Silva Neves

It was wonderful to spend the last 2 days in Manchester teaching on compulsive sexual behaviours at ThIRST.
It was great catching up with the institute director Lohani Noor. She crafted an amazing programme for her students! 💜

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The concepts and related treatments of “sex/porn addiction” are problematic.

Read more about it in the editorial of the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal:
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Statement on behalf of the editorial board from the journal of Sexual and Relationship Therapy: International Perspectives on Theory, Research, and Practice on ‘sex addiction,’ ‘pornography addiction’... Published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy (Vol. 40, No. 4, 2025)

I’m passionate to contribute to the growing awareness of the problematic concepts and related treatments to “sex/porn addiction”.

An important position statement on “sex/ porn addiction” was published last year by the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal.

Read the full editorial here
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www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....

Several mental health organisations made similar statements on this subject.

When I first started in my private practice, I never imagined that my career would take me to beautiful places, meeting great people. I’m so grateful for it all. ❤️🌈☀️

Today is my 12 year anniversary of full time private practice, and it was wonderful to celebrate with one of my favourite colleagues and friends Dr Angela Wright.

In those 12 years, I listened to so many stories, each of them different, and all of them deeply human, holding space to be and grow.

A bit of therapy humour for Sunday.

Indeed, it is a strange time to be a therapist in 2026. It keeps us on our toes! 😁😳😬

Image from Psychotherapy Memes.

Remziye Kunelaki and I had a great afternoon in our favourite independent queer cinema The Arzner. Lovely cocktails and a moving, amazing film: The History of Sound ❤️🏳️‍🌈

I met the most fantastic people and colleagues all over the world in my career so far. And I’m looking forward to more professional connections! 💚

Outside of clinical work, it is an honour to contribute to this specialist field with publications, teaching, speaking at conferences and other bits and pieces to promote sexual health and sex-positivity.

I’m also passionate about supporting therapists do their very best with their clients in my role as a clinical supervisor.

Another year of COSRT accreditation 💚

It is my privilege to work in this specialist field, helping people navigate their sexual and relationship issues, and ultimately improving their overall quality of life.

It was also a great opportunity to connect with Jay Stewart, founder of Gendered Intelligence. 🩷🏳️‍🌈🩷🏳️‍⚧️

I had an amazing night of Queer Joy celebrating the book launch of “The Log Books” by Tash Walker and Adam Zmith.
The book is about the queer voices of the helpline Switchboard, a major part of British queer history, and still going!

Indeed, being listened to is so powerful ❤️🌈

Find A Therapist A list of hand-picked specialists in Compulsive Sexual Behaviours trained by Silva Neves and CICS

If you’re struggling with compulsive sexual behaviours or porn-related distress, you can find a specialist therapist who works with evidence-based, ethical and sex-positive methods here
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www.sexpositivityuk.com/compulsive-s...

If you struggle with compulsive sexual behaviours or porn-related distress, low-cost therapy is available!

Send me an email and I’ll recommend a colleague:
sntherapy@gmail.com

Does size matter? What women really think about your manhood - and if you measure up With growing (ahem!) numbers of men unhappy with the size of their manhood, is bigger actually the better? As it turns out, not quite

Does size matter? 🍆

I was quoted in this piece by Amy Dowrick for Top Sante.

Enjoy!

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It was fab to teach on compulsive sexual behaviours for MSTI. Colleagues were engaged in the subject and asked lots of great questions! 💜🌈

Queering the 7-eyed model of clinical supervision In this essay, we argue that the 7-eyed model of clinical supervision (as well as most models in psychotherapy) are in need of “queering.” What we mean by “queering” is to make the model adaptable ...

You can read more in our peer-reviewed article in the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal that my friend and colleague Rima Hawkins and I co-authored: “Queering the 7-eyed model of clinical supervision”.

www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1...

We can be truly curious about what it is like to be human.

Clinical supervision is an invaluable space to explore our thoughts, feelings and clinical practice.

I believe one of the best parts of our psychotherapy profession is that we never stop learning and we always have opportunities to challenge our ideas, question our theories, think outside the box, examine the societal and cultural constructs that limit us.

If you haven’t watched the documentary yet, please do so when you feel emotionally grounded, there is a theme of serious child abuse.

"Evil Influencer" and the Dark Side of Sex Addiction Personal Perspective: Netflix documentary "Evil Influencer: The Jodi Hildebrandt Story" reveals the dark side of the "sex/porn addiction" industry and its mainstream narratives.

My latest article in Psychology Today is on the new Netflix’s documentary “Evil Influencer” and the dark side of “sex/porn addiction”.

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...

If you’re a clinical supervisor, do you want to dive deeper and unpack dominant constructs?

You can read “Queering the 7-eyed model of clinical supervision” in the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal, written by my friend and colleague Rima Hawkins and I.

www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1...

“Queering the 7-eyed model of clinical supervision”

www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1...

How can clinical supervision be an anti-oppressive space for therapists?

You can read the peer-reviewed article I co-authored with my friend and colleague Rima Hawkins in the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal.

Any life stages can have its obstacles in having good, fulfilling sex.
I spoke with the fabulous Paisley Gilmour for this month’s Men’s Health magazine on having better sex!
It’s always an honour to be invited to be part of these important conversations! ❤️

Today was full of great things. I spent my day doing client sessions, supervision sessions, completed a publishing deadline, and was a guest on a podcast. 💙
I love my job and all the different things I’m able to do. Feeling grateful 💛

I loved teaching on working with grief with GSRD clients for Rainbow Minds’ Diploma in GSRD Therapy.

It’s a heavy topic but it was a great day and a joy to get to know GSRD colleagues who are doing great work for our communities ❤️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️❤️🌈

I’ll be teaching on working with compulsive sexual behaviours with MSTI on Saturday 17th January.

Come and join us!
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