Lane Smith 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🤘🏻🖤🔥

If you think I'm lucky that my family & friends respect that my kids & I don't celebrate Thanksgiving or Friendsgiving or any "justice" spin on a day of mourning for colonized/genocided people: it's not luck, it's honesty, communication & the boundaries necessary to still be in relationship with me.

Photo of Lane's chest only, plaid flannels held open to show a green T-shirt with white lettering that says "I will not quietly nor politely sit and make house within the depravity of this killing machine" (a reference to a quote from David Wojnarowicz) followed by "Freedom for Palestine!" (Shirt by Black Lodge Press)

Land Back.

Kids are so fun! 💗🫂

Thanks! We're at a "fancy" playground that's usually too crowded and overwhelming for us (me and my 5yo and 10yo).

Oh yes. I love food too, so they're only tiny by my standards 😅🐻

The comments are letting me know that I need to clarify: not liking turkey isn't the *reason* I don't celebrate Thanksgiving. Serving my favorite food in the world wouldn't make me celebrate Thanksgiving. Not liking turkey is a separate thing.

Now she's a little old lady who eats tiny meals & she's eating every bite of that turkey all by herself. I can totally believe she'll still be working on freezer bags of stew in February. (Me not liking turkey isn't the *reason* I don't celebrate Thanksgiving, that's a whole separate thing).

I mean, as a kid it didn't last months because a whole family was eating it, but even then, big pieces with gravy followed by a week of turkey sandwiches followed by a week or two of turkey stew was waaay too much for me.

I'm not celebrating Thanksgiving regardless of what's being eaten. 🤷🏼

Malibu Barbie with a cute bob and lavender facepaint

Brooklyn Barbie with a killer mohawk and purple facepaint

I didn't play with Barbies as a kid & neither did my brother & neither did my daughter, so I had no precedent to go by, but my youngest child just entered the "cutting Barbie's hair" phase and I was totally unprepared... for it to look this good??? ✂️

To be fair I was a very dedicated activist in general, involved in many different struggles that don't affect me directly (mainly antiracism) so it didn't seem "suspicious" at all! But I did permanently lose a huge swath of friends & family going hard against transphobia at the 'pussy hat' march.

Absolutely!! I am with you!

I could eat a lot more pierogi than turkey because they taste good, though!

She has a freezer 😂

Hers is a one-person household 😂

I'm pretty sure this was a conversation between two undiagnosed neurodivergent people, one who is the type who likes everything the same all the time and one who is the type who needs novelty all the time 😂

😂 Totally! Thank you so much! 💕

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ten years apart

(world's greatest "ally" at a 2015 TDOR march vs 8 months on T, November 2025)

💕 (don't tell me what to do 😝)

Mom: You're a horrible person.

Me: I know (both laughing 😂)

Fin

Mom: So I know you don't celebrate Thanksgiving, and you don't like turkey either, is that right?

Me: Yeah.

Mom: I'm trying to decide if I want to buy myself a turkey; I kind of like to cook one & then eat nothing but turkey leftovers for a few months.

Me: I know, that's WHY I don't like it.

Thank you, me too! 😄

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Thank you! I got a pretty good handle on my mental health out of necessity about a decade ago, enough to maintain stability, but now I'm in a place of getting to experience better things than just being stable/okay and it's awesome! I appreciate you! 🥰

Thank you Khasanti, and *likewise*!! 🥰💗🌟

Thank you, dear friend! 🫂🥰❤️

I'm happy y'all get to experience the fullness of me too! 😉😆 Thank you!! 💗💕

🥰❤️ Thank you!

Thanks!! 💖