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Father, husband, feminist, ally, blogger, lifelong geek. Always sarcastic, imperfect, and too cheeky for his own good. 🏴󠁧󠁒󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 He/him.

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Saying goodbye toΒ Alan I wrote this a few months ago, I had planned on posting it but never did. I think, if I'm being honest, I was just done with funerals and death and dark questions around WHY certain people died. Alan's funeral was on 30th June this year. But I realise now that I should still share it, because the more we talk about grief, the more we can bring it out into the light and make it less scary, it might help us all cope a little easier from day to day.

Saying goodbye toΒ Alan

I wrote this a few months ago, I had planned on posting it but never did. I think, if I'm being honest, I was just done with funerals and death and dark questions around WHY certain people died. Alan's funeral was on 30th June this year. But I realise now that I should still…

06.11.2025 11:39 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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What kind ofΒ man? As a chronic over thinker (much of which I've inflicted on you here, dear reader) it's fair to say that how to be a good father and how to set a good example to my son, are major topics in my brain on any given day. I replay moments wondering how to do better next time, I store away the successes with the hope I can repeat them and embed the behaviours.

What kind ofΒ man?

As a chronic over thinker (much of which I've inflicted on you here, dear reader) it's fair to say that how to be a good father and how to set a good example to my son, are major topics in my brain on any given day. I replay moments wondering how to do better next time, I store…

05.11.2025 10:13 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Systemised Unspending Many years ago I downsized where I lived, I got rid (sold/donated/trashed) a lot of stuff and, for the most part, I've not missed any of it. Since then I've built up more stuff again but with a slightly different slant and I'm confident that I don't have the same volume, and the things I do have are better considered and, because I'm a geek, I've got my own little 'system' to help me maintain this moving forward.

Systemised Unspending

Many years ago I downsized where I lived, I got rid (sold/donated/trashed) a lot of stuff and, for the most part, I've not missed any of it. Since then I've built up more stuff again but with a slightly different slant and I'm confident that I don't have the same volume, and…

15.10.2025 07:15 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Jack is Four So much I could say here; Β four years since he arrived, so many milestones passed in this last year alone. I could write about how well he's doing, how much I love him (more than I ever thought possible), and how much of a cheeky chops he is turning out to be (which shocks no-one less than his parents, trust me!).

Jack is Four

So much I could say here; Β four years since he arrived, so many milestones passed in this last year alone. I could write about how well he's doing, how much I love him (more than I ever thought possible), and how much of a cheeky chops he is turning out to be (which shocks no-one less…

09.10.2025 09:36 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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The shape ofΒ grief It would've been my Dad's birthday yesterday, he would've been 79. I didn't post about it yesterday, more by happenstance than planning, but I did think about him and one thing struck me. I think more about my Dad on any given day than I do about my Mum or my sister. Now, I'm not attributing scores nor logging time spent or any other quantifiable means for this but it only really struck me last night.

The shape ofΒ grief

It would've been my Dad's birthday yesterday, he would've been 79. I didn't post about it yesterday, more by happenstance than planning, but I did think about him and one thing struck me. I think more about my Dad on any given day than I do about my Mum or my sister. Now, I'm…

30.09.2025 07:47 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Between I am not currently employed. I will be again soon, and I'm excited to start a fresh at a new place but, for now, I am a man of leisure. It does not suite me. I feel somewhat conflicted most days of how to spend my time and I entirely blame my parents for this. My Dad was a do-er, a project guy, always something to do be they household chores, or home and garden improvements, there was always something to do.

Between

I am not currently employed. I will be again soon, and I'm excited to start a fresh at a new place but, for now, I am a man of leisure. It does not suite me. I feel somewhat conflicted most days of how to spend my time and I entirely blame my parents for this. My Dad was a do-er, a project…

12.09.2025 13:59 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0
Missing Mumsie It all started with The Crystal Maze on Channel 4. It was 1990, and we only had four TV channels to choose from and The Crystal Maze was a fun game show. In it, the host (Richard O'Brien) would take the contestants through different zones, and they'd have to partake in different categories of games; Mental, Mystery, Physical, or Skill. One of the zones (Medieval I think) took the contestants to a fortune teller who would give them a brain teaser to solve, Richard O'Brien referred to this fortune teller as Mumsie.

Missing Mumsie

It all started with The Crystal Maze on Channel 4. It was 1990, and we only had four TV channels to choose from and The Crystal Maze was a fun game show. In it, the host (Richard O'Brien) would take the contestants through different zones, and they'd have to partake in different…

03.09.2025 11:46 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Missing Mums It all started with The Crystal Maze on Channel 4. It was 1990, and we only had four TV channels to choose from and The Crystal Maze was a fun game show. In it, the host (Richard O'Brien) would take the contestants through different zones, and they'd have to partake in different categories of games; Mental, Mystery, Physical, or Skill. One of the zones (Medieval I think) took the contestants to a fortune teller who would give them a brain teaser to solve, Richard O'Brien referred to this fortune teller as Mumsie.

