Feats of Strength 💙 Trauma Healing

Childhood abuse & neglect aren't just "bad memories."
They are a systematic denial of care, a refusal to grant opportunities to grow & develop in healthy ways.

Recovery isn't about "letting go," its about creating systems of self-compassion, protection & acceptance, every day going forward.
#cptsd

Childhood abuse & neglect aren't just "bad memories."
They are a systematic denial of care, a refusal to grant opportunities to grow & develop in healthy ways.

Recovery isn't about "letting go," its about creating systems of self-compassion, protection & acceptance, every day going forward.
#cptsd

I was not prepared for the grief in trauma recovery, especially for lost time & opportunities. Personal acceptance is a tool, but so is supportive community!

Well, its a working theory!

Congrats on this wonderful exposure to a broad community. May your story spread ripples of healing and understanding! ❤️‍🩹

Maybe it's me, but when trying to dig out of a lifetime of trauma-driven pain & despair, "hope" seems like total BS.

We need a ton of self-compassion, plus the positive harnessing of anger to overcome our inertia.
Hope is born from these, it ain’t the cause of them.
#cptsd #recovery

How to handle it when Trauma Brain makes you feel “crazy.” You are going to run into a bunch of stuff in this CPTSD recovery journey that won’t seem to make a lot of sense.  You’re going to run into memories that don’t seem to fit in with the rest of …

As always, a good read by @drdoylesays.bsky.social...

"When we’re caught in cycles of thinking, feeling, and doing things that we don’t understand and seem to be ruining our life, it’s temping to get frustrated with or aggressive toward ourselves."

useyourdamnskills.com/2025/09/30/h...

How to handle it when Trauma Brain makes you feel “crazy.” You are going to run into a bunch of stuff in this CPTSD recovery journey that won’t seem to make a lot of sense.  You’re going to run into memories that don’t seem to fit in with the rest of …

As always, a good read by @drdoylesays.bsky.social...

"When we’re caught in cycles of thinking, feeling, and doing things that we don’t understand and seem to be ruining our life, it’s temping to get frustrated with or aggressive toward ourselves."

useyourdamnskills.com/2025/09/30/h...

Actually, the typo caused me, just for a second, to think about giving a hug to a pig, who I know to be wonderful emotional support. It made me smile. 😄

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Yeah, I feel it in waves or phases, sometimes I'm good for a bit, and then I'm not. Its tough. ❤️‍🩹🫂

blue flowing waves

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Author Interview: Geoffrey R. Jonas - Feathered Quill Feathered Quill Book Reviews Interview with Author Geoffrey R. Jonas.

Another author interview at the Feathered Quill.

#booksky #beingbroken #IndieAuthorCommunity

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I really appreciate you outlining your "choices" above. It reminds me to think about my values and how I want my actions to reflect things I now hold dear.

The funny thing about recovery is learning so many things I thought were normal (even healthy!) & not worth questioning were just coping mechanisms. I didn't even know processing emotions like anger was a thing I could do, or would even want to try! ha!

For too long I was also "brainwashed" into thinking that all anger was bad, that only abusers show that emotion! But you're 100% correct - feeling anger and letting it flow out in constructive ways is healing.

Re-parenting, or just en-visioning my younger self and showing him care and protection, has been so critical. ❤️‍🩹

Definitely one of those "misery enjoys company" moments. 😂

Thank you, I accept it all with deep gratitude!

I don’t know what stage of healing I’m at, but I’m more sad & more angry than I’ve ever been.

I can finally acknowledge the horrible things that happened to that poor child - me - were undeserved. My heart breaks for that kid. But that's also why I'm furious.
Healing ain't easy.
#cptsd #recovery

Our core belief of defectiveness doesn’t *tell* us we're broken – as if we need convincing over & over & over.

*Knowing* we are broken is the starting point for every moment of self-talk.

Survivors need to remind ourselves of our basic worth. This requires a foundation of self-compassion.❤️‍🩹
#cptsd

Our core belief of defectiveness doesn’t *tell* us we're broken – as if we need convincing over & over & over.

*Knowing* we are broken is the starting point for every moment of self-talk.

Survivors need to remind ourselves of our basic worth. This requires a foundation of self-compassion.❤️‍🩹
#cptsd

Thank you for your research! ❤️‍🩹🙏

Movies that center on “male emotional pain” … w accuracy …

- GlenGary GlenRoss
- Sideways
- About Schmidt
- Brokeback Mountain
- The Deer Hunter
- Fight Club
- Kramer vs Kramer

(pls add to list)

A lot of trauma recovery is understanding how emotions / nervous system dysregulation shape / distort survivors' "truth." Catch phrases like "[nervous system] state shapes story" or practices of cognitive diffusion are built upon the principle that the body/emotions shape perception.

Your metaphor of brake/governor resonates well with my understanding. Especially for low-level constant stress which is often propped up by shame/worthlessness. I think of examples like rumination or emotional flashbacks too, times I'm pulled into the past.

Agreed, I've always liked this definition of recovery: "not letting your past steal resources for living in the present."

Also, my relationship to pain shifted once I learned how to process it, actually feel it, cry & grieve. Learning self-compassionate, not further shame & despair, was critical.

An activated nervous system influences thought. For trauma survivors, it also shapes how we view ourselves - *our state shapes our story.*

We must learn to recognize state-specific thinking & cognitive distortions. Summon self-compassion, regulate, then reflect. ❤️‍🩹
#cptsd #recovery

Self Care September - Day 24: Accept yourself and remember that you are worthy of love actionforhappiness.org/self-care-se... #SelfCareSeptember