Andrea Peters

Side note, I think “our wife” has become the new phrase for “looking for our third.” Same bad gift, different wrapping paper.

I made a video recently in response to someone asking where to meet polyamorous people and I said “go where the polyamorous people go” with some suggestions. Someone different commented to add on “we are looking for our wife and I go to sapphic events.” 🫠

Y’all please just don’t!!!

All can vary, you can’t prepare for all the exact scenarios and how they will play out, plus how you will respond when complex emotions arise. Be easy on yourself, you’re doing your best! ❤️

You will never know all the things you will experience in your future as a polyamorous person. Read the books, listen to the podcasts, etc - but nothing will fully prepare you for once you actually DO experience something new to you.

Talking to straight monogamous people about how infrequently they get std tested is one of the scariest conversations you can have as a queer polyam person. Like oh wow

Keep giving me compliments you think are an insult and I’ll end up with 3 husbands 😂

Commenter says to me: You look like you have 2 husbands

Me: Thank you! ❤️

No one loves to talk about polyamory more than the non non monogamous. And they repeat the same tired takes ::yawn::

You shouldn’t have to apologize for being polyamorous. You shouldn’t have to give disclaimers when discussing the system of monogamy and mononormativity. Take up space. Don’t apologize for being here.

You shouldn’t feel the need to tell someone who’s being hateful towards polyamory that “polyamory isn’t for everyone and monogamy is valid too.” You don’t have to validate the normative way of relating when they’re being negative.

I was heavily taught about sex as a child - but only for reproduction. My mom was a labor and delivery RN so “where do babies come from” was such a natural convo. But sex for pleasure? Consent? Masturbation? Sexual orientation? Etc - NEVER!

Stop Calling Polyamory a “Lifestyle” — An Open Letter to the Polyamorous Community Why am I requesting polyamorous people to stop referring to polyamory as a lifestyle and why do I care? You may be wondering this among many other things or even ready to scroll away. To explain my…

I wrote on this a while back and I think I should do an update. I don’t just get the ick, I find it harmful. Sharing if you’d like to read. Seems as only relationships that don’t conform to a cisheteromononormative box are called a lifestyle.

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Love this!!

Polyamorous people:

How does polyamory show up in your life in ways that have nothing to do with romantic/sexual partners? Or do you find it doesn’t apply outside of partnership?

The polyamory community centers heterosexual relationships far too often.

Yeah, I said it.

Heads up that @ayamisart.bsky.social has been removed from the Polyam Community Starter Pack because their current pinned post declares that they've been a psyop account to sew discord among Leftists. Their replies are full of racist shit, too.

TLC is always going to show some drama so if I accept that it’s of course going to focus heavily on that, I think so far they’re showing good polyamory representation of how they appear in their own content and good rep of a quad.

#Polyfamily

I just finished the first episode of Polyfamily (no spoilers) and I feel good about it so far. I’m obviously going to be biased as someone in community with them and who has seen much of their content (as many of us have).

#Polyfamily #polyamory

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I’ve been neglecting my Bluesky. Usually I post here whatever I post to threads, but sometimes I forget. I find myself still far more engaged over there. Don’t forget to check me out there too, plus IG and TikTok if you like video content.

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I don’t want to be anyone’s everything. I want partners to have a life outside of me. Have hobbies, have friends, have other partners, go on a vacation without me, go for a walk, make your own decisions.

#polyamory

#Polyamory Tip: Close friendships can take up emotional space that would otherwise go to partners. Consider your close friends when you're considering whether or not you're polysaturated!

They only care about themselves, no one else plus refuse to acknowledge their own behavior. “Love everybody” means only those they think deserve their love and they view trans people as beneath them.

For a group of people who loves to scream “I could never be polyamorous, I don’t share!” they sure do love to share their opinions about polyamory

People often forget colonialism didn’t just steal land—it also stole sexual autonomy. Christian missionaries criminalised polyamory, erased matriarchal systems, and forced monogamy to control inheritance and property.

The Spanish burned Indigenous erotic art & labelled Andean shamans “diabolical”.

As an African decolonial socialist activist, I feel that there's a lot that folks in the nonwestern world need to decolonise, and sex and sexuality, are crucial parts of it. There's so much white Western colonial influence in nonwestern relationship with sex, relationships, etc.

Long 🧵

It was on TikTok. I can download but I think (I could be wrong) only downloads my posted videos and not include comments. If someone closes their account, comments disappear so that could impact it too. I wish I did a screen shot at the time but it wasn’t until far later I saw the full humor lol

The best comment I ever got on my social media is when someone told me I’m only polyamorous so I have ideas for content creation

It was a few years ago and I WISH I could find it!

Just so you’re aware, if you wear glasses, that’s a mobility aid and you’re disabled. Glasses are just so normalized that most people don’t see it as such. Imagine if most mobility aids were that way. Imagine how much more respect disabled people would get. It’s completely possible.

All Im gonna say on it is being polyamorous is no more my choice being asexual, being trans, or being demi-romantic.

Folks can choose not to be in a relationship with any sexuality. Like my partner & I choose to be only with one another.

We're both still poly & queer tho.

Sexuality isnt a choice.

Yes, you’re the ONLY person left who is interested in monogamy. There are zero others and it’s the fault of all the polyamorous people on dating apps. So many have multiple partners and aren’t leaving any for the rest of you. Yes that’s it. We get it.