Missing Mums

It all started with The Crystal Maze on Channel 4. It was 1990, and we only had four TV channels to choose from and The Crystal Maze was a fun game show. In it, the host (Richard O'Brien) would take the contestants through different zones, and they'd have to partake in different…

03.09.2025 11:44 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Paying Attention My son has never known a world without mobile phones, without screens lighting up, without his Mum and Dad using them on and off throughout the day. For me, notifications are still something I view as an interruption, an annoyance. Notifications are something that I tolerate to allow me to have a tiny computer on hand for whatever task or information I need, but it's something I remember living without, my childhood was blissfully screen and technology free (ahhh hindsight is a wonderful thing).

Paying Attention

My son has never known a world without mobile phones, without screens lighting up, without his Mum and Dad using them on and off throughout the day. For me, notifications are still something I view as an interruption, an annoyance. Notifications are something that I tolerate to…

27.08.2025 13:40 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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The Morbid Truth I will consider myself lucky if I see my son reach the age of 35. That's 33 years away and by that point I'll be 83. I will consider myself lucky if I see my son reach the age of 30. That's 28 years away and by that point I'll be 78. I say this purely because my Dad died when he was 73, Mum made it to 78 (including 13 years post stroke).

The Morbid Truth

I will consider myself lucky if I see my son reach the age of 35. That's 33 years away and by that point I'll be 83. I will consider myself lucky if I see my son reach the age of 30. That's 28 years away and by that point I'll be 78. I say this purely because my Dad died when he…

31.07.2025 12:05 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Time to move Well, not right now, but sometime in the next few years at least. Maybe... probably... I dunno, I've given up trying to plan too much too far ahead so let's call this future dreams that we hope will come true (note: a lot of this is, in reality, grounded in boring things like money but I'm ignoring that for the purposes of this post).

Time to move

Well, not right now, but sometime in the next few years at least. Maybe... probably... I dunno, I've given up trying to plan too much too far ahead so let's call this future dreams that we hope will come true (note: a lot of this is, in reality, grounded in boring things like money…

17.07.2025 07:01 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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My Mac AppsΒ 2025 I'm getting a new MacBook Air soon (likely a 15" model in Sky Blue) and I think I'm gonna do for a clean install. I use iCloud for Documents, almost entirely use default Mac Apps these days anyway, so I'm intrigued to see what I 'bring with me' in terms of apps. The list below is one I've maintained and updated over the past few years, it's slowly whittling down (

My Mac AppsΒ 2025

I'm getting a new MacBook Air soon (likely a 15" model in Sky Blue) and I think I'm gonna do for a clean install. I use iCloud for Documents, almost entirely use default Mac Apps these days anyway, so I'm intrigued to see what I 'bring with me' in terms of apps. The list below is…

25.06.2025 08:37 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Songs that last Both my parents were musicians, my Dad played guitar and banjo (and one appeared in his folk band on the same bill as The Corries), my Mum played the piano, both sang in local and national choirs; vague recollections of my Uncle conducting them both in Paisley Cathedral for a performance of Handel's Messiah, a piece that still evokes rich memories.

Songs that last

Both my parents were musicians, my Dad played guitar and banjo (and one appeared in his folk band on the same bill as The Corries), my Mum played the piano, both sang in local and national choirs; vague recollections of my Uncle conducting them both in Paisley Cathedral for a…

19.06.2025 08:24 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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26 years andΒ counting My appetite for writing down my thoughts continues unabashed. Admittedly a lot of what I've been writing about recently has been very private, given the utter shit life has thrown our way through October last year to even the last couple of weeks of this year but, as it does, things are levelling out. I'm being oblique for good reason, just as I haven't gone into great depth about my sisters sudden death because her daughters may read this (well her oldest, her youngest is only 4) nor have I really talked about the circumstances surrounding my Mum's sudden death, this isn't the place (nor is it my place) for such details because, at this point, the details are pointless and don't change what has happened.

26 years andΒ counting

My appetite for writing down my thoughts continues unabashed. Admittedly a lot of what I've been writing about recently has been very private, given the utter shit life has thrown our way through October last year to even the last couple of weeks of this year but, as it does,…

16.06.2025 11:54 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

We’ve just had some hail. It’s 25th May FFS. Welcome to Scotland!!

25.05.2025 19:38 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

WHO YOU CALLIN WEIRD AND AGGRESSIVE!!

but yeah, totally agree, self-censoring is crucial for me too.

