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Helen Bonnick

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Founder of Holes in the Wall website. Patron of Capa First Response. Recently retired. Still posting about child to parent violence but expect more random stuff too!

51 Followers  |  24 Following  |  54 Posts  |  Joined: 05.12.2023  |  1.6092

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Great to listen to Alice here - raising awareness and letting people know there can be change! #CAPVA

11.11.2025 16:01 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Understanding the Impact of Smartphones on Children and Teens: Β A Guide for Parents - Capa First Response We know that for many children a smartphone is a necessity, so they can communicate with their parents when away from home, use digital travel passes, access

β€œIt can feel easier to say nothing than risk an argument about screen time.”

This article offers insight into how smartphones shape young people’s emotions and behaviour β€” and what helps when setting boundaries.

πŸ“– Read here: capafirstresponse.org/understandin...

#ParentingTeens #DigitalBoundaries

07.11.2025 11:01 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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3 Hr Accredited Child Against Parent Violence & Aggression (CAPVA) Training CAPVA Training: Are you a Professional looking to enhance your understanding and awareness of Child Against Parent Violence and Aggression?

1 week to go!

Don’t miss our accredited 3-hour CAPVA training β€” Β£50, online, interactive, and practical.

πŸ”— Register now: www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/3-hr-accre...

#CAPVA #CPD #AccreditedTraining #LastChance

05.11.2025 14:01 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

A wonderful piece about @rachelcondry.bsky.social who was so instrumental in raising awareness of #CPV from early on and has developed real knowledge and understanding of the issues

05.11.2025 12:39 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Professor Rachel Condry - Reframing crime through relationships Rachel Condry, Professor of Criminology, talks about her career and research on filial violence and matricide.

www.ox.ac.uk/pulse/politi...

05.11.2025 12:37 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 1
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Listen on Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/22ulI7h...
or search 'The Capa Podcast' #TheCapaPodcast
These episodes are a helpful listen to ALL parents, not just families experiencing #CAPVA

04.11.2025 11:01 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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πŸ«‚Parenting through #CAPVA is hard but you don’t have to do it alone. Join our FREE lunchtime drop-ins every Wednesday at 12:30.
Ask questions, learn strategies, and connect with others who understand. πŸ”— Book/more info: www.eventbrite.co.uk/cc/for-paren... #FreeParentSupport #ParentingHelp

03.11.2025 16:53 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Families - Capa First Response At Capa First Response CIC, we understand the challenges that come with child-to-parent aggression and harmful behaviours. We know that families often feel

It can be hard to talk about what’s happening at home β€” but support is here when you’re ready.

CAPA First Response offers information, drop-ins, and understanding for families living with CAPVA.

πŸ’› Learn more: capafirstresponse.org/families/

#CAPVA #FamilySupport #ParentingUnderPressure #CAPAFirst

03.11.2025 11:00 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Why we don't like to use 'Abuse' - Capa First Response Child and adolescent to parent abuse (CAPA) is a serious issue that affects many families, the world over. However, when discussing CAPA, the language we use

Calling child-to-parent violence β€œabuse” can make parents feel ashamed and kids feel labelled β€” often making it harder to get help.

This article explains why shifting language to describe the behaviour as β€œfamily conflict” or β€œexplosive behaviour” can help families feel understood and supported.

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31.10.2025 11:01 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Fantastic to hear about GPs in Australia thinking about this issue. #AVITH #CPV #CAPVA

31.10.2025 18:13 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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newsGP - Adolescent to parent violence: GPs need more support Dr Wei-May Su discusses how GPs can be better supported to work with families within the context of adolescent to parent violence.

www1.racgp.org.au/newsgp/gp-op...

31.10.2025 18:11 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 1
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Recognising parents as victims 'essential' to tackling child-to-parent abuse Experts are calling for urgent reform to the UK's domestic abuse laws to recognise parents as victims of child-to-parent abuse.

www.femalefirst.co.uk/parenting/re...

30.10.2025 22:43 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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3 Hr Accredited Child Against Parent Violence & Aggression (CAPVA) Training CAPVA Training: Are you a Professional looking to enhance your understanding and awareness of Child Against Parent Violence and Aggression?

Gave me the confidence to work in a complex area. Really useful resources and approach.”

Our accredited 3-hour CAPVA training helps you identify risk factors, understand family impact, and develop effective strategies.

πŸ“… 13th November | Β£50 | Online training

πŸ”— Don’t miss out β€” book today:

29.10.2025 14:00 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Many congratulations Penny. A wonderful achievement πŸ₯³

30.10.2025 07:53 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Great to read the report on the evaluation of the YP programme in Norfolk!

29.10.2025 11:46 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Our October Newsletter is now live. πŸŽƒ
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https://bit.ly/3JkiGdE

This month we covered...
πŸŽƒThe Labour Party Conference
πŸŽƒBlack History Month 2025
πŸŽƒNew Govt. announcement to repeal the presumption of parental involvement
And much more...

Subscribe now: https://bit.ly/4oGAZIL

29.10.2025 11:01 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
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The Capa Podcast - Understanding Child Against Parent Aggression, from Capa First Response CIC Podcast Β· Capa First Response CIC Β· Conversations about 'CAPA' - commonly known as Child to Parent Abuse, although we prefer Child Against Parent Aggression. We strive to raise awareness and support for those impacted by CAPVA. In season 2 join Matt our Senior Practitioner and a special guest each episode of season 2, sharing their knowledge and insights. The podcast is suitable for families and professionals working closely with families experiencing harmful behaviours from a child. Season 1 is full of valuable resources, such as school refusal, siblings, neurodiversity and more. CapaFirstResponse.org

Want to understand CAPVA better?

