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Brian G. Murphy

@thisisbgm.bsky.social

Activist, author, queer theologian, relationship coach πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ ✑️ queertheology.com thisisbgm.com πŸ”΅ Connect with your deepest values and live them out πŸ”΅ Build relationships on your own terms πŸ”΅ Sex & queerness are already holy πŸ”΅ Community is key

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Donate to Support me as I try to overcome obstacles, organized by Esther Hardman My legal name is Esther and I am a domestic abuse survivor. I left my now ex-… Esther Hardman needs your support for Support me as I try to overcome obstacles

Someone I’ve known for years inside the Queer Theology community is facing a really tough time.

They’re a survivor of domestic abuse, living w complex chronic health conditions, and in the middle of being evicted.

Can you join me in kicking in a few points to help: www.gofundme.com/f/continue-t...

09.10.2025 17:15 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Love Beyond Monogamy: How Polyamory Can Enrich Your Spirituality, Faith, and Relationships How Polyamory Can Enrich Your Spirituality, Faith, and Relationships

You should also check out @thisisbgm.bsky.social’s new book, LOVE BEYOND MONOGAMYβ€”it is FAB! bookshop.org/p/books/love...

18.09.2025 12:25 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 2    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

If polyamorous people can figure out how, where, and with who to spend holidays when having 3 partners, I promise you and your parents and your in-laws can work it out.

07.09.2025 19:56 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

oh man, and relatedly "is it 'I'm just trying this to please you' or 'I think it would be a good and healthy thing for me to stretch and grow a bit'????"

29.08.2025 01:45 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

β€œWaiting until marriage”
Monogamy
Chastity cages

are all different flavors of power exchange playβ€”just with varying levels of consent and coercion

27.08.2025 23:10 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Sorting out β€œdo I not like this? or am I ashamed to like this?” is such a thorny task sometimes…

27.08.2025 18:54 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 2    πŸ“Œ 0

Sex and romance are not at odds.
Neither are promiscuity and commitment.
Nor autonomy and interdependence.

You are big enough to hold it all.

26.08.2025 19:56 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

one of my niche skills is regularly leaving one of the top 2 most liked comments on Instagram reels. the sense of creative accomplishment it gives me!

26.08.2025 17:54 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

My friend @thisisbgm.bsky.social wrote a book! I just finished reading an ARC and it’s really good! Check out my review: www.goodreads.com/review/show/...
And pre-order it for yourself!

25.08.2025 21:58 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

When listening on AirPods Pro does music sound better with Apple Music vs Spotify? Or am I having auditory hallucinations?

25.08.2025 22:07 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

It's difficult to estimate just how much pain this man caused, both directly and through others he infected with his hateful perversion of faith and spirituality.

22.08.2025 16:43 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

What Law of the universe is it that all the guys on Grindr want to meet IMMEDIATELY after you give up and get off??

22.08.2025 19:56 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

β€œWe outlived James Dobson” is little comfort to me as I have a number of dear friends who didn’t outlive him.

He’s not the only reason they’re gone, but he made this world a place where it was that much harder for them to survive.

May we see the end of fundamentalism speedily & in our days.

22.08.2025 15:54 β€” πŸ‘ 3    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 1

Additionally no other country on earth has the policing capability of the U.S. And those of us who have spent our adult lives warning about what this would mean, can only say that people should have moved decades ago to shrink law enforcement and in some of our estimation to abolish it.

22.08.2025 12:00 β€” πŸ‘ 288    πŸ” 62    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Ben Rhodes said something on All In last night that I've been saying for years. The reason US fascism is qualitatively different than in other countries is that the U.S. has every possible weapon AND mass surveillance ALREADY. No other country on earth can surveil its population like this one.+

22.08.2025 12:00 β€” πŸ‘ 587    πŸ” 154    πŸ’¬ 6    πŸ“Œ 0

Finally, I said years ago, and folks who have followed me for a long time know this is true, that defunding the police was a moderate demand that is actually the basement in terms of what's needed. I said that liberals will be deeply sorry that they turned that demand into some kind of bogeyman.

22.08.2025 12:11 β€” πŸ‘ 1436    πŸ” 288    πŸ’¬ 21    πŸ“Œ 0

This is how you do it. Troll tweeting is cute for a minute. Actual action and protection is better.

Thanks, gov β€οΈπŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ

22.08.2025 03:20 β€” πŸ‘ 11    πŸ” 4    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

There are parents out there really truly trying to do their best, and they turn to people they trust. And those people pass on bigotry where they should pass on love.

Bad theology kills.

22.08.2025 01:13 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

… And he did.

I think him doing that saved our relationship.

My heart goes out to all the relationships James Dobson destroyed.

22.08.2025 01:12 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

After I came out, there was a period where my dad and I were really struggling to talk about it. A few months in, he told he’d bought a book to try to understand better.

I looked and saw it was endorsed by Focus On The Family.

I told him it wasn’t to going to be helpful and to throw it away…

22.08.2025 01:12 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

There’s a special kind of joy that comes with playing wingman for your husband

21.08.2025 19:56 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Live a life where people aren't happy when you die.

21.08.2025 16:16 β€” πŸ‘ 78    πŸ” 15    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 1

Two things can be true:

- I want to believe no one is irredeemable
- James Dobson made the world a worse place and we are better off without him

May those of us still here work to undo all the harm he wrought upon us.

21.08.2025 16:12 β€” πŸ‘ 9    πŸ” 4    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I would choose to be gay.

Over and over and over again.

15.08.2025 15:54 β€” πŸ‘ 6    πŸ” 1    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

The Confederates never took DC and they’re still made about it. There’s always work to be done to build a more just world, but man oh man is Washington DC precious.

My heart with the city whose shadow I grew up in 🫢

13.08.2025 23:10 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Do you love HIM or do you love what he does for you? How he makes you feel? How others perceive you? There’s a big distinction there.

13.08.2025 18:54 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

i live in the burnt out husk of minneapolis and when i had hair, it was blue! I'm tougher than you snowflakes!

11.08.2025 17:32 β€” πŸ‘ 60    πŸ” 4    πŸ’¬ 4    πŸ“Œ 1
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what if love is bigger, wider, deeper than we ever imagined?
let's find out together.

09.08.2025 16:00 β€” πŸ‘ 5    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I know Cuomo is trying to rehab his image post-primary defeat but honestly... every time he posts, he says something that makes me like him even less

08.08.2025 19:56 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

THANK YOU SO MUCH CLAIRE! You are such an inspiration!

07.08.2025 18:54 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

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