I have a very small group of topics and people I really care about discussing here, the rest is noise.

And that’s ok.

25.05.2025 19:37 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Prepping bike for first ride in… checks Strava… 9th May 2024.

It will be short and gentle, gotta start somewhere!

25.05.2025 13:27 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Yesterday my small maltipoo was savaged in an unprovoked attack by an Alsatian that was being walked off lead. It was horrific. She has survived but is very unwell and is in emergency care requiring an operation. I don’t know how many times this has to be said. Put your fucking dog on a lead.

25.05.2025 10:17 β€” πŸ‘ 435    πŸ” 37    πŸ’¬ 51    πŸ“Œ 1

Depends on the org, big overlap for sure but the analysis part is probably the key. Plus I’d tend to say PO have more responsibility, whereas BA always differ (guide!) to the business users

25.05.2025 11:54 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Vera went toΒ Mull Back from a glorious week on the beautiful island of Mull, part of the Inner Hebrides, a three hour drive punctuated with a 45 min ferry crossing. It's our second holiday here with family, the first was in 2022 with a very young boy, a big tent, a night in an Air-BnB, and a night in Tobermory Hotel. That year I was supposed to be taking part in a cycling event on Mull but I underestimated the amount of training I'd miss with a young baby keeping us busy so I ditched that and we just noodled around the island for a few days before heading to the campsite.

Vera went toΒ Mull

Back from a glorious week on the beautiful island of Mull, part of the Inner Hebrides, a three hour drive punctuated with a 45 min ferry crossing. It's our second holiday here with family, the first was in 2022 with a very young boy, a big tent, a night in an Air-BnB, and a night…

25.05.2025 10:49 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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The Accidental BA I wrote this piece for the BA Digest, replicating here for posterity. I wasn't always a Business Analyst. I started my working life as a technical administrator; essentially a technical dogsbody for a small I.T. firm, a bit of database work here, a bit of user documentation there, and it was the latter that took me into the world of Technical Communications.

The Accidental BA

I wrote this piece for the BA Digest, replicating here for posterity. I wasn't always a Business Analyst. I started my working life as a technical administrator; essentially a technical dogsbody for a small I.T. firm, a bit of database work here, a bit of user documentation…

13.05.2025 12:10 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 1    πŸ“Œ 0

Australia and Canada gave you the blueprints.

Be better Labour.

08.05.2025 05:15 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I’ve been lightly productive these past couple of weeks. Nothing big, just getting a lot of little things done, it feels good. Not from a β€œproductivity” angle, more a sense of satisfaction that I am able to do them.

Wait, is this gratitude??

08.05.2025 05:14 β€” πŸ‘ 0    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Get him to the Lakers! (God, can you imagine??)

01.05.2025 12:04 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

Now I want fig rolls.

28.04.2025 20:25 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Hundreds of Free Images From Studio Ghibli Films Well this is just wonderful: Studio Ghibli has uploaded hundreds of high-resolution still images from almost all of their films, including all of the major ones: Princess Mononoke, Sprited Away, M

Studio Ghibli has uploaded hundreds of beautiful still images from almost all of their films, including all of the major ones. These individual artworks are free to download β€œby individual fans to further enjoy Studio Ghibli films”. [kottke.org]

28.04.2025 20:06 β€” πŸ‘ 800    πŸ” 329    πŸ’¬ 11    πŸ“Œ 50

Not quite found the right people here yet. I mean everyone I have followed is good but my feed isn’t quite what I get on Threads (diff followers and algo too I know).

Gonna keep plugging away here though!

28.04.2025 16:45 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

I hear an old man who had been ill died and we have to wait two weeks or so until his successor is announced.

OK, I've done my 'pope' update, can I go thinking about something else now?

23.04.2025 14:34 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

And thid is why I can’t get the M&S pistachio Easter egg.

Fuckin TikTok! πŸ˜‚

19.04.2025 07:18 β€” πŸ‘ 1    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0
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Clearing Out I've been a bit more active on social media recently, mostly as a way to share thoughts as I go through a variety of processes that all kinda suck but all need done, you know the type, all the adulting paperwork stuff that you just plough through because you have to. The current focus, and likely the last thing I'll need to deal with, has been getting my parents flat ready to go on the market (having got probate granted a couple of weeks ago).

Clearing Out

I've been a bit more active on social media recently, mostly as a way to share thoughts as I go through a variety of processes that all kinda suck but all need done, you know the type, all the adulting paperwork stuff that you just plough through because you have to. The current…

17.04.2025 08:49 β€” πŸ‘ 2    πŸ” 0    πŸ’¬ 0    πŸ“Œ 0

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