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Also this is Lansdowne Care Home and when she went in their staff didn't even believe me when I warned them about her cognitive decline, so for god's sake be careful if you have a loved one in there or considering it as an option.

Update: turns out there isn't a specific phone number for East Belfast carers support so have had to ring the main carer service phone number, leave a message and hope for the best.

And when I say anyone I specifically mean anyone in NI who has some kind of experience with this stuff; social care is totally different here than in other parts of the UK. Don't DM as I cannot access my DMs on here.

I'm about to call East Belfast Carer Support (have not even had my Carer's Assessment yet; they were trying to work out who it should be done by; your own SW cannot do it but Mum was wrongly put in rehab in North instead of East Belfast so that complicates things) but if anyone has ideas email me.

They dropped this bombshell on a day when my social worker is off and calling the duty social worker for my SW team seems out because the whole point is it needs to be someone that knows me advocating for me.

They are ignoring info about Mum, about me as presumed carer (she would have care package 4x a day, but Mum has obvious but so far not formally diagnosed dementia, and does not reliably use her walker so needs more supervision, and I can't move in with her), and about the safety of the flat itself.

Emergency/trying to get the word out to everyone who knows me: the home where my mum's been in rehab is trying to discharge her to her flat on Tuesday 20th despite this being VERY dangerous for her, and despite my ongoing crisis mental health situation. They're holding off only on a technicality.

The Innkeeper’s Wife by Clive Henry Sansom I love this byre. Shadows are kindly here. The light is flecked with travelling stars of dust, So quiet it seems after the inn-clamour, Scraping of fiddles and the stamping feet. Only the cows, eac…

Not quite the innkeeper, but there's a really moving poem, The Innkeeper's Wife by Clive Sansom, that has haunted me for years. It's such a beautiful little study of everyday lives and griefs and being in proximity to the momentous, unknowingly. fromtroublesofthisworld.wordpress.com/2025/12/10/t...

For people who've added me on Dreamwidth: I posted an update.

No worries - I see you and have added you back! 💜

Hey folks, I often do posts calling for indie developers to link me their games so I can signal boost them. Today I want to do something similar for all trans creatives.

If you are a trans game dev, artist, writer, streamer or YouTuber, reply here with a link to your work. Only one rule: no GenAI.💜

Cool, have a good weekend and we'll speak soon! 💜

I don't suggest that all of our MPs are venal, self-serving people who don't care. Some are better. But generations of gravy train-riders in NI have taught their successors how to balance in that sweet spot where a mask of caring is just good enough to fool enough of the people, enough of the time.

But the other reason is that not everyone in Northern Ireland is poor and deprived. Some of us - i.e. the small number who are MPs - are living vastly more comfortable lives than everyone else, and many have an eye on becoming even moreso one day, via a peerage. They'll never rock that boat.

Everyone in Northern Ireland deserves better than the leaders we've got. One reason they don't fight Westminster more effectively on things like the inadequacy of the block grant is that it suits them for large numbers of people here to live in poverty and deprivation. It's a divide and rule tool.

Hey, I've owed you a message since circa my birthday - things really fell apart that week and then chaos descended due to caring responsibilities, but I would still like to do a Zoom hang!

I'd meant to attend the Disabled People's Parliament thing at Stormont tomorrow, but my mental health has been so bad lately that I've got limited ability to safely engage with public policy from a disability perspective. The COVID inquiry continues to show how little we matter to leaders; end of.

Covid decision-making in NI was 'chaotic', says inquiry The criticisms were contained in the UK Covid-19 Inquiry's second report, which examined government decision-making at the time.

Tonight I am here mainly to scream about this. They are/always were a load of sectarian cunts who make every decision on basis of orange vs. green, though Sinn Fein noticably forget their sectarian loyalties when fucking over trans people because Keir told them to.
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I wanted to set up new accounts, but then life took multiple very bad turns (as in, three fifths of my family have either been in hospital recently or, in my case, are waiting for a bed) so at this point having inadvertently doxxed myself is the least of my worries.

Weird, now both posts show the new one. This fucking website is so janky. 3/

None of this will happen overnight because my life is fucking on fire at the moment - sorry for any confusion btw as I got distracted and switched my profile pic to match that account halfway through making this thread, looks really weird to me as the first post has my old pic apparently?

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Gonna have to stop using this account and scrap this and all related usernames elsewhere because I am a fucking idiot and have left myself unsafe. If you're a mutual and want to keep in touch please add me @turnedtofire on Instagram and I'll share any new username I make there.

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Hearing aids are also much more effective if you start using them sooner rather than later, and deafness, if you’re not part of the Deaf community, is isolating. (Which may help explain the dementia business, but the isolation is miserable even if it doesn’t affect you that way).

Being autistic and asexual can mean constantly being told you're “missing out” on something essential to being human.
But what if we flipped that narrative?
What if it’s not about “lacking”

Become an Irish citizen by naturalisation - Immigration Service Delivery Please click the following link to read a version of this page As Gaeilge. In This Section What is citizenship by naturalisation? Who is eligible for citizenship by naturalisation? Adult who h...

Naturalisation will give you Irish citizenship, a condition of which is you must >continue< to live in Ireland for a certain length of time. However an Irish passport gives you EU citizenship & the right to travel in the EU. www.irishimmigration.ie/how-to-becom...

Right now British citizens have the right to live & work in Ireland & apply for naturalisation. Domicile is based on the Common Travel Agreement. Given volumes of UK LGBTQ ppl reconnoitring & moving here, it’s important to sort out your plans: www.citizensinformation.ie/en/governmen...

If you are LGBTQ or an Ally, UK Labour hates you. Find a centre, or left wing, party instead. This is a very clear message to Queer ppl from Labour’s front bench. Nasty.

And they're so badly placed - half the time they cut the vlogger off mid-word, never mind mid-sentence.

When Knowing Someone at Meta Is the Only Way to Break Out of “Content BY RINDALA ALAJAJI | September 17, 2025This is the second installment in a blog series documenting EFF's findings from the Stop Censoring Abortion campaign. You can read additional posts here. During

You shouldn’t need an insider at Meta to get your Instagram account reinstated. Free speech and access to essential health information shouldn't hinge on who you know. It’s time for Meta to prove their commitment to fairness and transparency. www.eff.org/deeplinks/2...

Heading out to get my COVID shot but I'll be back in an hour & happy to answer more #ChoicesAnthology questions, so make sure to leave them in the replies of the original post!