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@rhaven.bsky.social

I write about trauma. Parent. Sensitivity reader. Rep'd by Kaitlyn Katsoupis of Belcastro Agency. Anti-oppression, anti-fascist, anti-AI. BLM. Dismantle colonization and capitalism. He/him. Website at www.theirritablequeer.com

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My favourite part about cats are when they assume you aren’t doing what they want because you’re stupid.

Like, ‘if I just meow pointedly at the door to the furnace room enough, he’ll understand I want inside eventually.’

No bb I get it, I’m just saying no.

02.02.2026 00:05 — 👍 2    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
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29.01.2026 20:55 — 👍 9    🔁 4    💬 0    📌 1
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22 Poems; January 28 2026 — The Irritable Queer I don’t know about y’all, but where I live, we’ve been buried in several feet of snow and had a mild earthquake last night. I think we may have angered Zeus with all our political drama. But enough...

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28.01.2026 16:39 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
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Murder Commissions are BAAAAACK! Dianna Gunn published a post on Ko-fi

Have you ever wanted to die... in fiction?

Or perhaps commit a (fictional) murder of a billionaire?

Well I've got good news: MURDER COMMISSIONS ARE BACK!!!

Hire me to write you a custom death scene - or a billionaire murder scene - today!

1/3

21.01.2026 16:34 — 👍 23    🔁 16    💬 3    📌 12
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Gifted; January 21 2026 — The Irritable Queer I think I’m off to a rocky start on this semester. I don’t feel behind, exactly, but the required reading alone has me exhausted. I’m more tired than I have been. I’m not nodding off in class or any...

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21.01.2026 17:37 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
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I Care Now; January 14 2026 — The Irritable Queer Content warning: talk about death.   First week back at university! My classes are a bit intimidating, but I’m up for the challenge. Or, I hope I am. It’s been very odd; I feel like I have n...

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14.01.2026 19:27 — 👍 1    🔁 1    💬 0    📌 0

It’s an honour to be included in this anthology!

11.01.2026 15:59 — 👍 5    🔁 1    💬 1    📌 0
TYT Theatre | Toronto TYT Theatre is a family-friendly live theatre production company based out of the Wychwood Theatre in Toronto. We produce shows the whole family can enjoy!

Saw Seussical with my kid today, and it was absolutely fantastic ✨ Shout out to www.tyttheatre.com!

11.01.2026 00:41 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

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09.01.2026 16:51 — 👍 2    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
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Like Sandpaper; January 7 2026 — The Irritable Queer Globally, and personally… 2026 is off to a really rough start, and the fact that I snorted aloud while typing that is indicative of how much of an understatement that is. I’m still trying to keep my ...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/1/7/like-sandpaper

If you've had any positive news this first week of 2026, I'd love to hear about it on my site.

Sending love to you all. ❤️

07.01.2026 17:30 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

THREAD: Viral misinformation on US capture of Nicolas Maduro - 4 January

This video, shared by Alex Jones and others, falsely claims to show millions of Venezuelans in Caracas celebrating Maduro's capture.

In fact, it shows anti-Maduro protests in July 2024 over a highly disputed election.

04.01.2026 19:29 — 👍 2104    🔁 1031    💬 25    📌 69

I’m gonna cry I’m HYPE

04.01.2026 18:47 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0

✨Happy 2026! I hope it heralds good news for us all!

01.01.2026 06:04 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
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Proud and Thankful; December 31 2025 — The Irritable Queer It’s been a busy holiday, in spite of existing in the odd liminal space that is ‘the week between Christmas and the New Year’. I’ve been dogsitting, attempting to get a short story written, and lookin...

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31.12.2025 16:37 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

This year, I:

- Released my debut book
- Completed my first term of university
- Went to my first book con
- Did my first book fair
- Wrote a novella
- Put two more books on sub
- Won a short story literary award

… while continuing to single parent!

What did y’all accomplish that you’re proud of?

29.12.2025 00:33 — 👍 3    🔁 0    💬 2    📌 0

And Merry Christmas to you! 😂 (The pun will dia-be-the death of me)

25.12.2025 02:16 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
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Eve; December 24 2025 — The Irritable Queer Foot care is crucial for diabetes. I know this, on a logical level. But doing moisturizing treatments are sensory hell and I hate it . There we go. Complaining out of the way. Overall, I’m in a gra...

