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You're not less worthy or lovable when you struggle, & people who make you feel like you are do not have a role in your recovery.

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I'm very sorry to hear about your loss

Remember, progress in trauma recovery is very often not obvious. We tend not to notice the incremental rerouting of neural pathways & behavioral reflexes until they add up.

Don't assume that because you can't see or feel it today, it's not happening-- just stay consistent.

After trauma, we literally can't just "move on like nothing happened." If we try to continue functioning w/o acknowledging & caring for our injury, we're gonna do more damage-- like trying to keep walking on a broken leg. Denial & "good attitude" can't replace a cast & crutches.

Remember: we can't heal ourselves & bail on ourselves at the same time.

Also remember: Trauma Brain is real good at disguising opportunities to bail on ourselves as super inviting & soothing opportunities for relief & escape.

Stay sharp. Remember what we're doing here.

I'll spoil the suspense: you're not "ready" for recovery. None of us are, at first. We have programming & conditioning designed to keep us isolated & miserable.

EVERY successful recovery was committed to way before the survivor in question was "ready." Every one. Including me.

...plans > goals...

Remember that perfectionism is a tool of trauma programming. It's a bullsh*t distraction from messy, incremental, realistic improvement. F*ck ups & course corrections are how we realistically learn & grow at ANYTHING-- especially trauma recovery. Embrace the mess. Mess is friend.

...the trendening...

Merry Christmas 🎄

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...free fallin...

...maybe I should put a wreath up or something...

We can't control the future-- which we survivors f*cking *love* being reminded of, let me tell you-- but we have our most realistic shot at INFLUENCING it by focusing on habits, systems, strategies, & tools.

I don't believe in therapy "magic." I believe in recovery discipline.

I still play then and again... it can get depressing but on the other hand it's nice to load in and help those blueberries 🫐 ☺️

Trauma recovery self-talk sounds like, "I hate this reaction & I don't understand it-- but I choose to believe it makes sense somehow. I refuse to shame or abandon myself."

Sound cringe? That's because Trauma Brain doesn't want you talking to yourself w/ supportive realism.

The people I know who are most successful in their trauma and/or addiction recovery wake up every day & remind themselves that they are beginners in this whole "recovery" thing-- even after years-- & they're never "too smart" or "too experienced" to go back to basics.

We do not work a successful trauma recovery by accident. Every sustainable trauma recovery begins w/ a daily reaffirmation that my life will prioritize my values, my goals, my needs, & my safety-- & an acknowledgment that doing so will not be easy, but it will be worth it.

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Every time a new tool, skill, or philosophy is introduced to us, Trauma Brain is gonna give us 1,392 reasons why it "won't work" & we "shouldn't even try" it & why anyone suggesting we give it a shot "doesn't get it."

Remember: Trauma Brain is not "objective."

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Service Dog application completed and medical board meets in January. I can make it till then, meanwhile Still dealing with coming out of the mental health closet ... who knew 😅

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Got confused, recounted ... day 59, she's doing ok

Day 50

Day 43 was rough since I had a migraine but she is here... by my side... she's the best

Day 41

Day 38 is a cool one ... grateful for it