Abel Van Tankerous

Things you should never do to introverts:

1. Show up to our homes unexpectedly.
2. Interrupt our recharge time.
3. Invite people to the outing without telling us.
4. Call us right after we texted you.
5. Ask us “why are you so quiet?”

Introverts don’t recharge with sleep, we recharge by being left completely alone for 3–5 business days

Introverts be like: “I want to be invited, but I don’t want to go.”

A tabby cat sitting on a scratching pad, inside a cardboard framed area with a print of a colourful impressionistic painting in the background. The painting features a field with flowers, against the backdrop of a summer day's sunset.

A work of art inside a work of art.

#Caturday #CatsOfBluesky #Cats

Me: my phone is always on silent

Them: don’t you miss calls?

Me: yes :)

I hate the misconception that introverts don’t like talking. If you’re the right person, we’ll talk to you for hours on end about pretty much anything. However, it’s incredibly difficult to find the right people, so for the most part we’ll probably just stay quiet

Boundaries are how needs live in the world.

Without them, needs get trampled.

With them, we cannot breathe.

Boundaries aren’t selfish - they’re the architecture of connection.

They’re not keeping others out - they’re how we are able to have relationships that honour us.

Yes, you certainly can. Happy birthday, brave boy! ❤️

I hate when someone rings my doorbell because I have to drop whatever I’m doing to be silent and pretend I’m not home

Sometimes you meet someone and you know from the first moment that you want to spend your whole life without them

I find it really sad how many people give up on hobbies and interests that they have just because they are seen as "uncool".

It's ok to be interested in things and nerdy about things.
It's okay to be "weird" and different.

If it's not harming anyone else, what's the problem.

Ways to contact me ranked:

1. Text
2. Email
3. DM

98. Skywriting
99. Smoke signal
100. Call

You don’t need fixing.

You need space.

Understanding.

Regulation (both self and co)

Tools that make sense for you.

You're not broken.

And you're certainly not alone.

People think I'm shy or anti-social when I say I'm an introvert. It might seem that way, but I'm just very aware of who I give my time to

Truth

Autistic needs are not preferences.

They’re not quirks.

They’re not “nice to have.”

They are needs.

Sensory needs.

Emotional needs.

Communication needs.

Movement needs.

Food needs.

Rest needs.

You weren’t “too much.”

You were just never given the language to name what you needed.

I think a lot of neurotypical people would be surprised at just how many autistic people go through life wondering for years if they’re “really” autistic, even after diagnosis

And if they’re “valid” 💔

(I know, because I was one of them)

Can we normalize not taking it personally when someone wants to eat lunch alone? Sometimes people just need 30 quiet minutes to breathe, not make small talk. It’s not antisocial, it’s self-care

So true! ❤️

Did you know...?

Autistic burnout is pervasive, long-term (3+ months) exhaustion, loss of function, and reduced tolerance to stimulus. It's described as being the result of chronic life stress and a mismatch of expectations and abilities without adequate supports.

#iykyk

Having needs doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. Neurodivergent or not, your needs matter… You deserve to feel safe and heard ❤️

#autism #AuDHD #disability

Happy as a clam? A clam? You mean those tiny things with no brain that just chill on the bottom of the ocean all day in their own little private shells and have absolutely no concept of what’s going on in the nevermind I get it now

Increased awareness of Neurodivergence leads to increased diagnoses.

Not because of some fad or social contagion, but because more people recognise it in themselves and want to seek answers.

This happens for literally all other diagnoses too, so it shouldn’t be a surprise.

If someone can't physically/psychologically do something.... They can't do it.

That's not a "failure", it's just their reality.

Vancouver would be such an awesome city if people could actually afford to live there.

The really annoying part of chronic fatigue isn't the physical part. It isn't the stiff joints or the lack of real sleep, it's the mental fatigue.

A few days after intense emotions, I'll get an equally intense loss in energy. I'll be unable to stay awake and the sleep doesn't rest me.

"All men are…”
“All Black people are…”
“All gay people are…”
“All immigrants are…”
“All poorly educated people are…”
“All white people are…”
“All neurodivergent people are…”
“All neurotypicals are…”

If you’ve met one human being, you’ve met one human being.

We are individuals, not stereotypes.

Aww. Such a sweet and thoughtful boy! ❤️