Šárka Świdziński

"in order to get help, you must behave in a way that pleases me"

this is coercive! expecting the homeless or abuse survivors to act a certain way before you'll help them is oppressive. people in crisis are going to have behaviors you don't like! they deserve help and compassion.

Consensual Kink means we have to treat everyone with respect and human decency (until they've explicitly negotiated away their personhood). If you don't enter into the conversation with that baseline, then no one will want to play with you.

who taught you that your discomfort doesn't matter? that other people's comfort has to be prioritized over your own?

because you don't need to do that. your boundaries matter just as much as everyone else's.

if someone tells you she's a woman, then she's a woman. that's everything you need to know. good people don't need to pick others apart, we just believe women when they confide in us 🤍

Today is #SettlerSaturday, connecting allies to Indigenous families in need. Please explore the tag, like/RT, and donate if you're able. Food insecurity, rising prices, and benefit cuts are hitting Indigenous communities especially hard.

every time a man on the internet whines that women look bad with tattoos, a woman books her next tattoo appointment and gets instantly hotter

yeah, for me it was realizing I wouldn't have a birthday cake because I was too sick to bake one and my benefits didn't cover anything pre-made from the bakery. dehumanizing. horrific system that does this to people who are already suffering.

watching "Bye Bye Birdie" tonight because my partner had never heard of it

always makes me think of when high schools do productions of this show, and the Arts Director has to publicly crown the school's hottest guy who can sing by casting him as Conrad Birdie

boils my piss that social media could be a great force for good, but the people sharing information and building community are frequently drowned out by the few loud people pulling stunts and being mean for attention

Ai is making misinformation 1,000x worse

people on food assistance should be able to get a soda, hot food, a birthday cake from the bakery, or whatever the hell they want. other people's food choices are none of your business.

you should want your food-insecure neighbors to have the same freedom of choice that you do!

the extremely wrong people are also extremely loud, and I hate it

no means no

other things that mean no:
"that makes me uncomfortable"
"maybe another time"
"I'll think about it"
"maybe"
laughing while looking or leaning away
silence
ghosting

to call yourself an ethical human being, you have to respect all forms of no without pushing back

stressful things suck less when you can do them with the right people supporting you

made myself a passionfruit Italian soda as a reward for doing the dishes 🍹

yup! its singular and plural in most Slavic dialects

PSA: "pierogi" is already plural, you don't need to add an s at the end

big thank you to yesterday-me for taking chili out of the freezer to thaw, knowing that today-me would not have the function to cook dinner

Apologizing 101

Accountability: "I said/did ___"
Impact: "My words/actions harmed ___"
Ethics & Boundaries: "___ is important and I fell short"
Corrective Action: therapy, education, oversight, loss of access, time out...
Alignment: "Thank you for telling me so I can work on this"

They ask why Black people can’t get ahead, meanwhile several times in American history Black communities were massacred for being prosperous.

hope you're safe!! 🤍

men who make their living on viewership don't comprehend accountability (or restorative justice). they know defensiveness, tantrums, and view count.
when they feel threatened, they do what they know.

made a dalgona coffee with dark cherry varenye, will be drinking this for the rest of the summer

people are unable to recognize blatant white supremacy (the American Eagle ad) because they have been intentionally and systematically desensitized to white supremacy via decades of propaganda in media, and the racism and eugenics baked into their education

my local Cuban place has caved to popular demand and started selling horchata by the half-gallon, this certainly will fix all my problems

after working/talking for 9 hours straight, I've never been so happy to stfu, stay in my house & order takeaway

designing worksheets and reminding myself, "yes this feels tedious right now but this visual is going to help people understand and revisit this important concept, so you're doing an annoying thing for a good reason"

"I don't like to speak badly of people... but I must break that rule in this case because I hate Hulk Hogan very much. He is a big ugly goon and I want to squash his face."
- Andre The Giant

men whining about Pedro Pascal can only conceive of gaining access to another person's body for sex.

the fact that Pedro and his friends find safety in each other's touch—holding each other platonically as an expression of love with no sexual expectation—is unfathomable to them.

the longer an abuser can keep people confused or "thinking it over," the more time they have to show kindness or good behavior that makes the people in their life want to stick around. it is all an intentional manipulation because they are controlling, and need someone to control.