Ilse Gevaert

When someone repeatedly accuses you of things that don’t fit,
it’s worth pausing.

Narcissistic personalities often project onto others what they cannot tolerate in themselves.

It’s how blame is shifted, and power is maintained.

We see this in relationships, workplaces, and on a public level.

Executive functioning is one of those terms people hear often. Especially in conversations about ADHD, autism, giftedness, burnout, trauma, or learning differences.
But few people are ever taught what it actually means.

Executive functions are your brain’s “management system.”

Most people don’t ignore abuse of power because they’re naïve.

They ignore it because they believe in a fair world.

🧠 Our brains want things to make sense.

This is what keeps people quiet for far longer than they should.

#AbuseOfPower #Leadership #Psychology #Gaslighting #PowerDynamics

💡 What actually helps:

• Start with short pauses (30–90 seconds)
• Choose active rest (walking, stretching)
• Keep your eyes open if that feels safer
• Press your feet gently into the ground for 10 seconds.
• Relax the muscles in your body for 10 seconds.

Rest Isn’t Easy for Everyone

For many people, rest doesn’t feel restorative.
It feels unsettling, anxiety-provoking, or even dangerous.

🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/if-rest-feel...

#Perfectionism #HighAchievers #RestIsHard
#NervousSystemRegulation #BurnoutRecovery
#ImpostorSyndrome

It’s not rudeness.
It’s not arrogance.
It’s not “bad social skills.”
It’s often gifted cognition.

Ever thought:
“I’m social… just not like this.”

You’re not alone.

#SmallTalk #NeurodivergentMinds #GiftedMinds

Years of hearing that you’re lazy can do real damage to the way you see yourself. So glad you challenge these internalized beliefs.

🧠 ADHD isn’t a motivation problem.
It’s an executive function challenge.

You’re not broken.
You’re not lazy.
You’re not failing.

You don’t need more discipline.
You need better systems.

#ADHD #ExecutiveFunction #Neurodiversity #ADHDLife #Neuroaffirming #WorkWithYourBrain #ADHDSupport

From Narcissists to Borderlines — Why You Can Always Expect Drama

Cluster B personality disorders (borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, antisocial) are often misunderstood, and even more painful to deal with when it’s someone you love.

👉 Read here: resilientminds.blog/from-narciss...

Neurodivergent people aren’t an exception.

They are an essential part of humanity’s design.

It’s time our systems caught up.

Imagine the world we could build if we stopped forcing neurodivergent minds to shrink —
and instead designed environments where they could thrive.

Flexible learning.
Flexible work.
Flexible communication.
Environments that honor focus, flow, creativity, rest, and authenticity.

But today, we put those same minds into rigid systems and then wonder why they struggle.

The truth?
It’s not the people. It’s the system.

If 1 in 5 people think differently, then the “standard” is no longer standard.

It’s outdated.

For thousands of years, humans survived because we had different kinds of brains working together:

– some scanning for danger,
– some creating tools,
– some building new solutions,
– some connecting the group,
– some spotting patterns others couldn’t see.

20% of people are neurodivergent.
That’s not an accident.

Nature intended our species to include out-of-the-box thinkers: such as people with Dyslexia, ADHD, Autism, …

The innovators, the pattern-spotters, the risk-challengers, the deep feelers, the curious wanderers.

#Neurodiversity

Neurodivergent people are living in systems never built for them.

When we force only one way of learning, working, or being, we lose the brilliance of the minds built for innovation, depth, creativity, and truth.

#Neurodiversity

Your body isn’t a machine you can push past the red line.

Rest is not a reward.

Rest is regulation.
Rest is repair.
Rest is how your nervous system recalibrates so you can think clearly, feel safely, and show up as your authentic self.

#rest #mentalhealth

So true!

No evidence to support any link between maternal acetaminophen (Tylenol) intake and autism or ADHD in offspring, a new umbrella systematic review.

BMJ 2025;391:e088141

doi.org/10.1136/bmj-...

#tylenol

Ever walk into a room and instantly feel your stomach knot or your chest tighten, before anyone says a word?

It’s your brain’s safety system at work.

Your brain detects danger before your mind can explain it.

🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/why-your-bod...

#Neurodiversity #Neuroscience

Anxiety has a way of turning our inner lens into a magnifying glass for our flaws.

But others don’t see us through that distorted mirror. They see our effort, our warmth, our resilience.

#Anxiety

It’s very disorienting finding out that certain people lack empathy or remorse. Yes, autism is a form of neurodivergence. Welcome to the tribe ☺️

Talking to a narcissist can feel deeply confusing.

You share your feelings calmly, hoping for understanding, but the conversation twists into blame, denial, or emotional invalidation.

That’s because, for the narcissistic personality, control outweighs connection.

#narcissist

When autistic honesty meets narcissistic control, there’s a clash between authenticity and ego.
Between those who seek truth and those who fear it.

resilientminds.blog/why-narcissi...

#Neurodiversity #Psychology #AutismAcceptance #NarcissismAwareness

Real love isn’t confusing, conditional, or cruel. It doesn’t make you question your worth or walk on eggshells. It brings calm, not chaos.

#NarcissisticAbuseRecovery