Ready for Polyamory

Just saw this! Thanks for the tag, I’ll have to check it out! 💜

I don’t know if they’re outside your food profile for some other reason, but a third of a can of chickpeas has about the same protein as an egg, and they are precooked and keep seasoned up in a container well. while they’re better a little seasoned they’re also acceptable taste just rinsed and eaten

A painting of “knowledge crowning Parthenope” where a woman surrounded by nymphs and angels paints a scene, overlaid by text “PEACEFUL POLYAMORY is for you - building stable, intentional relationships and networks that ditch the chaos”

A painting of “knowledge crowning Parthenope” where a woman surrounded by nymphs and angels paints a scene, overlaid by text “join us for the workshop March 9 at 2 pm ET - tickets in bio and stories”

Peaceful Polyamory is the workshop and it comes with a new workbook and a recording if you can’t make it live- 2pm eastern time March 9

peacefulpoly.eventbrite.com

Image of painting with satyrs attacking nymphs and cupids shooting arrows at them, with the text caption “Does your polyamory feel a little too chaotic? Out of control?” Overlaid.

Image of painting with satyrs attacking nymphs and cupids shooting arrows at them, with the text caption “are you chasing rom com vibes and finding fights with partners that go on too long and keep everyone on edge?” Overlaid.

Image of painting with satyrs attacking nymphs and cupids shooting arrows at them, with the text caption “Did your family of origin have a big fights are how we show we care feel and you’ve broken that pattern but making new ones is challenging?” Overlaid.

Image of painting with satyrs attacking nymphs and cupids shooting arrows at them, with the text caption “are you worried your new patterns might mean your older relationships that still fall into those old patterns are worse than the newer ones where you communicate differently?” Overlaid.

Class is tomorrow afternoon and almost sold out, grab your spot while you can! Me and @annie_undone are excited to see you there! 1/2

A photo of a hand holding Expansive Love by Tuck Malloy open to page 28. The text quoted in the post above is in the paragraph above the thumb holding the book open.

“Identifying as a relationship anarchist is not a requirement for practicing something that could be described as relationship anarchy. In fact, rejecting the labels and terms of something to tailor it for your needs is perhaps the most relationship anarchist thing you can do!” -Tuck Malloy

Here’s the preorder link they shared with me: Expansive Love: A Practical Guide to Relationship Anarchy a.co/d/7dMu7Bs

I was very excited to see my advance copy of Tuck Malloy’s forthcoming book “Expansive Love” landed in my mailbox while I was in Chicago. I’m halfway through it and can already confidently tell you that if you’re looking for a practical guide to Relationship Anarchy, you should pre-order it.

Exclusive: Musk aides lock government workers out of computer systems at US agency, sources say Aides to Elon Musk charged with running the U.S. government human resources agency have locked career civil servants out of computer systems that contain the personal data of millions of federal employees, according to two agency officials.

“But her emails!” www.reuters.com/world/us/mus...

Winning Local Protections Advocacy Workshop — OPEN (Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy)

Join us Thu. Feb. 13 at 4pm PT/7pm ET for the “Winning Local Protections” Advocacy Workshop. Learn how cities like Berkeley & Oakland passed relationship rights protections - and how your community can be next.
Register: www.open-love.org/rsvp/advocacyworkshop

Y’all know the only immigrant making your lives worse is Elon Musk, right??

Federal abortion ban has been introduced.
www.congress.gov/bill/119th-c...

If you’re a straight, cis person who has ever posted some version of a rainbow with “you’re safe with me” or similar, it’s time to back up the words with action— contact your reps and ask them what they’re going to do to protect trans people from this administration, particularly trans kids.

What’s your relationship to change like?

Does it make you excited? Anxious? Do you run through all the possible outcomes to psych yourself up? Are you a go with the flow kind of human?

Everyone should practice the way they want! I just see a lot of judgement for people who want a different style than one another with assumptions about what drives that instead of curiosity about each others’ motivations.

- but the social pressure to also be or stay in connection because “asking for parallel is a sign of insecurity” also impacts me.

In me, personally, these two tendencies are at odds because my personal experiences that I project onto others are with past relationships where intensity of kitchen table or higher entanglement relationships was mandated by metamours to manage their feelings-

There is a tendency in community to judge people who practice different styles than we do and attribute their choices to insecurity- and also one to idealize more entangled relationships. I want to gently nudge people to question both of these tendencies when they pop up.

There is no form of polyamory that offers a magic bullet for insecurity and people who feel aligned with the style and ethics of polyamory but struggle with insecurity practice in all formats, from deeply entangled kitchen table polycules to very parallel relationships.

The Inspectors General refuse to leave until the action is taken legally, which they do not believe it was, and neither do senators like Chuck Grassley. This is what not backing down looks like.
static.politico.com/b3/3e/5baf92...

Friendly reminder: there is no obligation to be trying to date all the time or to date every person who is interesting to you, even (or especially) if you are polyamorous

But abuse is doing monogamy wrong and we don’t make tons of content laying out that it’s “doing monogamy wrong” we just call it abuse. I’m happy to talk about abuse/bad high control situations in polyamory- without waving a flag of “your polyamory is wrong” at folks

This afternoon I’m teaching a class, New Year, New Relationships- grab tickets before 2pm ET and you can attend live then or watch the recording on your own time. Newagreements.eventbrite.com

Friendly reminder: the only way to do polyamory wrong is to gatekeep that your way is the only right way.

but you might also make them about someone feeling more supported with a good morning text ☀️ or using a nickname exclusively.

Like, yes, you might have some that are A Big Deal about, eg, sexual health practices or labeling your relationship or “what is cheating” (but even those will likely change with time and circumstance! Just over longer time scales)

Relationship agreements can be temporary and can be “let’s see how this works until our next check in and if that’s actually how we want to support this boundary of mine (or yours)” — they aren’t Forever and Immovable and they aren’t all The Biggest Subjects of the relationship.

It’s a pipeline, clearly 🫨

I recently (last August) had a book published on multipartner homes and my qualitative survey of nearly 500 of them (162 people did detailed follow up interviews) over 50% of whom were actively raising children at the time of our interviews- Monogamy? In this Economy? a.co/d/hrZWNXd

Confirmed that I’m going to be teaching at the Rochester Erotic Arts Fest in April - I know that’s a couple months away, but who will I be seeing there?

Legally each of the children have two parents (one in common) and some paperwork done for emergencies to cover the non-legal parent-child relationship in each case.