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R. Haven

@rhaven.bsky.social

I write about trauma. Parent. Sensitivity reader. Rep'd by Kaitlyn Katsoupis of Belcastro Agency. Anti-racist, anti-fascist, anti-AI. BLM, Every Child Matters. He/him. Website at www.theirritablequeer.com

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Teriyaki sushi rolls in red sushi boats, with soy sauce in the end compartments.

Teriyaki sushi rolls in red sushi boats, with soy sauce in the end compartments.

This is still the best-looking sushi I've ever made

11.10.2025 16:40 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

KOSA just got a bunch of new cosponsors so, y'all, kindly tell them to knock it the fuck off.
Make this bill unpassable for the sake of keeping the open internet, enough of this censorship BS and "protect the children" excuses.

#savespeech #KOSA #stopkosa

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10.10.2025 19:47 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 317    ๐Ÿ” 427    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1

I put my roommate in charge of crushing garlic for the curry. This was the convo:

Her: How many cloves should I add?

Me: The initial recipe calls for 2, so I usually do 4.

Her: ... Do you though.

Me: Well, yeah, though if the cloves seem too small, I do 6.

Her: Should I do 8?

Me: Yeah, do 8.

10.10.2025 17:40 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Inkwell; October 8 2025 โ€” The Irritable Queer Iโ€™m an award-winning author now? The second place award from the Inkwell Literary Festival! The short story that won, Legend Half-Recalled , is up on Archive Of Our Own now for anyone interested ...

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08.10.2025 12:59 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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No One Was Helping Black Transgender Youth. So These Parents Stepped In. A new nonprofit provides resources to Black families of transgender and nonbinary youth at a moment of heightened political hostility.

A new nonprofit provides resources to Black families of transgender and nonbinary youth at a moment of heightened political hostility.

06.10.2025 15:03 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 365    ๐Ÿ” 240    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 4
Certificate from Inkwell Literary Festival's short story contest. It says '2nd Place Red Haven Berry for Legend Half-Recalled', category ages 25+, presented October 4 2025.

Certificate from Inkwell Literary Festival's short story contest. It says '2nd Place Red Haven Berry for Legend Half-Recalled', category ages 25+, presented October 4 2025.

Thrilled to say that I won SECOND PLACE, adult 25+ category, at the Inkwell Literary Festival's short story contest!

Technically speaking, does this make me an award-winning author? ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

05.10.2025 16:34 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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I Hate You, GenAI; October 1 2025 โ€” The Irritable Queer I missed a post last week! Apologies โ€“ I seem to have all my health-related check-ins grouped around this time of year, and in addition to school and finishing another manuscript, Iโ€™ve been swamped. ...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2025/10/1/i-hate-you-genai

01.10.2025 17:45 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
Red paint background with the cover for Choices: An Anthology of Reproductive Horror on the left. The cover lists the editor, Dianna Gunn, the author of the foreward, Alex Woodroe, and the names of the authors: R Haven, Ondine Mayor, Enoli Lee, Ash Vale, Justine White, Kelli Etheridge, Ava Victoria Black, Allay Rei, Soyam Siddha, Sam Rosewilde, A.H. Davison, Meg Calendaria, KT Wagner, Anne Wilkins, Bogi Takacs, Amanda Cecelia Lang, Elise Scott, Mia Dalia, Raluca Balasa. 

The right side says: โ€œAs the horrors close in around us, we turn to story to process our fears, our desires, and our futures. In Choices: An Anthology of Reproductive Horror, nineteen writers whose reproductive rights are under threat explore the stories of those who, like them, have had their choices stolen from them:
The horror of being forced to carry a child you donโ€™t want.
The catharsis of taking revenge on a man who stole your right to choose.
The terror of being threatened by the world for having a baby you do want because youโ€™re โ€œthe wrong genderโ€.
These stories serve as a reminder of the power of choice and the importance of fighting for every humanโ€™s right to choose their own future.โ€

Red paint background with the cover for Choices: An Anthology of Reproductive Horror on the left. The cover lists the editor, Dianna Gunn, the author of the foreward, Alex Woodroe, and the names of the authors: R Haven, Ondine Mayor, Enoli Lee, Ash Vale, Justine White, Kelli Etheridge, Ava Victoria Black, Allay Rei, Soyam Siddha, Sam Rosewilde, A.H. Davison, Meg Calendaria, KT Wagner, Anne Wilkins, Bogi Takacs, Amanda Cecelia Lang, Elise Scott, Mia Dalia, Raluca Balasa. The right side says: โ€œAs the horrors close in around us, we turn to story to process our fears, our desires, and our futures. In Choices: An Anthology of Reproductive Horror, nineteen writers whose reproductive rights are under threat explore the stories of those who, like them, have had their choices stolen from them: The horror of being forced to carry a child you donโ€™t want. The catharsis of taking revenge on a man who stole your right to choose. The terror of being threatened by the world for having a baby you do want because youโ€™re โ€œthe wrong genderโ€. These stories serve as a reminder of the power of choice and the importance of fighting for every humanโ€™s right to choose their own future.โ€

IT'S OUT TODAY!

