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@thegrumpyenby.bsky.social

queer | transmasc enby | bi | kinky | poly | AuDHD | CPTSD | hEDS | covid conscious | serial immigrant | millennial | deeply unserious person | serious AI hater technical program manager at @distributeaid.org πŸ‡¦πŸ‡Ή in Galicia πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No soy expat. Soy immigrante.

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The picture is a close up of a table with several HRT zines that read "All we have is each other - All we have is now". There's a paper bag full of band aids on the table, and a person wearing blue medical gloves is putting a zine into a plastic cover.

The picture is a close up of a table with several HRT zines that read "All we have is each other - All we have is now". There's a paper bag full of band aids on the table, and a person wearing blue medical gloves is putting a zine into a plastic cover.

The picture shows a close up of a table top with band-aids and paper bags. A person is standing by the table and the shot shows their hands covered by medical gloves sorting through band aids.

The picture shows a close up of a table top with band-aids and paper bags. A person is standing by the table and the shot shows their hands covered by medical gloves sorting through band aids.

πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ Our friends in LA just carried out a kit building day for HRT harm reduction supplies πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ

As some of you may know, we did not initially have California in mind as one of the recipient states of the HRT Harm Reduction Toolkits. However...

23.10.2025 16:18 β€” πŸ‘ 183    πŸ” 70    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 3

I’m trapped in our relatively small office with window and door closed and one or both of these dogs have just farted. And I’m in a meeting and trying desperately not to show my anguish on my face.

SEND HELP!

01.09.2025 14:18 β€” πŸ‘ 8    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

protect the dolls? sure. but have you considered saying "protect trans people" instead? I know it doesn't sound as snazzy and cool but you'd be showing that you're an actual ally who cares about *all* trans people, and not just hopping on a trend. transmascs and enbies will thank you.

31.08.2025 17:11 β€” πŸ‘ 10    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

taking a pluslife covid test right now even though there's no reasonable way I could have gotten infected but I feel like shit 😩 the only place I’ve gone in literal weeks was the osteopath on Wednesday. We were both masked with ffp2 and I took the first appointment of the day. Fuuuuck. 🀞🏻

30.08.2025 19:36 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I have become 40% more chill since we moved to Spain and both the upside and downside of that is that I won't just push through to get shit done.

30.08.2025 13:54 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Jonathan, that's two pictures, what if you've doomed us!? πŸ˜‚

btw it's cool to add ALT text to pics so everyone can enjoy them 😊

29.08.2025 23:46 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Post a random picture, or else everything will go bad in September.

29.08.2025 23:41 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Post a random picture, or else everything will go bad in September.

29.08.2025 23:36 β€” πŸ‘ 10    πŸ” 3    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 1

β€œHi, my name is [your name] and I’m a constituent in [town].

β€œI’m calling [Sen/Rep name] to express my outrage over RFK Jr’s attacks on vaccines and public health. He’s putting our lives at risk and I ask that [Sen/Rep] work to remove him immediately.”

Call each Senator (2) + Rep!
πŸ“² (202) 224-3121

29.08.2025 22:12 β€” πŸ‘ 41    πŸ” 22    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 1

hell yeah πŸ’ͺ🏻 I'm mentally seeing the kit count on the not-yet-existing landing page go up πŸ˜† I was working on the copy yesterday so it's on my mind ☺️

29.08.2025 23:08 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

can you explain what kinds of things people are saying? my autistic ass is literally not getting what's in between the lines here. Feel free to DM.

29.08.2025 22:28 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Guess it’s time for your periodic reminder that mentally ill people are actually statistically less likely to commit violent crimes; more likely to be victims; and more at risk of hurting themselves than others. If you want to curb gun crimes curb guns. Threading some studies here!

29.08.2025 16:48 β€” πŸ‘ 1258    πŸ” 375    πŸ’¬ 5    πŸ“Œ 15

that is truly wild! I must be living in a bubble. To a degree being kinky does put you in a bubble but I didn't realise it was this strong.