Our podcast features experienced practitioners sharing tools, strategies, and compassionate stories to help parents and carers feel less alone.

Catch every episode on Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/22ulI7h...

#CAPVA #PodcastForParents #FamilySupport #CAPAFirstResp

28.10.2025 11:01 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

An exciting start to my morning - finding a proper analysis of the issues involved around #CPV #CAPVA #CPA and a call for a range of responses!
Thank you Community Care!

28.10.2025 07:35 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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3 Strategies for De-Escalating Violence from Your Child - Capa First Response Violence in the home can be a distressing and frightening experience for any parent or carer. When children direct aggression toward their parents, it not

De-escalation starts with safety and space.

This article shares practical approaches for parents and carers when faced with violence from their child β€” including how to protect yourself without escalating further.

πŸ“– Read more: capafirstresponse.org/strategies-d...

#CAPVA #ParentSupport #Deescalat

27.10.2025 11:01 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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For Parents & Carers Events for parents and carers who are experiencing 'CAPVA' - Child against parent violence and abuse/aggression

πŸ‘ͺ Parenting through #CAPVA is hard β€” but you don’t have to do it alone.
Join our FREE online drop-in every Wednesday at 12:30 AM.
Ask questions, learn strategies, and connect with others who understand.
πŸ”— Register: www.eventbrite.co.uk/cc/for-paren...
#ChildToParentViolence #FreeParentSupport

27.10.2025 18:31 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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'Why recognising parents as victims is essential to tackling child to parent abuse' - Community Care Child to parent abuse is typically either criminalised within the youth justice system or reframed as a child welfare issue, writes Sharon Davis

www.communitycare.co.uk/2025/10/27/w...

28.10.2025 07:30 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 1
Wednesday Webcast - Adoption State of the Nation Conversation I speak to Fiona Wells, social worker, #adopter, #adoptee and #adoption reform campaigner about where we are this #NationalAdoptionWeek.Β  We talk all things adoption, trends, contact, the good and the...

Wednesday Webcast - Adoption State of the Nation Conversation
I chat to Fiona Wells founder of PATCH and campaigner

#Adoption #YouCanAdopt #NationalAdoptionWeek #AdoptionPodcast
www.podbean.com/eas/pb-wdh7q...

23.10.2025 18:16 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
Redirecting...

Last month I met online with a group of UK adoptive dads to talk about the experience of parenting as an adopter.
#CPV #CCVAB #CPVA
We're meeting Mon 27th 8pm. If you're a UK dad want to join email me or DM
al.coates@beaconservices.org
Or you can join us on FB
www.facebook.com/groups/16206...

23.10.2025 18:28 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Professionals - Capa First Response As more and more families are impacted by a child who uses harmful or aggressive behaviour in the home (often referred to as child to parent violence or abuse

Enhance your understanding of CAPVA and improve your practice.

Our tailored training and resources are designed for professionals supporting families dealing with aggression and violence at home.

Learn more here: capafirstresponse.org/professionals/

#CAPVA #ProfessionalDevelopment #ChildToParentV

24.10.2025 10:01 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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How talking less can actually help.
Here's a snippet of the latest episode of #TheCapaPodcast Please do listen & share
creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/...

20.10.2025 08:02 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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3 Hr Accredited Child Against Parent Violence & Aggression (CAPVA) Training CAPVA Training: Are you a Professional looking to enhance your understanding and awareness of Child Against Parent Violence and Aggression?

Accredited CAPVA training for professionals – 3 hours, Β£50
Gain confidence to support families experiencing aggression at home.

πŸ”— Book your spot: www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/3-hr-accre...

#CAPVA #ProfessionalTraining #Accredited

20.10.2025 13:02 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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For Parents & Carers Events for parents and carers who are experiencing 'CAPVA' - Child against parent violence and abuse/aggression

πŸ‘ͺ Parenting through #CAPVA is hard β€” but you don’t have to do it alone.
Join our FREE online drop-in every Wednesday at 12:30 AM.
Ask questions, learn strategies, and connect with others who understand.
πŸ”— Register: www.eventbrite.co.uk/cc/for-paren...
#ChildToParentViolence #FreeParentSupport

20.10.2025 17:31 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Families - Capa First Response At Capa First Response CIC, we understand the challenges that come with child-to-parent aggression and harmful behaviours. We know that families often feel

Looking for help navigating aggression or violence from your child?

CAPA First Response provides a safe, non-judgemental space for parents and carers to learn, connect, and be supported.

Explore the options: capafirstresponse.org/families/

#CAPVA #SupportForFamilies #ParentingHelp #CAPAFirstRespo

14.10.2025 10:00 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Northumberland parents learn self defence against their children Some parents say help is not available quickly enough to deal with violence from their children.

Not that impressed by the headline but it's always good to get the issue on the news.

"Northumberland parents learn self defence against their children'

www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...

14.10.2025 14:34 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
Watch BBC One live - BBC iPlayer Watch BBC One live on BBC iPlayer.

Watch BBC One North East & Cumbria live - BBC iPlayer www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/live...

14.10.2025 18:11 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

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