The anthology I contributed to, 'CHOICES', focuses on the horrors surrounding reproductive rights and freedoms.

books2read.com/u/3JYo9Q?

30.09.2025 13:05 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I'm on another panel -

Sat, Oct 18 @ 2:30 - Queer But No Romo

I'm so excited!

21.09.2025 15:46 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Attention #CanCon attendees! The schedule is officially out, so I can happily say I hope to see you at these panels:

Fri, Oct 17 @ 5:00 - Sensitivity Reading 101
Sat, Oct 18 @ 11:30 - Renaissance Fall Book Launch
Sat, Oct 18 @ 5:30 - Embodied in Horror
Sun, Oct 19 @ 12:00 - Book signing!

19.09.2025 16:50 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1
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authorrhaven's giveaway for The Other Face of Sympathy on The StoryGraph Do you ever wonder what could turn a person into a monster?ย My book, The Other Face of Sympath...

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US and Canada only; it runs until October 18th!

19.09.2025 16:39 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Stretch Goals; September 17 2025 โ€” The Irritable Queer Since high school, Iโ€™ve thought of myself as a fairly political person. Being in a university politics course has proven to me that I was right on the mark about that, but also underscored how much mo...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-rambli...

17.09.2025 13:55 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

My top surgery scars are hurting - is JKR doing something hateful again?

11.09.2025 21:46 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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The Other Face of Sympathy; September 10 2025 โ€” The Irritable Queer September has been a ride, and it hasnโ€™t slowed down yet! My BOOK is out! My schoolingโ€™s started! Iโ€™m working hard to get a first draft of my latest work-in-progress written! I have an appointment for...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2025/9/10/the-other-face-of-sympathy

10.09.2025 13:26 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Thank you! I hope this book finds its audience!

09.09.2025 15:51 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Agh, I forgot it's US only! I still hope people look into the book!

09.09.2025 15:50 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I don't think I'd have magic, but I would stare at the moon every night hoping for some!

@astralbelle.bsky.social - as a witch, you might be interested in this book, too!

09.09.2025 15:49 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

๐Ÿ‘€

I want this book, so nobody else enter it, okay?

(I'm kidding, please check it out!)

09.09.2025 15:48 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 2    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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ITโ€™S TIME.

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#horror #book #canadian

09.09.2025 14:21 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 9    ๐Ÿ” 11    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 1
Available now at your favorite digital store! The Other Face of Sympathy by R. Haven

Fun facts about THE OTHER FACE OF SYMPATHY! One more day!!!

31. I'm out of facts! I hope you'll look into my book, and order it if it sounds like something you'd enjoy!

books2read.com/u/mvxDE2

08.09.2025 11:57 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Fun facts about THE OTHER FACE OF SYMPATHY! Only two days until release date!

30. I asked for the title on the cover page to be 'the colour of aged paper' to relate to the importance of the books.

07.09.2025 16:12 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Only days awayโ€ฆ

On September 9th, my #horror #book - THE OTHER FACE OF SYMPATHY - makes its official debut.

#monsters are everywhere, readers. And they wrote their stories down.

Keep an open mind, turn the page, and pray that understanding saves you.

Order the book here: books2read.com/u/mvxDE2

07.09.2025 00:08 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 3    ๐Ÿ” 2    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Shot a promotional video or two today, with my 7 year old's help - and she had creepier ideas than I had!

06.09.2025 23:32 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

But it's so good...

06.09.2025 16:55 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
A bowl of sushi rice and a stein of Coca Cola.

A bowl of sushi rice and a stein of Coca Cola.

06.09.2025 16:52 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Coke but CAPITALIZED

06.09.2025 16:23 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Sometimes a meal can be sushi rice and two cans of coke in an enormous stein.

06.09.2025 16:23 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Fun facts about THE OTHER FACE OF SYMPATHY!

29. One of the first tip-offs that something is Different about Otherside Book Exchange is that it doesn't smell like books! I figure if you're anything like me, the lack of book-smell would unnerve any avid reader!

06.09.2025 15:06 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

My ideal career, if I were smarter, would be World's Greatest Detective.

But alas, I am only good at solving fictional crimes.

05.09.2025 16:42 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 1    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Fun facts about THE OTHER FACE OF SYMPATHY!

28. I thought about giving Edward a pet (a dog or a cat, probably the former) but I didn't want anything bad to happen to it, plus I didn't think it'd make sense for Edward to adopt so soon after getting housing.

05.09.2025 14:11 โ€” ๐Ÿ‘ 0    ๐Ÿ” 0    ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1    ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

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