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Less enmeshed =/= no deep commitment. Where I'm disagreeing with you is the idea that in order to take care of each other and have community, you must follow the relationship escalator and live/share finances with a romantic partner. I understand your stance, I just think it's wrong.

I'm not sure you know what your points are, considering this is what you said a couple replies ago. Do you agree with that statement, or does solo polyamory mean no deep commitments (which is contradicted by the article you just provided)?

That doesn't really square with your assertion of "no deep commitment".

This is from the second paragraph of the VICE article: "This type of polyamory “is often mistaken to mean only casual relationships, however, people who practice solo poly may have very deep and committed relationships that are simply less enmeshed than is conventionally expected.”

I do. But you aren't providing your sources, and in my almost twenty years of practicing polyamory, that has never been a definition anyone I've met who is solo poly uses to describe themselves or their relationship style.

If your point was that everyone has internalized ableism because we live in a world with systemic barriers for disabled people, you didn't need a whole article to say that. Your argument doesn't make sense, and your rebuttals don't actually address anything anyone has said to refute them.

To be frank, all your arguments are structured on a very monogamous framework, so I'm not sure why you wrote that article - the arguments posed within are faulty at best and seem to stem entirely from you being upset that someone said you couldn't call yourself solo poly.

Why do you think interdependence requires living together and/or marriage? Do you think single people don't have community? Do you think solo poly people don't have deep, committed relationships? Commitment looks different to everybody. Not everyone wants a romantic relationship. Or to cohabitate.

1. Labels mean things. That is why we have them.
2. Living alone/with people other than a romantic partner =/= "being untethered". Why is a poly person saying you can't have real community unless your relationships look like mono ones.
3. Why are you relitigating an article you wrote in 2016?

Also has the distinction of being the first book in a long time to make me physically nauseous (complimentary).

Finally read @scumbelievable.bsky.social 's BLACK FLAME, by which I mean I tore through it in one sitting and had to stare at a wall for ten minutes afterwards. This one's something special. Long live transgressive art. May we carry on for those of us who didn't make it.

looking back on the cartoons and children’s media that mattered to me when I was young, I say this with absolutely zero irony: I think we need to start scaring the shit out of kids again

Having just watched Cure for the first time last night - yeah.

Also, while we're gatekeeping, you can't be a relationship anarchist and be married - RA means you don't center any one relationship as more important than the others. Marriage is inherently hierarchical. Idk I just think we should know what labels mean before using them.

Solo polyamory is about not wanting to hit traditional entanglements with partners. You can have roommates and be solo poly. You can combine finances with a friend or family and be solo poly. Ironically, OP is centering mononormative ways of thinking in this article.

My favorite internet thing is when someone opens with "I can’t imagine a world where what I am about to say isn’t controversial, but" and proceeds to say something wildly out of left field. What are you talking about.

Maybe this is the scientist in me speaking, but your creative and personal writing will always be better when you actively engage with surrounding literature in your work.

Not seeing much on Bluesky vs Twitter but St. Elizabeth parish in Jamaica is devastated after Hurricane Melissa made landfall there yesterday.

This is the government’s official support site, which is quite well organized.

Comic panel of a skeleton gardening in a large pumpkin field at night and singing "Happy boy, happy boy. I am a very happy boy. Look at all my beautiful pumpkins".

Not long to wait now 🎃💀🎶

You've probably seen these, but:
The Devils (1971)
Possession
MadS
Natural Enemy
Mysterious Skin
The Sweet Hereafter
The Virgin Spring
Red Rooms
The Devil's Bath

Not all horror but they all made me feel real fuckin' bad, so--

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weevil-faced little bug person in a cloak. hood down, hood up.

shouldn't post him, but

Let's try something new.

If you donate to a food bank and tell me how much and which one, I'll match your donation.

If it's less than $50, I'll round up.

Tag me, reply here, or DM if you prefer.

Why food banks? Because if we want to survive a general strike, we need to keep people fed.

It's probably good I didn't somehow watch this when I was fourteen and questioning Catholicism. Probably.

Finally watched The Devils (1971) to distract from my agonies and it fundamentally altered something in my brain. I haven't stopped thinking about it for the last four days.

Very loose list of inspirations, since I've been working on it for a couple of years and it's evolved over time. Other inspiration includes: the fucked-up deer and ancient woods that populate folklore, the fall of Roe v Wade, Gothic romances, and weirdly, Drops of God.

Current WIP takes inspiration from Goethe's "Erlkönig", Gretchen Felker-Martin's books Manhunt and Cuckoo, the body horror that found in various werewolf and cannibalism tales (it isn't about werewolves though), and the violent, toxic desire of movies like FEMME and STRANGER BY THE LAKE.

Relatedly, having done my time in the trenches, I think the "fanfic > tradpub romance/SFF" pipeline has a lot to do with the culture shift, e.g. the "it's actually a crime to critique my writing" mentality in fanfic spaces has bled over strongly into tradpub spaces, but that's another thread.

And as much as I value great editors, not all editors are created equal. Nor can they force the writer to accept their suggestions! Editors going back to emphasis on line edits doesn't mean much to a writer convinced of their own genius, or one who melts down at even the mildest critique.