29.08.2025 22:26 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

I also can't parse what exactly people are taking issue with. The genders we have sex with? The tools we use (strap/no strap)? What could someone else possibly have to say about how I as a trans person fuck unless it's them I'm fucking and then they'll probably say nothing coherent at all for a bit.

29.08.2025 22:25 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

yeah, I also luckily haven't experienced that and am shocked because I didn't know that was a thing. I definitely haven't seen trans people invalidate how other trans people fuck.

29.08.2025 22:23 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

because fuck those people, and I don't mean the nice way but the cannon them into the sun way

29.08.2025 22:18 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

I read your entire thread and I'm trying to figure out (and fail) how to politely ask what the hell kind of circles you've been moving in that you've been getting this kind of bullshit. Not at all invalidating your experience, just wondering/worrying who the hell said these things to you.

29.08.2025 22:18 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

me: why am I feeling so anxious and panicky and wound up today?
my ribs and lungs and autism: AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGHHHH!

it’s a no-chest tape day which means it’s a sports bra day which means I’m in purgatory 😣

29.08.2025 13:28 β€” πŸ‘ 4    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I’m about to order some peanut butter and am sitting here trying to figure out if our dogs would perhaps enjoy crunchy more than smooth. Having dogs is very normal πŸ˜†

29.08.2025 13:16 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

people always say it's hard to write diverse characters, and I have to agree; I really struggle not to automatically make all of them bisexual. Really have to shoehorn those monosexuals in so they're represented.

28.08.2025 22:00 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

In horrible news Maha’s oldest son Sanad who is only 13 went to the American aid site today and was shot in the stomach and died

28.08.2025 20:33 β€” πŸ‘ 197    πŸ” 163    πŸ’¬ 17    πŸ“Œ 5

I know there's a lot of talk about the new covid boosters being hard to get for ppl under 65. Fwiw, I was able to schedule mine online at CVS like normal for next month when they get in the new Moderna boosters.

28.08.2025 18:54 β€” πŸ‘ 27    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

US TRANS FRIENDS: Drop your gofundmes, venmos, whatever ways of supporting you you have, in the replies. Then go make sure you have plans with loved ones to deal with the worst. I love you all. We will get thru it

CIS PEOPLE: Go through the replies and donate money to someone. Then reskeet.

28.08.2025 17:35 β€” πŸ‘ 1770    πŸ” 1677    πŸ’¬ 453    πŸ“Œ 139

oddly (or perhaps not that surprisingly) that’s also how people react to folks who still mask up for Covid reasons. They can’t stand that we’re making them feel bad about their choices. Turns out humans really don’t like being told that they’re the baddies. Just not enough to do better, it seems.

28.08.2025 10:58 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
I Am An AI Hater I am an AI hater. This is considered rude, but I do not care, because I am a hater.

I considered writing a long carefully constructed argument laying out the harms and limitations of AI, but instead I wrote about being a hater. Only humans can be haters.

27.08.2025 17:04 β€” πŸ‘ 4106    πŸ” 1502    πŸ’¬ 142    πŸ“Œ 417
I Am An AI Hater I am an AI hater. This is considered rude, but I do not care, because I am a hater.

β€œβ€¦it is at its core a fascist technology rooted in the ideology of supremacy…” πŸ”₯

this post by @anthonymoser.com slaps so hard, I almost cried at the beauty of it. fuck. thank you for writing that, Anthony!

anthonymoser.github.io/writing/ai/h...

28.08.2025 10:56 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

The comments in this thread took me out 🀣 that "wattpadded across the room" comment not having more upvotes is a crime!

27.08.2025 13:17 β€” πŸ‘ 18    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I made coleslaw and jfc how is the cabbage itself spicier than the gojuchang sauce I dressed it with????? 😳

27.08.2025 13:10 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

his despair

27.08.2025 05:43 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Just to piggyback on this, I just sent this over to a friend of mine who is a regional director for a big grocery chain. His full response:

β€œStrap the fck in. You haven’t seen anything yet.”

25.08.2025 14:38 β€” πŸ‘ 544    πŸ” 311    πŸ’¬ 16    πŸ“Œ 16

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