The Divorce Alchemy Collective

When Your Brain Feels Fried: Managing Cognitive Overload in Divorce Feeling cognitive overload during divorce and post-separation abuse? Here’s how to recognize the warning signs and take steady steps to recover.

Read more & get practical ways to clear through the noise:

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When you’re dealing with divorce and an abusive ex, it’s no wonder your brain feels overloaded. It’s not because you’re failing — it’s because you’re doing too much with too little support.

This post is a reminder that even if you’re stuck in the mental fog, you’re not broken.
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This is your regular reminder that JD Vance & Project 2025 want to end No-Fault Divorce.

Take care of it before they take it away - several states already have it in the works

And change back to your maiden name in case they shove through the SAVE Act & try to take away your right to vote as well.

Ask Amanda: Should I Text My Ex? Texting your ex is probably never a good idea when he showed red flags of abuse.

Missing an ex after a breakup is normal, but it’s important to remember the negative experiences. If there’s concern for safety, working with a domestic violence advocate to create a plan—including legal protections—can help ensure a safe and clean break.

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#DomesticViolence

Feeling Drained After Court? Use These Simple Art Practices to Regroup Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm.

Feeling drained after court? Use these simple art practices to regroup.

Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained & dysregulated. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm

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Feeling Drained After Court? Use These Simple Art Practices to Regroup Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm.

Feeling drained after court? Use these simple art practices to regroup.

Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained & dysregulated. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm

divorcealchemycollective.com/feeling-drai...

How Mutual Protection Orders Harm Victims & What To Do Learn how mutual protection orders can empower abusers and what survivors and victims can do to protect themselves.

When both parties are issued protective orders, the true victim faces increased risks, including harassment, false accusations and legal consequences. This can also endanger involved children and lead to severe emotional and practical repercussions.

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#DomesticViolence

“I loathe the idea that, if they are abused, an already dismissive justice system will be an even less reliable ally, especially as Trump will appoint more judges over the next four years.”

Great piece by @jessgrose.bsky.social

Abuse doesn’t usually start with yelling or obvious aggression.

It more often than not starts quietly:

*You stop texting your best friend because it “upsets” the abuser.

*You start avoiding family because the abuser claims they’re “too dramatic” or “disrespectful.”

#coercivecontrol
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Art has a long history as a form of resistance.

When words don’t feel safe, are hard to find, or aren’t enough, creativity can be a quiet but powerful response to difficult times - a way to reclaim space and your voice, even when the world feels out of control. #artasresistance

10 Patterns of Verbal Abuse Verbal abuse often takes on these patterns. Learn the ten most common patterns from author Patricia Evans.

Verbal abuse can be harder to recognize than you may think.

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#DomesticViolence #Abuse #DomesticAbuse

Five Art for Healing Practices After Divorce & Coercive Control Art can help you heal when words fall short. These five creative practices let you process emotions and reclaim your voice. No artistic skills needed. You just need a willingness to show up for yourse...

And while there, be sure to grab your cheat sheet of the practices to keep handy

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Art has been a big part of my healing from trauma and abuse.

I think everyone can benefit from an art practice, but I know it can feel intimidating or inaccessible for many.

So I put together 5 art practices for healing that are helpful whether you feel creative or not.

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🗣️This is your weekly reminder that Project 2025 and JD Vance want to end No-Fault Divorce, in addition to taking away your right to vote.

Please get your things in order and leave while you still can.

This is not hyperbole. You’ve witnessed the last month…

A graphic from a Men’s Equality group claiming men are the victims of the following: Areas of Male Inequality 1. Education 2. Health 3. The Boy Crisis 4. False Allegations 5. Violence against Men 6. Shared Parenting 7. Victims of Crime 8. Partner Abuse 9. Homelessness 10. Workplace Injury 11. Reproductive Rights 12. Media Bias

I mean, come on — Health? Reproductive right?

This article is alarming but not surprising given the entire MAGA/Project 2025 is based on their perceived victimization.

Hatred of DEI is as much abt male supremacy as it is about white supremacy.

Five Art for Healing Practices After Divorce & Coercive Control Art can help you heal when words fall short. These five creative practices let you process emotions and reclaim your voice. No artistic skills needed. You just need a willingness to show up for yourse...

And while there, be sure to grab your cheat sheet of the practices to keep handy

divorcealchemycollective.com/five-art-for...

Art has been a big part of my healing from trauma and abuse.

I think everyone can benefit from an art practice, but I know it can feel intimidating or inaccessible for many.

So I put together 5 art practices for healing that are helpful whether you feel creative or not.

Link below 👇🏼

I’ll continue to highlight these connections because advocating against abuse means addressing systems that uphold it.

If that makes some people uncomfortable, or say I’m being divisive so be it - this work isn’t about making anyone comfortable.

It’s about confronting abuse, wherever it lives.

Right now, politicians with credible allegations (and even convictions) of sexual abuse and coercive control are being elevated to power. This is a direct threat to women and children, and ignoring it only perpetuates harm.

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But I also want to be clear: we can’t tackle these issues on a personal level without calling out the systems that enable them. That includes churches, governments, and other institutions.
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Everything is political. If you’re here, you’re familiar with the abuse and coercive control I highlight in marriages/post-separation & divorce.

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This admin and its enablers lie when they tell you they are all about protecting children.

An attack on women’s access to paid work.

Screenshot of a post by @sawyerhackett responding to Trump’s announcement of nominating a man who violently abused his wife’s. Sawyer Hackett: “Trump just announced Sean Parnell as the chief Pentagon Spokesman. Parnell's wife testified under oath that he repeatedly choked her. He ultimately lost custody of his children.” Original announcement by Trump: “I am pleased to announce that Sean Parnell will be the Assistant to the Secretary of Defense for Public Affairs, and Chief Pentagon Spokesman. A Great American Patriot, Sean is a fearless Combat Veteran, who led one of the most decorated units in the Afghanistan War. He earned two Bronze Stars and a Purple Heart, while his platoon achieved an incredible record of eliminating over 350 enemy fighters. During my First Term, Sean was also instrumental helping pass the MISSION ACT, the BIGGEST VA Reform in History. Congratulations to Sean, his wonderful wife, and their five children!”

If you are in domestic abuse awareness and advocacy circles and support this admin, I have questions.

Tell Congress: Don’t Be Complicit in Trump’s Project 2025 Authoritarian Power Grab Send your message to your representatives now!

Trump and his cronies are waging a full-scale attack on our freedoms, rights, and humanity. We need members of Congress—in both parties—to fight back.

Tell your representatives: don't be complicit in Trump's tyranny.
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How To Plan & Prepare For Leaving An Abusive Marriage - The Divorce Alchemy Collective Learn how to plan and prepare for leaving an abusive marriage with practical steps for safety, support, and securing your future during this challenging time.

There are resources and organizations who can help you safely plan and leave.

In the meantime, this might help you get started divorcealchemycollective.com/how-to-plan-...

Hey US ladies:

Remember that Project 2025 and JD Vance want to end no-fault divorce.

That doesn’t sound like hyperbole anymore, does it?

Make plans to get out while you can.

*Ending it will be dangerous and disastrous for women in abusive marriages.

#coercivercontrol #domesticabuse

I joined the brilliant Sally Kenney on Deconstructing Rape to talk about how American universities have resisted gender equality--even as they convinced the general public to see them as beacons of liberalism leading the way.

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🙌🏻 I still say “coerced rape” but only to specific HOW it happened. The qualifier is a clarifier, just to drive home the exact behavior. So many people think certain types of rape don’t count. But at the end of the day the victim had the same experience however it happened.