Talkest Thou To Me?

Big moment! This is like getting that treasured 7th McNugget in your 6-piece.

On which issues is Talarico more moderate than Crockett?

to one of mutual understanding.

The goal is to get this across:

"I'm sure you feel X about how I (look, sound, act, etc.) That's because I have Y, which causes Z. With that out of the way, and now that you know, let's try to have a mutually positive interaction."

condition and how it presents - and towards explaining and informing.

"I'm sorry for startling you" is replaced by "I understand you feel startled - that's because I have a condition that"

It also serves to properly balance responsibility such that an interaction shifts from one of "failure"

The focus of his response shouldn't even be "my actions caused", they should simply be "I have a condition that"

One of the most complex challenges in neurodivergent-affirming therapy is self-acceptance. And a big part of that is moving away from "pathological apologizing" - apologizing for one's

Oh, I see, that's where he "can" exist. I'm sure he appreciates your permission to exist there, you magnanimous prick.

esteem is learning to explain why one might present in a way that others find uncomfortable, moving away from the role of the 'perpetual offender' and toward a role of self-advocate.

If his statement today doesn't sound like an apology, that's because it - probably very consciously - isn't one.

primary and complex therapeutic challenge. After a lifetime of feeling "broken" or "bad", healing requires deconstructing 'pathological apologizing.' Affirming therapy encourages individuals to provide context for their actions rather than seeking forgiveness for them. A key step in building self-

Neurodivergent individuals live under intense pressure to apologize for their very existence and how their natural presentation affects others. This chronic shame often leads to significantly higher rates of depression, anxiety, and self-harm.
Consequently, fostering self-acceptance is a

Gross. Absolutely gross.

Unfollow.

Add Rush Limbaugh and Rupert Murdoch to that cocktail of hate, and yes - spot on re: the culprits

I really appreciate this TikToker with Tourette syndrome, Shay, for taking the time to educate so many of us (including me) about her disability and coprolalia in light of what happened at the BAFTAs with John Davidson when Michael B. Jordan and Delroy Lindo were on stage.

I learned a lot.

Why do I have to pretend that I'm going to print something in order to save it as a PDF. Why do I have to engage in a little ruse.

In this case, his choice is a) indefinitely stay at home in self-isolation or b) attempt to live a normal life interacting with other humans.

Not "judging bread competitions", you creep.

You're an absolute ghoul.

Except in this case, "flying this plane" is simply existing in public.

Totally fair. The BBC and BAFTAs completely failed in their response to the situation.

MBJ and Delroy underwent an extremely shocking and upsetting experience. A public acknowledgment by organizers of their ordeal (and professionalism and grace) was absolutely in order.

None of those are things we can do.

Nobody can apologize on anybody else's behalf. Nor can we control the BBC's broadcast or apologize for their failures to bleep.

Allow me to shut down the conversation more effectively, as the bad faith just oozes from your comments at this point.

Who takes "let's have compassion and empathy for everybody involved" and turns that into a bad thing?

Block.

Stop playing games and answer your own question, then.

What do you want us to do? Just say it. Do you want to see this person shamed and shunned? Answer the question.

What does it mean to "wax poetic about compassion and empathy" vs. "shrugging shoulders about compassion and empathy"?

How is compassion manifested in a situation such as this OTHER than through words?

If I say I feel compassion for someone, how is that different from "actually" doing so?

I believe that they did. IIRC, they provided the in-room audience with extensive disclaimers about the possibility for such outbursts during the show and asked for understanding.

The alternative that you're implying is that this person shouldn't have been allowed to attend. Correct?

such a failure.

Beyond that, I'm open to suggestions for what you think we should do. But if you're saying that we should shun and shame, or even physically harm this person (as I've seen called for in public forums), then we're simply not on the same wavelength.

I've not avoided it at all. I've answered your question - we should validate those feelings. You apparently don't think it's satisfactory. And that's OK too.

It should go without saying that BBC should've bleeped the outburst. There's zero excuse for why they didn't and they should apologies for

What would you do?

Banish them from society? Seek that they live the remainder of their life in shameful self-isolation?

I would ask that society treat this neurodivergent person as I would ask for any other: to understand and educate ourselves about their condition and create an environment that allows them to live as normal a life as possible, while also validating the difficulties it creates for those around them.

absolutely gives people the space and validation to express how they feel in a situation like this.

What it would not do is dehumanize the neurodivergent by asking them to remove themselves from it so that we don't have to deal with such feelings.

We CAN be compassionate for everyone involved.

The measure of empathy isn't what a person feels in a situation like this. A feeling is almost always valid, in the sense that it simply materializes without intention. It simply is.

The way these outbursts make people feel is not just valid, but understandable. And yes, a compassionate society

A compassionate society makes room for both truths without dehumanizing. If there is shame to be doled out here, it's on those who can control their reactions to this, but choose intemperance and inflammation.