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24.12.2025 19:59 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 1    📌 0
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Title Unavailable; December 16 2025 — The Irritable Queer Sometimes, blog posts need to happen a day early. It balances out the late or missed ones. No, but truly, I have an announcement about a hard decision I’ve made. As some of you may know, I had two bo...

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Please give this a read if you're a Kindle user!

16.12.2025 18:55 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
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URGENT – Stop Premier Danielle Smith’s Plan to End Universal Healthcare Alberta Premier Smith has used the Notwithstanding Clause to pass laws that erase rights and silence the courts.

ALBERTA: Bill 11 makes healthcare more expensive for everyone by introducing a two-tier system ⚠️

It lets doctors mix public and private work, giving faster access to people who pay while everyone else waits longer.

Visit NoTwoTier.ca to advocate against this and FOR Universal Public Healthcare.

28.11.2025 05:13 — 👍 54    🔁 42    💬 2    📌 8
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Christmas Electricity; December 11 2025 — The Irritable Queer Somehow, I forgot Wednesday existed as ‘blog day’. In my defense, it was both a birthday and a snow day over here, so I spent the day reading and playing with my daughter, baking lemon bars… you know,...

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11.12.2025 16:03 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
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Statistically; December 3 2025 — The Irritable Queer The Glad Day market came and went, and I’m thrilled to report I sold 40% of my book stock – especially amazing given that I’d set my expectations at selling two or three copies! I hope that everyone w...

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03.12.2025 16:08 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
R. Haven sits at a table covered in a Pride flag. There are several books of ‘The Other Face of Sympathy’, as well as merch like stickers, pins, and temporary tattoos.

R. Haven sits at a table covered in a Pride flag. There are several books of ‘The Other Face of Sympathy’, as well as merch like stickers, pins, and temporary tattoos.

At Glad Day’s Queer Zine and Local Author book fair today - come say hi, #Toronto!

30.11.2025 16:46 — 👍 1    🔁 1    💬 0    📌 0
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Sunday, Sunday, Sunday; November 26 2025 — The Irritable Queer Glad Day book market ! It’s happening this Sunday, November 30th, and I’m going to be there! I really hope to see people, familiar and unfamiliar, because I’m sure there’s going to be a ton of fantast...

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Reminder to #Toronto book lovers - #GladDay is holding a book fair featuring local authors, and we'd love to see you there!

26.11.2025 18:58 — 👍 0    🔁 1    💬 0    📌 0

Going into university, I was honestly the most intimidated by my sociology course.

I just got a grade of 93% on my research essay for that class ✨

25.11.2025 15:02 — 👍 5    🔁 1    💬 1    📌 0

The Hunger Games is still one of the best and most relevant trilogies written in our lifetime.

24.11.2025 00:04 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

Fun fact: you can buy #ChoicesAnthology pretty much anywhere books are sold online... OR order it from your local bookstore - and you can find it already on the shelves in many stores, including several Indigo locations & various indie bookstores throughout Toronto

19.11.2025 23:01 — 👍 5    🔁 4    💬 0    📌 0
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Full Plate; November 19 2025 — The Irritable Queer I can’t remember the last time I felt this busy , and I’m not even doing all the things I’m planning, yet! I’ve got a few cool concepts brewing on the writing side, including a creative nonfiction b...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2025/11/19/full-plate

19.11.2025 16:40 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

My cat is panting, after all the playing she’s been doing. She’s still chasing nothing, though. She’s exhausted but someone’s gotta nyoom around like an idiot ❤️

Gotta respect the grind

15.11.2025 17:50 — 👍 1    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0
Awards Eligibility - Author Dianna Gunn Works eligible for awards in 2025 The following work is eligible for various awards, including the Locus Awards, Stoker Awards, Nebulas, Hugos, and some awards not fully focused on speculative fiction...

Choices: An Anthology of Reproductive Horror is eligible for the Best Anthology category in several awards, and all of the stories are eligible for Best Short Fiction in many awards too! Follow the links below and please consider nominating this incredible book & the magnificent stories within

14.11.2025 20:53 — 👍 31    🔁 17    💬 2    📌 12
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Glad Day; November 12 2025 — The Irritable Queer I’m vending at Glad Day’s Book Fair on November 30th! If you missed my last blog post – which would be understandable, because I updated over the weekend, which isn’t the norm for me – you probably di...

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I’m vending at Glad Day’s Book Fair on November 30th - read more about it here!

12.11.2025 14:31 — 👍 0    🔁 0    💬 0    📌 0

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