such as making pro/con lists of which origin character (or potential new class of Tav?) to play a BG3 run with during recovery. Any/all advice VERY welcome. Notes of potential importance:

A smiling, lovely woman with blonde hair in a knitted purple slouch beanie sits with a lucky ass guy wearing glasses, suspenders, and cap behind her, looking at the camera over her shoulder. They are in front of skeins of roving and yarn and shawls made with that yarn that glow under a blacklight

Amazing brilliant lovely GF styled me in suspenders for SAFF and I have never felt more more "fuck yes, I love being in my body" than yesterday - glowing up in the glow yarn booth 😁

Trans guy with brown hair and glasses wearing an orange shirt, green and brown hoodie, and greenish tweed cap takes a rather-pleased-with-himself selfie at a library circulation desk.

A kiddo somewhere between the age of 2 and 3 came in the library earlier and immediately yelled "THERE'S A MAN!" and pointed straight at me at the desk and that made up for the 5000 "ma'am"-s and "young lady"-ies I've gotten recently ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you, kiddo, you're my new favorite patron 😁

Had my top surgery consult this morning, am scheduled for January 12, gf went with me and we had a lovely date afternoon downtown afterward, AND a random older gentleman in Asheville called me sir - a good, good day 😁

GF is watching Shiny Happy People and as she gives me her live thoughts about it I am unpacking my own road from tradwife to transguy and it's blowing my mind.

A part of me wishes I knew how/had the energy to refute the Scott Newgent videos my mom wakes me up sending me at 6am, but mostly I just wish she... you know... would just stop trying to "convince me to not be" trans.

A selfie of middle-aged trans man with brown hair and glasses. He's wearing a gray waffle-weave shirt and sitting in front of a pile of books to be shelved at a library.

9 months on T and I don't care if I have the beard of a 14 year old, it is MINE (my OWN. MY precious.)

It is never too early for ice cold Coke...

Trans man with brown hair and glasses wearing a green hoodie, drinking his fancypants morning coffee

Trans man in girl mode with medium-length brown hair and glasses in a green shirt 6 years ago, drinking coffee and looking sorta like a deer in the headlights

I made coffee that is doing its best to keep the horrors at bay - took a picture for my gf and damn I feel like a fine-looking man 😁 Found a similar shot from Sept 2019 - wish I had better words to explain what it feels like to see *yourself* in a pic rather than "oh... yeah, I guess that's me"

Sending you writerly hugs 🫂

As I told my girlfriend, the motivation behind me thinking of reporting it is a feeling of "I WANT YOU TO KNOW I'M NOT STUPID" thing but that in and of itself is kinda stupid 🤦🤣😭😭😭

Mulling over - with the time stamp and exact location and a witness (my girlfriend in the car), is it smart to call the Sheriff's Dept and... I don't even know what I'd do. Lodge a complaint? "Anyway, tell that guy he was wrong"? A part of me wants to do *something* and not let it go but also 😬😬😬

I saw this and went AHA I DO HAVE CAMERAS but he was too far away to see much - best still pic I could get was of his vehicle pulling out

Sharing this because I was already wound up about it before other world events happened, and now I am struggling to keep myself grounded and resilient and not give into feeling jumpy as fuck. Fuck.

I got pulled over in my own driveway on Sunday night. A cop had followed me two blocks (two turns, one stoplight) home and pulled in behind me to tell me that he would have pulled me over for a ticket if I hadn't stopped at my house because both my taillights were out. Both my taillights are fine. 🧵

Looking like a pumpkin farmer and a big-city gal in a Hallmark movie and we are 💯 here for those vibes.

Do I just pull the band-aid off and do it? Do I ask my coworkers how we'd collectively feel about not putting our names below our photos? (Head librarian has already nixed the "Librarian Not Appearing In This Presentation" ala Monty Python label, so I tried that...)

Have to include my name on a slide this week at our annual report and feeling nervous - first time fully outing myself as trans in a public setting, in the rural South, in a library system that lost one of its member libraries this year when said library pulled out of the system over gay books. 🧵

A sticker with a gray background featuring two skulls encircled with blood droplets. The text on it reads "getting my top surgery at Claire's" with Claire's struck through by a bleeding red line and the words "THE TEMPLE OF BHAAL" written below

I know the niche market for this particular sticker I just got is also at least 50% of my Bluesky folks 😁

Now planning to paint it green and add a little sign that says "No Entrance Except On Potty Business" 😁

A guy with classes holds the chunk of a door he cut out to put in a cat door - the rest of the door is in the background.

A cat door, fitted into its hole in the human door, mid-installation

Fully installed cat door is shut and backbiting with a warm glow

A large tabby cat gives his owner side-eye, standing in front of the cat door warily

Cat dad project was a success 🚪 🐈 🐈

(Also here with the "boy" Halloween costumes, highlights including Frodo Baggins in 5th grade and Dave Lister from Red Dwarf in college 🤣)

I had an almost exact similar experience when I Konmari-ed my house back in 2022, and I didn't realize until reading this how much that was a part of my coming to terms with my gender journey.

Needed this today - thank you ❤️

A pre-T trans man with wearing a hat, glasses, headphones, and a tank top prepares to mow the lawn

A trans man 6 months on testosterone wearing a hat, glasses, headphones, and a tank top prepares to mow the lawn

One year apart - pre-T vs. 6 months on T 😁😁😁

A trans man takes a selfie while laying down, a cat laying on his chest.

Loving the crap out of my face these days 😁

Kash Patel’s Maga kids’ book is embarrassing. I should know – I’m a children’s author The Plot Against the King, a thinly veiled take on the ‘stolen’ 2020 election, has a few hits and lots of misses

Oh yes... feast your eyes upon this crime against children's literature:
www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025...

What do you know, that's exactly what my mom did with my kids 🤮 (and the awful children's books by Kash Patel 🤮).