Cellar Dweller

I’m not worried anymore, but once I was so I feel this

The future leftists want is a queer BDSM sex party filled with hot people and is well catered

The future fascists want is basically a circle jerk over a decomposing 1978 JC Penney’s underwear catalogue and there’s a single bottle of flat Mtn Dew that everyone has to share

(Taking notes and opening up my coin purse)

Looking very respectfully as a person trying to understand American football better

When I’m pleasantly surprised at the end of a date

Please do not call me that. Only my Dominant has my consent to do that.

I always add honey

Chamomile tea

Seriously, and no one to warm me up or to keep warm (I’m a natural space heater haha)

A woman with dark hair holding an owl mug on a bed. She’s wearing a gray shirt and black underwear and is sitting in butterfly position

A woman with dark hair bent over and drinking tea from a mug and wearing a black thong and a gray shirt

Still. Fucking. Cold

My type(s)?
- Women
- Ethereal enbies
- Men who can throw me through a wall

Leather subculture - Wikipedia

Regarding the gay history of kink and D/s or just D/s and BDSM in general? For the gay roots, I’d probably refer to texts like The Leatherman’s Handbook from the 1970s

However, the Wikipedia article about leather subculture has excellent resources in it

The vibe was very good that night and the club is always decently catered

He seemed content ngl

I mean at the clubs I’ve been at the single cishet guys just walk around. I even saw one sitting behind me while I was servicing my Dom. He was eating a sandwich and looking at his phone. All the queer people around us were chatting or doing scenes, and this dude was eating a sandwich and scrolling

I mean, because my Dom is a cis straight man and I’m a cis woman, we’ve been invited to swinger parties but we’ve declined because that’s not our scene at all
That sounds even more fucked up and soooo not my scene than I had imagined

Yeah I was about the say… I’ve never been to a club like that but I don’t hang in straight circles

I believe it. In the scene I’m in they have more stringent vetting standards for males, particularly cis male Dominants who aren’t known in the community. It sucks for young or newer male Doms, but there have been too many issues

They think it’s “too weird,” however it’s not lost on me that D/s and kink as we know it originated post WWII on gay and lesbian circles and swingers are painfully cis het. Not saying there’s a connection buuuut…

My Dom hates swingers a lot too. He dislikes how very cis het monogamish and transactional that entire scene is. Lots of conservatives exist there and they freak out when someone does anything kinky

Yup, it’s bad. Dungeons do monitor cis guys more. I’ve had a few instances where a male Dominant will come up to me and ask if I want to do a scene and when I refuse and they walk away, 9 times out of 10 a monitor will come up to me and check and see if the interaction was okay

Swingers are the worst honestly. I do love how they scatter when a seemingly vanilla scene becomes an intense BDSM scene

A Japanese woman looking disgusted with “Disgusted in Japanese” appearing below

Also, if anyone but him calls me “young lady,” they will get this look from me

And yes, I go to therapy with a kink/polyam/queer friendly therapist and my past issues with paternal figures are completely under control

Why yes, I’m a strong, independent woman with a 401k and an established career who melts every time my Dominant calls me “young lady”

Also, as a Domme in my past, I can confirm that subs and bottoms can be aggressive and even creepy. Dom/mes and tops have boundaries too. Don’t cross them, particularly if you don’t have consent. Treat any potential play partner like a human being first. Communicate like an adult on equal ground

Too many people are rushing to choke one another during a sex without understanding that cutting off blood flow to another person’s brain is extremely risky and the neck is more fragile than you think

I don’t wanna sound like some Old Guard gatekeeper, but BDSM has become more visible and with that comes issues, like people not practicing the core tenet of kink which is consent, or engaging in edge play (like breath play) without fully understanding the risks that go along with it

They absolutely haven’t. They are eager and inexperienced which can be a dangerous combo

I’ve heard horror stories from
tops and Dominants. There are too many people who still think that they want “anything done to them” when they’ve done no research about how to be a good bottom or sub. BDSM is about communication, consent and building trust. You can’t trust people with “no limits”