A. McGarvey

I’m really sorry to see this. You have done good work there. Blessings on your next chapter.

All the time. All the time.

Just said this to my husband. We live in NYC, and he came on the scene not a moment too soon for our son.

Yes. Thank you for honoring her.

nah, he's my neighbor on the UWS. hilariously tho his block overall went for ZM, as per the Times breakdown.

those are holy words. amen.

That photo is something else.

yes, 1000x times yes to this whole thread. think of this often.

Yes, 100x yes

In’shallah, as my Maronite husband would say.

Anna Freud's identification with the aggressor... wish more people understood how this operates. Abuse begets abuse, ad infinitum.

smart money says Adrian Verme*le

I cannot amen this strongly enough.

Yes, 1000x yes. I don’t listen to or watch podcasts. I read transcripts. Every time.

A+

Mine was opening the door and a faceless person in a trench coat is standing there, then countless ferrets jump out from inside the coat and attack. They're like eels, with fur. If you haven't heard it, find the 2006 This American Life episode called "The Hills Have Eyes". You'll never forget it.

I really think there’s more to this story. No idea what. But it can’t just be this.

I don’t believe this is the whole story.

Martin Luther wrote, “Peace, if possible, but truth at all costs.” Yet I’ve witnessed the exact opposite, over and over. Biblical accountability is anathema. (Reaping, sowing, etc etc.)

Church, too. As lay leader, I once had a parishioner complain about the “depressing” disclosure we made to parents that the beloved secretary’s husband who’d been moonlighting as a handyman was also a convicted pedophile using an assumed name—an arrangement that had been blessed by my predecessor.

Psychopathology, en masse. Surreal.

I think about this all the time.

On the old site I had bookmarked something you wrote that was, to me, an incredible distillation of Christian virtue. Solidarity being at the heart of it. Wish I could see it— deleted my account. I saw the very thing you’re describing play out during Covid in our church. Was painful to witness.

agreed. Julian Sanchez said something similar recently.

lol I just referenced Kernberg up thread. I too have made that hot potato analogy. You're completely right. And it's all entirely unconscious.

Yes, 100x yes. It's psychopathology. Wish as many commentators were as familiar with Otto Kernberg as they are with Carl Schmitt.

I really think this is it. I've been so underwhelmed by the profiles that have been written on him so far... he's motivated by something far deeper than ideology.

I think of this at least once a week.

Amen.

I think about this too, except in churches/ministry. The accountability structures are far too weak for a vocation that attracts a wildly disproportionate % of people with narcissistic tendencies and worse.