Unpopular Opinion Therapist

My beautiful Juniper Lee 🐕

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We spend so much time trying to fix ourselves that we forget the whole point of therapy isn’t perfection, it’s awareness. Once you can see your patterns, you get to decide if you want to keep dancing that same dance or change the song entirely.

Snuffalapagous and Nugget decided that they must have the same roost spot today. 🐓🤣 I am over the song of their people, though. 🤨🎶

Empathy doesn’t mean you have to hand them the keys to your peace and say, “Drive it like you stole it.” 🚗💨

Compassion doesn’t cancel out common sense.

Boundaries aren’t a lack of empathy — they’re the proof you have it… for yourself, too. 💛

Dinner with mom. 😍🥡🥢🥠🍜

Uncomfortable truths: nature’s way of saying, “Hey, you’ve got some emotional homework to do.”

Sure, it feels like pain… but really it’s just growth in disguise, wearing a slightly terrifying mask. 🎭

Impromptu lunch date with the hubby. 💛🦞 #cheesydinnerrolls

Nix and I donned our witch attire, Ophelia wore her pumpkin costume (obviously).

Chili’s for a mom/spawn date — because nothing says bonding like chips! Then off to the Day of the Dead festival to see Caia dance! 💃

A lovely day with lovely people (and one very committed pumpkin). 🎃💛

Spicy, the cat. 🐈‍⬛ The fierce lioness who accompanies me to the cat feeders on the property every morning.😻

“Crazy” is often just… ahead of schedule. ⏰

As a psychotherapist, I’ve learned that people are often labeled “dramatic,” “paranoid,” or “too much” — right up until they’re proven right. Then suddenly it’s “wow, you’re so intuitive.”

It has been chilly the last few mornings, but I have this amazing “portable hug” from Matt and Heather to keep me warm. 🫂 I was VERY excited to find that my kitty Gator, fits in the pocket (he was decidedly less excited about it 🤣).

Halloween hair dye fun! Sadly, this little witch wasn’t well enough to venture out, but Nix and I had fun anyway. 💛🎃🧙🏻👻

Sometimes it’s a trick (your brain convincing you the worst-case scenario is already happening), and sometimes it’s a treatment (you learning to outsmart that same brain with new tools). Either way, we’re doing science and sorcery in here.

Sometimes my patients worry that being disliked means something’s wrong with them.
Nope. It just means you’re a human with opinions, preferences, and probably good taste.

Puppies and sunshine annoy someone. (Honestly, some people would complain about too much happiness if it came with free snacks.)

Hematologist appointment: ✅
Diagnosis: Anemia (aka my blood is tired - me too bro).
Good news: No cancer markers!

Ophelia, however, would like to file an official complaint with management about being separated during the blood draw. 🐕‍🦺💉

Thanks to Ro, who kept things running smoother than my iron.

Sometimes life feels like a beautiful dumpster fire. 🔥

It’s not one or the other — it’s the overlap. The messy, exhausting, ridiculously human middle where things are both f*cking hard and f*cking beautiful.

If you’re in the thick of it today, you’re not doing it wrong. You’re just… living.

Yes Toothless you are a very special Pittopotamus. 🐾🦛

Closure is a myth.

Therapy translation: closure isn’t something they give you; it’s something you claim the moment you stop waiting for what they’ll never deliver.

Farm cat training is going so well! Gator is the best boy! 🐈
#farmlife #barncatsrule

All that milkweed and native foliage is paying off! 🐛🦋
#Butterflies #nativeplants #pollinatorfriendly

You know that stage of healing where you’re simultaneously burning sage and bridges?
Yeah… that one. 😂

You can be gentle and say, “absolutely not.”

Healing doesn’t mean you stop feeling — it means you stop apologizing for protecting your peace.

We had to say goodbye to our sweet kitten, Saoirse, today. 🐈‍⬛💔

She was diagnosed with FIP a devastating illness that she likely had when we adopted her at.

Rest easy, sweet girl. You were so loved. Thank you for spending your short time on earth with us. 🕊️💛

These beautiful humans took me to see “Little Shop of Horrors” at the Lake Worth Playhouse.
#holdontoyourtribe #chosenfamily

In honor of October, I am reading this memoir. 🧙🏻🎃

“We are in a climate crisis, racism is pervasive, inequality is skyrocketing, the middle class is shrinking, and a virus is threatening to kill our most vulnerable and most of us still can’t even agree on if any of this is a problem.“

I’ve said it before, and I will say it again; the black sheep of the family is often the healthiest person in the family unit.

In psychology, this is called dysfunctional homeostasis — the family system organizes itself around keeping the peace with the most reactive person.

It’s unsustainable.

That’s a survival skill, not a relationship skill.

The truth is: you don’t have to perform to be loved. You don’t have to shrink or sparkle just to feel safe. You get to rest. You get to be. 💛

Chaos level: Mom chatting with Cu, Nix buried in homework, and Ro and I knee-deep in brownie batter. 🍫😂

Just finished this one today. 📖 A little light reading, that gave me some new ideas for the garden! 🪴👩🏼‍🌾🥗🥕🥬🫜🫛🥔🥒🍅🌶️
Visit your local library! 📚
#librarylove #gardeningisresistance #bannedbooks #supportlibraries

We live in a world that glorifies doing more — productivity, hustle, commitments. But “more” just leaves us exhausted and disconnected.

Growth often comes from doing less — less of what drains you, less people-pleasing, less chasing things and/or people that don’t align with your values.